Lucky$trike
Bluelighter
trancegirle said:I don't blame not having a father figure in my life for my issues. I had a terrible upbringing but to use that as an excuse well, in my mind that would be a cop out. And how could i move forward if i just accepted that?
Could they have contributed to issues i have, sure? But what about people with those same issues who came from a perfectly stable family? What do they have to blame?
Life isn't about living by the examples you see, life is about living how you choose to, and making the most of the tools you are given.
Sorry my post kind of sounds cold when i can really actually relate to youand this is something i have thought before to come to the conclusion i have. I would seek therapy, it's done wonders for me and i think i'm silly for not putting my pride aside and doing it sooner.
In therapy i'm in he doesn't focus on the past or label me with disorders, i'm just learning how to move forward with my life in the best way i can.
Yeah, I was in therapy but the last therapist had this interesting way of using up our sessions. He did this thing called EMDR and it was the most ridiculous thing I ever had to do. It wasn't for anything that had to do with growing up without a father, it was mostly because of being sexually abused when I was 16 and I had PTSD.
But anyway, he would basically make me think of something that hurt me or bothered me. He would make me think of that particular thing over and over again while he tapped on my knees for a set amount of time. I had a "safe place" in my head to go and a "garbage can" to throw away all the bad memories. I just thought this was crazy....how can tapping on my knees make any trauma in my life disappear?
I tried it for a few more sessions and I finally gave up on the therapist after I told him I didn't like it and he insisted that we continued. So, I just stopped going. I was just really beginning to dislike going to therapy. I would like to start going again, but I would much rather have someone to talk to rather than be someone to try all these crazy experiments on
