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Going to a low self esteem group, what will it be like?

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It's once a week on a Wednesday, I've got another five sessions to go to. I have a feeling I may get this job that I've applied for though. Then I won't be able to go again. Before we all had to fill in a questionnaire about how we were feeling over the past two weeks.

As I scored quite low the woman who ran the group phoned me the other day, as she was quite concerned with the question that asked "Have you felt like ending your life over the past two weeks" and I answered yes.

She asked me on the phone about self harming as I will occasionally cut myself when I'm feeling stressed. I didn't mention about drug use though over the phone though as I didn't feel comfortable. I'll tend to use MXE about 3-4 times a week and I know myself that I should cut down on it, or stop all together.
 
lynx2051 said:
^^^ Could you give me an example of a social situation which you felt very uncomfortable in. For me most social situations I don't enjoy, but some I have no problem with, here is an example:

Say if I was asked to go for a job interview I'd have absolutely no problem talking with the interviewer, probably because it's only one person. I'm actually very good a job interviews, but I know a lot of people get nervous.

So say for example I got the job, and I met my work colleagues I would put this false act on, and pretend I'm talkative. Then after a few days I'll get back to my old shy self and not talk with anyone.

It's like I'm only shy when I've been around the person for over a week. But on first impression, I come across as quite confident.

Then because I'm quiet in a job, I'll get the impression that people think I'm dull and boring, like I am different to them and they won't like my real self. People have even said to me at school, college and in work places "Why are you so quiet".

So its like I have social phobia once I've got to know the person/people.


Edit: I don't really suffer from depression anymore like I used to, just low self esteem and social phobia.
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Sounds like me. Hah. I always try to fake my first impression on people. Like i'm a talkative person and then once i get to know people i just keep to myself. Idk.. guess i just like keeping to myself. But when im out in public i try to act like im happy and try to talk to people.. but in the long run im just really shy and quiet -_- kinda hate it but i dont really like putting myself out there for people... idk. I used to use drugs so i can be more open and social but now that i'm clean it seems like its worse than before :|
 
lynx2051 said:
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It's once a week on a Wednesday, I've got another five sessions to go to. I have a feeling I may get this job that I've applied for though. Then I won't be able to go again. Before we all had to fill in a questionnaire about how we were feeling over the past two weeks.

As I scored quite low the woman who ran the group phoned me the other day, as she was quite concerned with the question that asked "Have you felt like ending your life over the past two weeks" and I answered yes.

She asked me on the phone about self harming as I will occasionally cut myself when I'm feeling stressed. I didn't mention about drug use though over the phone though as I didn't feel comfortable. I'll tend to use MXE about 3-4 times a week and I know myself that I should cut down on it, or stop all together.
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Is there any way you'd still be able to stay in contact with them if you got the job? This seems like something you should try to go to as you don't seem like you're in a very good position at the moment, and hopefully this can give you the support you need to quit cutting and pull away from MXE.
 
well, picking up a girl might be easy? just kidding haha. i know how u feel, just go to it. Odds are people will be more talkative than you and break the ice. Maybe while you wait for it to start, introduce yourself to one person just for the hell of it. and cute girls, talk to them. good luck
 
Well I got the job anyway, which is great. Hopefully I will be able to have Wednesday as my day off or I'll have to leave the final three sessions.
 
I hope that you do get Wednesdays off, but if you don't, I think Badfish' idea about trying to keep in contact with one or two people would be a great idea. You could use wanting to keep up with the subject matter class as an opening in getting a phone number or two.:)
 
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