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girlfriend wants to commit suicide
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panic in paradise
Bluelighter
man
this is no good, period.
especially while you are getting clean.
relationships at the start(3-6months) of sobriety can be a landslide, and for two people leaving that life. its almost not fair for either whom may ignore themselves and needs, appear selfish and disconnected, or, find excuses in each other to use.
focus on yourself, no matter what happens you will need to be on your game.
she possibly may of wanted to see how you would react, wanting a fleeting show of affection she is missing in life... and it sounds in herself, which needs to be awoken, on her own terms, before anything else will work for long in a relationship, at least.
being "terrified" of her actions and reactions, is only diverting you from yours.
stay focused on what you are doing there.
this is no good, period.
especially while you are getting clean.
relationships at the start(3-6months) of sobriety can be a landslide, and for two people leaving that life. its almost not fair for either whom may ignore themselves and needs, appear selfish and disconnected, or, find excuses in each other to use.
focus on yourself, no matter what happens you will need to be on your game.
she possibly may of wanted to see how you would react, wanting a fleeting show of affection she is missing in life... and it sounds in herself, which needs to be awoken, on her own terms, before anything else will work for long in a relationship, at least.
being "terrified" of her actions and reactions, is only diverting you from yours.
stay focused on what you are doing there.
panic in paradise
Bluelighter
bump
She didn't do this toward you at all, please dont feel responsible. Chances are she is really feeling bad about herself and her self Esteem is barely there(This has no bearing on you at all, nor can you change this in her!). It is near imposible to have a productive relationship with someone who thinks nothing of themselves/doesnt even understad themselves(not meaning to sound callous but how can you possibly share any feelings with someone, romantically, when they/you are preoccupied with your own 'demons'/issues/self hatred/etc).
Obviously your feelings are very strong for her and that is nothing to be scoffed at(as are her's); they are genuine, however if she is not in a place where she can be there for you and without you feeling threatened; offering you the oppertunity to experience some emotional security... then I would be wary about the reason and Question:- why I am planting my emotions with someone who appears so emotionally unstable?
It is something to mull over in yourself...
Maybe she is a distraction for/from yourself...?
Maybe your trying to understand someone elses pain in lieu of your own?...who knows!
At the end of the day, it's the questions about your own self that hold more meaning and can give you answers, thats all that is really important and thats more under your control right now.
Please focus on yourself ATM, am sure she is focusing on her own issues for good/bad and you have nothing to do with them.
Take care of you pet, try not to distract yourself with anyone's(no matter how infatuated/besotted you are) problems. It doesnt solve anything(Have been in that situation myself and it is futile). Thats a Fact. Look after yourself first.
Obviously your feelings are very strong for her and that is nothing to be scoffed at(as are her's); they are genuine, however if she is not in a place where she can be there for you and without you feeling threatened; offering you the oppertunity to experience some emotional security... then I would be wary about the reason and Question:- why I am planting my emotions with someone who appears so emotionally unstable?
It is something to mull over in yourself...
Maybe she is a distraction for/from yourself...?
Maybe your trying to understand someone elses pain in lieu of your own?...who knows!
At the end of the day, it's the questions about your own self that hold more meaning and can give you answers, thats all that is really important and thats more under your control right now.
Please focus on yourself ATM, am sure she is focusing on her own issues for good/bad and you have nothing to do with them.
Take care of you pet, try not to distract yourself with anyone's(no matter how infatuated/besotted you are) problems. It doesnt solve anything(Have been in that situation myself and it is futile). Thats a Fact. Look after yourself first.