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Getting stood up!

jam uh weezy

jam uh weezy

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How many of you have ever been stood up, and if so, what do you do about it? Do you even try to ask the other person what happened or just cut them out? Does it hurt you???

I met this girl at a temporary job I had for the summer, we go along really well and she seemed into me. Even if anything romantic didn't come of it, I felt like we would be good friends. but of course she was super cute. We decided to kick it after our work ended, so if anything awkward happened we wouldn't have to work together through it haha. So we were supposed to meet up two days ago, but when I texted to confirm a few hours ahead she flaked and asked to meet up a few days later. No big deal. So today I try to get a hold of her, and now answer. I figure fuck it, we already made up a time, and I was eager to try the food at this spot we were going to with or without her. (I had been recommended by a few people).

Obviously she didn't show up, and I'm not sure if that fact that I don't really care is normal. I just feel for the person who has this type of communication issue in their life! I mean, I care enough to seek hearing about your guys' experience with getting stood up lol, and yea a bit like 'wtf', but whatever. So ya, what are your guys' experience with this phenomenon? And what kkind of follow-up, if any, do you get from the person?? Have you ever successfully gone on another date?
 
She might be one of those people who doesn't like plans. Not making excuses for her but I've been guilty of this. But not on first meet-up situations. She should have told you the second time that she wasn't coming instead of not answering her phone. If she really wants to hang out with you she will call. I wouldn't bother with her anymore.
 
There are girls out their who are afraid to say no from the beginning so 5hey usually just say yes when u ask them then they flake last min. Usually tjese type of girls have issue as they could of just said no from the beging. I usually just tell these type of girls whenever u want to go out just call me.. but dont eve4 make plans with her again.
 
If there is someone who stands you up, the ball is in their court if they want something to do with you. But you should just leave it alone.
 
i would probably go to her house and maybe climb into her window and talk to her about it reasonably. there's nothing that a good, calm discussion can't fix. make sure to wear a therapist mask. maybe she will get over her fear of men then...who knows.
 
T. Calderone said:
She might be one of those people who doesn't like plans. Not making excuses for her but I've been guilty of this. But not on first meet-up situations. She should have told you the second time that she wasn't coming instead of not answering her phone. If she really wants to hang out with you she will call. I wouldn't bother with her anymore.
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ya i feel this. Things always feel better when they're spontaneous. Setting a time/day just makes me nervous when it gets closer haha. But at the same time, how can I juggle work, school, and everything else withOUT making plans?!? sometimes it's just necessary.

ControlDenied said:
i would probably go to her house and maybe climb into her window and talk to her about it reasonably. there's nothing that a good, calm discussion can't fix. make sure to wear a therapist mask. maybe she will get over her fear of men then...who knows.
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LOL. ok i'll try this out.

she txted me last night saying she's sorry and next time i'm visiting she'll buy us dinner. sounds good, but we'll see when the time comes.
 
Animal Mother said:
I give two chances. After the second time, you'll never hear from me again.
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I'd give two chances for people who cancel arrangements without much notice but to be actually stood up I reckon that's a one chance thing, fuck that



My theory is that if I force myself to respect my own time other people will follow and respect it too. I decided that 15 minutes would be fine, ie, if I am waiting around for somebody who has not warned me of their lateness, I will just up and leave at 15 minutes after agreed meeting time, no exceptions. Theory does work and after a while it just comes naturally.
 
people who mess you about need to be removed from your life.

i've had it happen to me and my instinct was cut them out, then my housemate was all "maybe you should give people a chance" then they did it again. lesson learned...
 
People stand each other up all the time. If the person has a valid excuse, then whatever.

If they constantly do it, then they may have shit going on, but they are flakes and not worthy of your time.
 
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