Getting high and tweaking with family members

[kozmictyger504]

I was wondering if anyone gets high with family members. A few months ago my brother moved back home and one late night I caught him smoking go in the bathroom. He started to freak out and getting really nervous. I brought him to my room and took out my pipe and showed him. He was like omg and we had a good laugh. I was like dude, we could have been getting high together all this time. I used to be a very private smoker becasue I don't like most people and they annoy me, especially when I'm high, the only other person I felt comfortable smoking with was a friend who moved away. Now my brother is my smoking buddy and I love it, we've become much closer because of it. Our relationship has been taken to a whole other level and it's really nice.

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[Jekyl Anhydride]

Hey kt 504, I'm going to move this to The Dark Side as I think it will be a better fit. And just my 2c, bonding over substance use can seem like a wonderful thing, but if one of you can't stop it could damage the relationship /family dynamic if or when it comes out that both of you used together. Often a fellow user can receive much of the blame from other family if use becomes problematic. Best of Luck with this.

OD-->TDS

 

[Ganjcat]

Gets awkward when you start to only have enough drugs for one person like Jekyl said it can corrupt a relationship but also be a great bonding experience depends on the person and drug.

 

[Wilson Wilson]

I've done acid with my brother and it was an amazing experience.

When you're talking about smoking you mean weed? Seems chill to me, don't see why this belongs in the dark side.

 

[Xorkoth]

I'm guessing meth, not weed (due to the "tweaking" in the title).

I'm confused though, is there is a problem the OP wishes to discuss? If not this might be best in Drug Culture, not TDS.

 

[Wilson Wilson]

Ah yeah missed the title. Assumed weed since only "smoking" was mentioned in the actual post.

But yeah this seems like it belongs more in drug culture to me too.

 

[G_Chem]

It all depends on the drug. More addictive drugs can become problematic whereas drugs like psychedelics and empathogens can be transformative.

I’m beyond grateful to have shared experiences with a variety of drugs with many of my close family. There is nothing like rolling or tripping with family.

I’ve also done nastier shit with fam too.. Thankfully nothing bad has come of it but in my family no one can really call anyone else out cuz we all have our vices but also keep our shit together.

I highly recommend rolling with family though. There’s nothing like it, especially if your really close like I am to mine. Once you experience it you won’t want to roll without em and you’ll be annoying them via phone haha.

Oxytocin is a hormone which helps connects us as humans. It’s what bonds us to close loved ones and family. MDMA releases oxytocin as well, there is definitely a connection there. Not only that, but there’s usually no regrets telling your brother, sister, mother or father that you love them every 5min compared to doing that to a stranger.

Some argue the love of MDMA is forced and fake, I’d concur but whether you believe it or not it’s not wasted when done with family.

-GC

 

[Wilson Wilson]

MDMA with family would be amazing. If my fam was more chill about drugs I'd do it happily. Maybe I will with my brother one day but I doubt the rest.

 

[Mafioso]

I'm confused though, is there is a problem the OP wishes to discuss? If not this might be best in Drug Culture, not TDS.

I agree, not sure this is TDS material, unless it's about the problems or potential problems that can arise from using drugs with family members, or something of that nature.

 

[Tweaker909]

I have a lot to say on this topic.

I used to be a very heavy meth user. I only injected it. Smoking didn’t do much for me. My cousin was a heroin user but he only snorted it. I introduced him to meth and to the needle.

It was fun. I used to get really paranoid and couldn’t really deal with people. Having him around helped me because I trusted him and it helped with all the paranoia and everything that was going on in my brain after not sleeping for five days. He was like a brother to me and my best friend. It truly did bring us closer.

Eventually we had to get clean. He went to rehab for his heroin addiction (I never touched it) and I mostly stopped using meth and began the process of rebuilding my life. It was a lot easier with him in rehab because he just wasn’t around.

He got out of rehab and moved to a halfway house where he died from an overdose a few weeks later. I had a lot of guilt for a long time over this. I’ve actually never told anyone this before and I’m sitting here in tears right now. Growing up, I was always the good kid. He was always the junkie loser. I didn’t start doing drugs until I was in my 30’s. He started in his teens. He was always proud of the fact that he had never used a needle and I was the one who convinced him to slam meth for the first time. He loved it.

It’s been a little over three years since he died. I know it’s not my fault. He made his own choices but I still can’t help but wonder how things would have turned out if I didn’t hand him that needle.

Now that some time has passed I think it was inevitable that one of us was going to die. He had come to rely on me. He was homeless and I let him stay at my place a lot. That wasn’t going to change and as long as he was around I was going to continue using meth at a rate that wasn’t sustainable. If he didn’t die, I would probably be dead right now.

That’s the cold hard reality of the situation.

 

[Tweaker909]

Gets awkward when you start to only have enough drugs for one person like Jekyl said it can corrupt a relationship but also be a great bonding experience depends on the person and drug.

I forgot to mention that part of it. My cousin never had any money and what little he did have he used on heroin. I paid for every mg of meth he ever injected into his veins. My tweaker brain never had any desire to say no to anyone about anything but there were times when I just simply didn’t have enough which led to some lying and sneaking around.

 

[Factualist]

I've smoked weed with my brother who doesn't do any drugs except alcohol and I thought it was really fun but I doubt we'll ever do it again since my family as a whole has kind of soured on the fact I use drugs and they no longer implicitly support it. I think that will change down the road. Previously he said he'd even be willing to try acid with me which would be neat but again, I don't think that's gonna happen. I'd really like to smoke with my sister-in-law who I'm quite close to, she used to smoke when she was younger but stopped once she started a family and now she works high up in administration at a nursing home and can't risk losing her job, which I totally understand.

I think in general it would be really cool to be able to get high with my family but they're simply not the kind of people to do drugs. Which is a shame, but it's their choice. I've gotten drunk with my brother and sister-in-law quite a few times and it was fun, but my parents and the rest of my family don't even drink. At this point, they think I'm an alcoholic because I drink semi-regularly which is bullshit, but it means they get shitty with me every time I so much as order a beer at a restaurant. I drank one single Budweisser out of the fridge when I was having diner at my folks house and they come over to my house like an hour after I leave and tell me real dramatically "we found the can" and try to have an intervention over one god damned can of beer.

I'm sitting at the complete opposite end of the spectrum as you and it might sound immature but I really fucking wish I had a family where we could bond over drugs. Or at least one that wasn't so uptight.