Getting over jealousy

[Maniaz]

Hi , so iv posted here a few times because i feel a bit gay talking to my mates about this but basically has anyone gotten over jealousy??? I get jealous every time my gf talks to another guy. often they will txt her quite a bit and i get annoyed even though i completely trust that she wouldnt cheat on me unless i did something horrible like cheat on her which im not gonna do and even then she would just dump me. i know that a few other guys want her. shes not too bad looking, not a stunner, could lose a bit of weight but other than that i think shes pretty and has an awesome personality . I know shes just an easy girl to talk to as me and her txt all the time and never have awkward moment and were like that before we started going out.

so yeah how have you guys gotten over this??? we have been going out for 5 months strong which is really good for both of us and im 19 so its still kinda not like a big adult relationship

 

[llama112]

Is she texting other people so much in front of you that she ignores you? My ex used to text his friends all the time when he was with me and it annoyed me because we didn't get to spend much time together in general (long distance relationship) so I wished that he would spend his time with me instead of texting his friends. Is it something like that??

You say you trust her, but it seems like you don't. She's with YOU. If she didn't want to be, she's break up with you. She has friends - and that's okay!! She should be able to talk to whoever she wants. I mean, there is nothing wrong with you having friends right ... male or female.

 

[Pagey]

Maniaz I'm also a pretty jealous person when I'm in a relationship so I know it sucks - especially considering all the criticism we get when it really isn't our fault and it isn't much fun for us either
What I would advise you is not talking to her about it, though. It'll most likely put a lot of unnecessary strain on the relationship as it's probable you're being jealous over 'nothing' (by which I mean she' snot about to cheat on you or anything). Do you have a reason to distrust her? If not, just try to look the other way and remind yourself that it's YOU she's with, not those other guys.

 

[Maniaz]

i trust her . i really do trust that she wont cheat on me, its just i dont want her to turn into her friend who left her ex for a better bf.

 

[Foreigner]

Jealousy is just fear, but a specific kind. It's the fear of losing someone you care about. It causes you to grasp onto another, perhaps too tightly.

If you trust her, jealousy will ease over time. If you trust her but it's still a problem, then you have to debunk your own fear.

 

[Tude]

i trust her . i really do trust that she wont cheat on me, its just i dont want her to turn into her friend who left her ex for a better bf.

If you don't want your girl to leave you for a better bf, BE a better bf. You say you trust her, but you obviously don't. If you did, you wouldn't have a problem with her talking to anyone. Whether or not you trust her because she's untrustworthy or you're insecure is something you need to find out so you can get over this.

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

If you don't want your girl to leave you for a better bf, BE a better bf. You say you trust her, but you obviously don't. If you did, you wouldn't have a problem with her talking to anyone. Whether or not you trust her because she's untrustworthy or you're insecure is something you need to find out so you can get over this.

Agreed, do this. Pay more attention to her so she won't text people and communicate more with her.

 

[sconnie420]

^hit the nail on the head..

I can also get a bit jealous @ times, so I know the feeling, sucks pretty bad.
Have you met any of her guy friends? Maybe try and get to know them better, may help..
Has she done anything for you to not trust her?
5 months really isn't that long though, so you don't want to do anything to push her away either.
Good luck bud, hope things work out for ya.