She is bi and wants a threesome with one of her girlfriends I barely know. This girl introduced my girlfriend to the world of BDSM and is somewhat too openly sexual for my liking; I'm very private with my sexuality, she's very promiscuous and loose. I'm not passing a moral judgement here; just noting the difference in our personality.
Now I've never been in much doubt that I satisfy my woman sexually. Not to brag, but I give her hair pulling, leg shaking oral orgasms and penile ones; I listen carefully and attentively to her fantasies and do my best to fulfill them; I ask her often how she found a sex session went, especially if we tried something spontaneous and new or if if things got a little rough. But I've always had an inkling in the back of my mind that my penis and masculinity could never fully satisfy her and she'd always have a craving for the female touch and finesse.
Well, now I feel like that gut instinct has been vindicated; she suggested to me earlier today, with some keenness, that we have a threesome with one of her friends; a girl I've met few times and barely know; a girl I find sexually attractive, but don't trust, as I don't trust anyone readily when it comes to sex (I've always been a very private person with my sexuality; again, personal disposition.)
To complicate matters further, my girlfriend and I have been engaging in a predominantly D/S relationship for most of the time we've been together. Now while this is only sexual role play and I know I don't ACTUALLY own her, the idea of giving her up to another person physically hurts.
Two people build an intense bond when they've been in a D/S relationship for a while; I think the only way I could handle a threesome is if both my gf and her friend submit to me.
I would become far too jealous and angry to see someone, male or female, use my slave in a way I disapproved of.
I'm glad I wrote this blog, as it's helped me clear up my thoughts surrounding the whole situation a bit.
Yes, that's where I stand. The threesome can take place ONLY if I am in command. This won't be a problem for my girlfriend, and I don't think for her friend either (she's a switch.)
Hey, I actually feel less confused and emotionally distraught now. Typing this all out has, in real time, helped me identify my boundaries.
Cool.
If anyone's interested I'll let them know how things turn out.
Now I've never been in much doubt that I satisfy my woman sexually. Not to brag, but I give her hair pulling, leg shaking oral orgasms and penile ones; I listen carefully and attentively to her fantasies and do my best to fulfill them; I ask her often how she found a sex session went, especially if we tried something spontaneous and new or if if things got a little rough. But I've always had an inkling in the back of my mind that my penis and masculinity could never fully satisfy her and she'd always have a craving for the female touch and finesse.
Well, now I feel like that gut instinct has been vindicated; she suggested to me earlier today, with some keenness, that we have a threesome with one of her friends; a girl I've met few times and barely know; a girl I find sexually attractive, but don't trust, as I don't trust anyone readily when it comes to sex (I've always been a very private person with my sexuality; again, personal disposition.)
To complicate matters further, my girlfriend and I have been engaging in a predominantly D/S relationship for most of the time we've been together. Now while this is only sexual role play and I know I don't ACTUALLY own her, the idea of giving her up to another person physically hurts.
Two people build an intense bond when they've been in a D/S relationship for a while; I think the only way I could handle a threesome is if both my gf and her friend submit to me.
I would become far too jealous and angry to see someone, male or female, use my slave in a way I disapproved of.
I'm glad I wrote this blog, as it's helped me clear up my thoughts surrounding the whole situation a bit.
Yes, that's where I stand. The threesome can take place ONLY if I am in command. This won't be a problem for my girlfriend, and I don't think for her friend either (she's a switch.)
Hey, I actually feel less confused and emotionally distraught now. Typing this all out has, in real time, helped me identify my boundaries.
Cool.
If anyone's interested I'll let them know how things turn out.