Getting evicted in less than a month.

[xstayfadedx]

Hey people I posted in this thread under another account (haha my secrets out) it was alwaysblazed but anyways I have a psycho stepfather. So they just had court last thursday and it ends up my mother and him are still married....the court did not allow the divorce to go through but it ends up that my stepfather was allowed to get the eviction he wanted. He made up lies about how he's afraid to live in the house with his daughter because of us. When the funny thing is WE should be the ones afraid! He's an abusive fuck and controlling. He also even made up some other little white lies and I'm just so pissed that the judge granted him the eviction even when my mother and him are still married. Now the problem is my mother does not have a job because this area basically does not have any openings....and my mom could find a job in the next towns over but our asshole of a stepfather junked my mother's car! So now we're getting evicted and honestly do not have any money besides the child support from my father coming.

Our stepfather also helped with this kind of because when we first came here he told my mother that he wanted her to be a stay at home mother so she could form a relationship with his step daughter....and that so all the kids could "bond". Yeah what the fuck? Anyways my mother did have to end up staying home just because all hell was breaking out between the three kids (including me) only because my stepfathers daughter is a psycho. She would try to beat up my sister all the time and I came downstairs to help my sister and the next thing I know I'm kicked in the ribs and the chest....this was back in 8th grade. I'm just out of high school now. Nothing in the house even got any better. My mom did have a job last year though but the place laid off a whole shitload of people and now with no car we're basically fucked.

My sister is moving with my father but I can't because we had some problems and it just wouldn't be a good idea. I'm suppose to be moving to an apartment in Philadelphia August 1st but my mother has no place to go and my pets have no place to go as well. So I'm freaking out right now and honestly do not know what to do. I would allow my mother to move in with me but the thing is I'm only taking a room in the apartment with others.....there will be no room for all our things and there will be no room for the pets because I'm bringing my kitten and my roommates have two dogs. Also we are getting evicted before I even can move out....we're getting evicted on July 16th.

How is this even possible? I don't even fucking know because they're still married and everything he said was a lie...and there was not even anyone to back up his allegations...ugh I really think I'm about to lose it. I don't even know what to do anymore. I'm just stressed out and I honestly am just about to pick up my bags and leave. Just like disappear for awhile but I know that won't happen but that's how I feel like....who knows it could happen but then again I have college in the fall. I don't want to screw that up just because of some asshole.

The scary thing is I'm worried about my mother's emotional health as well because the night of the court trial, I was sleeping and then my sister comes in and tells me my mom fell on the floor I guess she was crying but I was so out of it I just fell back to sleep (yeah I know how terrible) but anyways I wake up again because she came into my room...fell on the bed and started crying. She's like I'm so sorry over and over...I'm like what happened...at first I thought my sister was dead I dunno why but then I realized oh it's cause of the eviction. She was like I wish I never brought you guys down here and I'm so sorry. I honestly never see my mother like that and it just gives me this bad feeling like fuck I need to do something about this.

Sorry for writing a lot and it's all jumbled but I hope you got my drift. Oh yeah I'm seventeen by the way if you're wondering about my age.

 

[Asclepius]

You must be really worried for your Mom ...Is there any friends or anything she can stay with for the time being?

I remember you posting before that he put a lock on the Laundry-room door, or something of that nature, he really does sound like a toxic, messed up individual. I am glad he wont be in your lives anymore but it is tragic that it happened to your Mothers detriment.

I know you must feel really angry but like you said you have to look at this as rationally as possible and start to see what you can do that is going to help your Mother and also not to jepordise your future plans for College.

I dont know much about refuge shelters or Social Authorities within the Philedelphia area unfortunately, maybe someone else could help you out with that here.

 

[xstayfadedx]

We actually live out of philadelphia I'm only moving down there for school. I also am getting money from my father to cover my rent and then I have to pay him back when I get my loan from school. When I get that money it will be too late for my mom... I just hope that I can find a place for her before this happens. And the thing is we have pets and we had them too long....they're our family too so theres no way we're giving them up. This just fucking sucks and this year has been shit....with the death of my boyfriend, school problems, all these problems and it's just I'm about to lose it. It's like really what else is going to happen?! Blah.

Also there is nobody around here that could take us in. We only have our family in Connecticut. Not sure if they can take us, have to see.

 

[stellablue]

Like Asclepius said, does your mom have any friends or any family she could stay with? She could always put her things in storage.

 

[Asclepius]

This just fucking sucks and this year has been shit....with the death of my boyfriend, school problems, all these problems and it's just I'm about to lose it. It's like really what else is going to happen?! Blah.

Also there is nobody around here that could take us in. We only have our family in Connecticut. Not sure if they can take us, have to see.

Sounds like you have been dealing with hell of a lot this year...So sorry to hear about your b/f xstayfaded...you must be a strong character; your mom is lucky to have you. Stay focused on your life for now and looking after yourself, you deserve to take every oppertunity you have and run with it.



Hopefully the family in Conneticut will help-fingers crossed for her! Let us know what happens...?

 

[xstayfadedx]

I know I should be focused on my life right now but it's so hard to do that sometimes ): My friend tells me I need to focus on school and everything...basically she's kind of going through the same thing I am. Having to worry about her mother and basically take care of everything (her mother has lung cancer)....so we're both trying to help each other stay on track. Thank you though....I'll let you know what happens but right now I really don't know what's going to happen. I'm going to try to talk to my mother soon to see if she has a plan and maybe for her to contact her attorney again and see what they say.

