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gf says i was saying my exs name in my sleep!

mr.buffnstuff

mr.buffnstuff

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Wake up this morning to find out i had said my exs name in my sleep twice? Now my gf thinkd i still av feelings or think about her!? Firstly.... Why might i have mentioned her in my sleep? Secondly i HATE her she ruined my life n i only put up with her because i was so drugged up with the opiates. Now im clean i realise just what a bad person she is! Iv got the best gf you could ever imagine! N im.so happy but today has really got me down.
Iv always been honest with her because i think good relationships r based on honesty....
What can i do???
 
Tell her the truth. I hate to say what I really think, but she might be lying about you saying your ex's name in your sleep. Not to be mean, but because she feels unloved or needs the attention right now...
 
calmly explain to her exactly what you told us, that you love her to death and naming your ex in your sleep was only a mistake

do you remember what you were dreaming about? hell, for all that she knows, you were having a nightmare!

tell her you understand that she is upset. my girl would also be quite mad. however, it seems that you love her. women, and all people in that matter, generally need reassurance. so reiterate to her again by telling her how much you love her
 
if she blames you for your dreams, she's a stupid bitch imo (a bit mean i know, but it really is not a kind thing to do). don't lie to her about it like the poster above suggested. tell her that you don't want to be with your ex but with her. it was a dream for fucks sake. i once dreamt i had sex with my mother (not really a sex dream tbh but something different).
 
Why should she be upset at an unconscious, uncontrollable action? Your dreams are beyond your control, ergo one can not find guilt because there is no intent or willful action taking place. Tell her to move on from the 16th century and to get out of North Korea and join the civilized world?
 
trunkofmycar said:
Tell her the truth.
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Dude - did you put up with it because you're a masochist? You're not painting a very good picture of yourself.

All you have to do is tell her, but not too passionately, just how you feel about your ex...she can't blame you for talking to her in your sleep.

Well, she can, but she'd be immature if she did.

Gotta finish it with echoing Axl's suggestion of REASSURANCE... You got mad love for this girl, and no one but. Prove it...but not overboard aight?
 
Aye i was on ALOT of prescription drugs n just went along with whatever she said, so many bad things i prefer to just block it out! But that sket made me realise just how good the girl im with now is! She incredible! Genuinly one in a million. Shes chilled out bit more bout it now tho but i dnt want her doubting me.... Ever!
 
If she's mature enough she should understand. I've been (mistakenly) called an ex's name before...sometimes it just comes out that way. I do the same thing with my kids....I have to go through their names until I get the right one. It happens, I think it just rolls off the tongue out of habit or whatever. It's not personal.

I'm glad she chilled a bit, and good for you for reassuring her of your love! I'm sure she'll let it go.
 
Rather than start a new thread I thought I'd post in this one.

The girl I'm seeing has told me that I've been saying my ex's name in my sleep. To cut a long story short my ex cheated on me after 2.5 years together, which was pretty devastating to say the least.. don't think I'd ever cried like that and from such a deep place. It's been over 6 months now and I thought I had moved past it all, and I feel close to the girl I'm seeing (and vica-versa). I remember most of my dreams and I have not dreamt about her since the night before I found out, which funnily enough was a dream about me asking her if she'd cheated. So this is a bit puzzling to me because I had no idea I was saying her name in my sleep.

Wondering if anyone else has experienced anything similar, or has any advice, or just an opinion. Ta.
 
how can anybody control what they do or say in their sleep?

i think somebody who gets offended or upset by something their partner says in their sleep has insecurity issues.

alasdair
 
Yes, exactly. I have been having dreams almost every night about someone in my life, and it is only because they are on my mind a lot..it doesn't mean anything past that. Is your new partner upset about it at all, or is it just you who is disturbed by it?
 
Beachcat said:
Is your new partner upset about it at all, or is it just you who is disturbed by it?
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Well I had no idea I was saying it, so it surprised me. I wouldn't say I'm disturbed, I mean it was fairly recent and pretty devastating so I understand why my mind might be replaying things during sleep. She's not disturbed by it as such, but she has said I have mentioned my ex a bit during daylight conversation which annoyed her.. though I didn't see it like that. It wasn't like I was talking fondly of her or anything haha. I wouldn't mind if she mentioned her ex's or stories, I mean if it's history it's history!
 
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