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Girlfriend/Best Friend - I really don't know what to do!

ChemicallyEnhanced

ChemicallyEnhanced

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I definitely love my girlfriend, she is awesome...but I think I'm in love with my (gay) best friend.
I feel extremely confused/conflicted about what to do.
I haven't gone as far as sex yet, but have made out with both of them several times.
Any advice?
 
If i read that right and your gay in my opinion its unfair to her if your gay and dating her. Not to mention if your gay you cant just keep on dating her. Your body wants what it wants and youll never be satisfied. That sounds miserable.
 
d1nach said:
If i read that right and your gay in my opinion its unfair to her if your gay and dating her. Not to mention if your gay you cant just keep on dating her. Your body wants what it wants and youll never be satisfied. That sounds miserable.
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His best friend could be a girl (who happens to be gay). Could go both ways xD
 
If hes in love with a gay girl unfortunately hes kinda out of luck. But, if shes gay why is she making out with him? Is she bisexual?
 
Pretty sure he's bi. Either way you owe it to your gf to not cheat on her op. Either break it off with her or quit seeing your friend unless it's strictly as a friend which doesn't sound likely.
 
He's a guy and I guess that does make me bisexual :/
But I love them both equally. My best friend has always known about my girlfriend and is fine with it. My girlfriend knows best friend is in love with me and that we've kissed (she asked me directly and I don't lie). She was a combination of crushed and pissed off. She's mostly over it now but is still a little chilly with best friend (the three of us do everything together...except sex...not gonna lie, I sometimes fantasize about a threesome with them).
Is it possible to be equally in love with two people at the same time? I wish we could just be like a "thruple". My best friend is way better looking than me so maybe gf won't mind? Best friend is not into girls at all, so maybe I can be middle-man? lol.
I'd say sexually I'm into my girlfriend the most, but romantically I'm more into my best friend. I'd call it a bromance but I think full-on-making out crosses that boundary.
 
Why do you think your gf wouldn't mind when you said she was crushed and pissed off when you told her you kissed him? Obviously she does care.
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
He's a guy and I guess that does make me bisexual :/
But I love them both equally. My best friend has always known about my girlfriend and is fine with it. My girlfriend knows best friend is in love with me and that we've kissed (she asked me directly and I don't lie). She was a combination of crushed and pissed off. She's mostly over it now but is still a little chilly with best friend (the three of us do everything together...except sex...not gonna lie, I sometimes fantasize about a threesome with them).
Is it possible to be equally in love with two people at the same time? I wish we could just be like a "thruple". My best friend is way better looking than me so maybe gf won't mind? Best friend is not into girls at all, so maybe I can be middle-man? lol.
I'd say sexually I'm into my girlfriend the most, but romantically I'm more into my best friend. I'd call it a bromance but I think full-on-making out crosses that boundary.
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Oh it's definitely possible to be in love with more than one person, no doubt at all. Whether you are 'in love' with either or both of them is a different matter!

This however most definitely does not sound like a good threeway scenario. Your gf isn't into it and neither will your mate by seemingly - and you do not sound at all ready for the emotional complexity that situation would probably bring either, with all due respect
 
ageingpartyfiend said:
Oh it's definitely possible to be in love with more than one person, no doubt at all. Whether you are 'in love' with either or both of them is a different matter!

This however most definitely does not sound like a good threeway scenario. Your gf isn't into it and neither will your mate by seemingly - and you do not sound at all ready for the emotional complexity that situation would probably bring either, with all due respect
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Typical. I go my whole life and all I really want is a person who loves me and who I love back. Now, I suddenly get two and it isn't as great as you'd imagine. It sucks :(
I hate myself for this: the last thing I want is to hurt either of them.
 
I mean, you could always ask her. You could always tell her that maybe you're...bi-curious? Maybe take a roll and you know cuddle or something. I would consult with her first tho.....
OR
Take a break with her and mess with your bestie.. see what happens.
 
This is an awful situation. Break off both relationships, abstain from all sexual debauchery, no porn, no drugs. Straighten up your life. After 2 - 5 years of good behavior, you may enter into a courtship with a potential marriage partner. No sex outside of wedlock, and remain faithful to your wife until the day you die.
In other words, grow up into a man. That is your best option. Everything else is a rubbish :)
 
Derschieber said:
This is an awful situation. Break off both relationships, abstain from all sexual debauchery, no porn, no drugs. Straighten up your life. After 2 - 5 years of good behavior, you may enter into a courtship with a potential marriage partner. No sex outside of wedlock, and remain faithful to your wife until the day you die.
In other words, grow up into a man. That is your best option. Everything else is a rubbish :)
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^errr whatever:rolleyes:(y)

but seriously OP you are playing both these people to feed your ego and now your on the internet acting hard done by

make your mind up

and have some respect for others

me personally i wouldn't tolerate the way you have treated these two
 
This is a shocker! I didn't know you had a girlfriend. I thought you were gay all along. If I were your girlfriend, I would've solved your problem already by breaking up with you.
You can't have both of them so stop the foolish fantasies hun. You have to do the right thing and choose one...only one.
 
Derschieber said:
This is an awful situation. Break off both relationships, abstain from all sexual debauchery, no porn, no drugs. Straighten up your life. After 2 - 5 years of good behavior, you may enter into a courtship with a potential marriage partner. No sex outside of wedlock, and remain faithful to your wife until the day you die.
In other words, grow up into a man. That is your best option. Everything else is a rubbish :)
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I don't agree with not having sex before marriage. IMO it is absurd to marry somebody when you don't even know if you are sexually compatible with them.
I don't plan on getting married, either. If me and another person are both attracted to each other, I'll have sex with them. Life offers only a small number of really enjoyable things and sex is one of them. I do not think promiscuity is immoral. I am very against cheating, though. Despite what I have said, I have never lied to either of them. My best friend has always known about my relationship with my girlfriend. I didn't offer any information to my girlfriend, but she pulled me aside and said she could tell there was something more than friendship with best friend (she said it was things little touches and stuff between us) and she asked me if we'd have sex. I told her no (true) and that we'd never done anything sexual (also true) but that we had made out a few times.

The three of us are all cool with each other now. Girlfriend and best friend both said they know how much I loved them and that they'd never be so cruel as to say I had yo pick one of them and not see the other. As a group we decided that my feeling are what they are and we don't need to put a name or label on it.
The three of us are very close again and do everything together (apart from sex: I have only had sex with my girlfriend).
 
CoastTwoCoast said:
This is a shocker! I didn't know you had a girlfriend. I thought you were gay all along. If I were your girlfriend, I would've solved your problem already by breaking up with you.
You can't have both of them so stop the foolish fantasies hun. You have to do the right thing and choose one...only one.
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I'm not sure what I am, but bisexual would be the most accurate I think.

Urgh, this sucks. It's like Sophies Choice.
 
ChemicallyEnhanced said:
I definitely love my girlfriend, she is awesome...but I think I'm in love with my (gay) best friend.
I feel extremely confused/conflicted about what to do.
I haven't gone as far as sex yet, but have made out with both of them several times.
Any advice?
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Are you male or female, CE?
 
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