Are you confident? I don't think so. I think I'm strong and a lot of people mistake this for confidence [as I once did.] I won't wuss out of difficult social situations... I've got some definite internal courage... however, there's always this niggling insecurity within me. I don't let it dictate my life... I'll still stand up and make that fucking speech, although I'm shaking like a leaf. And I'll do it again and again and again and again. I'll volunteer myself each of these times and I'll hate it each of these times.
Do you fake it? No, not really. If I'm drunk I might be acting all bravado but other than that... I act in accordance to how I feel. People seem to think I'm really intimidating... but I doubt it has anything to do with me faking confidence... since I prefer to observe in most [especially larger] social situations [ie. I'm quiet.] Larger social gatherings seem to do my head in... I normally can't believe the things I'm hearing from intelligent individuals, when they're in a group setting.
To quote Nietzche: "In individuals insanity is rare; but in groups, parties, nations and epochs, it is the rule."
I think if most people detached to hear what was going on around them and what they were saying, they'd question themselves before speaking too
.
Can you pick the fakers? Absolutely. That would be just about everyone, thank you sir. Pretty much anyone I can think of has some insecurity that, no matter how hard they try to hide it, it shows up. Of course, the extremes differ from mild to extreme. Also, a lot of people seem to mistake being extraverted and sociable with true confidence.
NOT TRUE.
Do you think confident people are more attractive, or do they lose their charm? I think true confidence is the step before self-actualization. I think true confidence is a lot rarer than people make out. However, yes, I do find these people attractive. That said, I often find people who consider themselves confident because they're loud - unattractive. I prefer the company of people I consider to be
wise... and these people could be hermits, or they could be the life of the party. It's irrelevant to me, really
.
Is your mum free for dinner tonight? Yes, but she's useless. She'll never think it's her turn to cook. And she'll probably be late, because she prefers to to spend her time after work - at work.
What situations shake your confidence? Similar to Raz. Just hanging out with people who don't appear, at the surface, to
appreciate any way of life other than their own [which is generally a mediocre, typical existence... virtually straight from the book "how to live your life"]