 

[Asclepius]

Of course it must be hard xstay...am not saying deny how you feel but just try not let any of this drag you under or dont let that gobshite's actions deter you from your course in life. Am glad that your friend is there to support you and vice versa- hang on to the good stuff and you will get through this.
Best of luck again

 

[xstayfadedx]

I understand what you're saying and I'm going to try as hard as I can to keep moving on with my life instead of letting this hold me back. Just wish there was something I could do with this though... but thank you again

 

[nuttynutskin]

Have you looked into section 8 housing? I don't really know the requirements or if you could get it but might be worth looking into.

 

[Thou]

Ah. This all comes to fruition.


I read the post by your other name and became vaguely attached to the young girl in that setting.


I wish I had better advice, I may later, but not yet. I offer you my support, hopes and prayers etc.

I know how shit life can be and hope your mother a speedy recovery. I'll come back after I've done a bit of research on your area and the social services available to those in your position.

 

[xstayfadedx]

Ah. This all comes to fruition.


I read the post by your other name and became vaguely attached to the young girl in that setting.


I wish I had better advice, I may later, but not yet. I offer you my support, hopes and prayers etc.

I know how shit life can be and hope your mother a speedy recovery. I'll come back after I've done a bit of research on your area and the social services available to those in your position.

Thank you, it helps out a lot just to know that some people actually care. Anything is greatly appreciated though.

Have you looked into section 8 housing? I don't really know the requirements or if you could get it but might be worth looking into.

I was thinking about Section 8 but haven't looked into it yet but I will then. I hope it could possibly help us out in some way.

 

[HeWhoHowls]

Thank you, it helps out a lot just to know that some people actually care. Anything is greatly appreciated though.
.

Its the essence of humanity to care for anyone n evrything.
Know that you have infinite support from every heart in tune with the cosmic vibration of love, although it might not materialize in the physical world, the positivity you need to keep only attracts more positivity.

The highest of prayer n intent towards healing your situation is what i, like many many others, offer to you.

 

[xstayfadedx]

Its the essence of humanity to care for anyone n evrything.
Know that you have infinite support from every heart in tune with the cosmic vibration of love, although it might not materialize in the physical world, the positivity you need to keep only attracts more positivity.

The highest of prayer n intent towards healing your situation is what i, like many many others, offer to you.

Yes, I know I should try to keep positive but it's just sometimes I just think about the worse in everything. I mean one thing after another just keeps happening this year and it's like oh do I even want to wake up tomorrow to see what happens next? I mean there was a point that I was excited that things were getting better and then everything started going downhill once again. It's crazy to know how much stuff I been through and I'm not even eighteen. I just hope things get better. I know they should in time but I've been so strong for awhile now but everything keeps hitting me and I think I reached my breaking point....I then feel like I should just give up.

 

[Thou]

Keeping positive sometimes is impossible.


Know that we who have read your words care for you and hope you the best.


I'd say research local services in your area tomorrow morning. Philly is known for its poor, so it's likely you can find a skyhook there.

 

[xstayfadedx]

My other account was alwaysblazed not stayblazed420 that's someone else. Anyways I really am trying to focus on my studies but at this point I really don't even care. I actually decided not to go to Penn State anymore and I'm just going to a community college at the moment until I figure out what to do. I'm fine with that choice though because it's for the best and honestly I didn't want to go to PSU...really only did want to for the name but in a year or less I should be going to Temple or Drexel, theres an articulate agreement my school has. Other than that school is still sometimes the last on my list of cares but I know how much it will help me out so I'm going to not give up on it. Honestly if I don't go to school I'm not going to have anywhere to be. So yeah thank you all. I'll try to keep going before I truly do give up.

 

[HeWhoHowls]

Yes, I know I should try to keep positive but it's just sometimes I just think about the worse in everything. I mean one thing after another just keeps happening this year and it's like oh do I even want to wake up tomorrow to see what happens next? I mean there was a point that I was excited that things were getting better and then everything started going downhill once again. It's crazy to know how much stuff I been through and I'm not even eighteen. I just hope things get better. I know they should in time but I've been so strong for awhile now but everything keeps hitting me and I think I reached my breaking point....I then feel like I should just give up.

The breaking point isnt a bad place to be at when you look at the big picture.
Not that im saying you are there cuz i wudnt kno.
But theres only one way to go from rock bottom, you can build anew n become stronger.
The saying "what doesnt kill you only makes you stronger" carries so much weight in instances like this.
Situations dont obliterate or become destroyed naturally, its always under someones or more's control.
That includes you.
Praises to you for what you can do but dnt condemn yourself for what you cant do or have no control over.
Im freshly 18 so i can relate to how you feel about this emotional magnifying glass this situation put you under.
But being as rational as possible helps ensure that the choices you make come from a fair, level-headed state of mind.
Dont ever feel helpless because you are always able to help yourself.
I can see you have actions in planning so thats a good start.

 

[xstayfadedx]

Sometimes I think I'm at my breaking point or I actually reached it awhile ago but want to deny it. This whole year was suppose to be one of the best years of my life since I was a senior and everything. That's what everyone was telling me and I'm like are you kidding me? Honestly this was one of the worst years of my life. One thing after another. I didn't even get to walk on graduation because I had some things to finish but I was out due to my depression. I seriously avoided going on facebook or talking to my friends cause it was all about graduation ect. I felt like shit after that because I seriously stopped going to school and I had one month left but I got to the point that I couldn't go in anymore. So then I had to finish up things online and I just felt so bad because I was there but I let everything get to me. My mom also didn't help me feel any better about that. She's like you should of been walking that day and blah blah blah. So yeah I probably have hit rock bottom.

I am really trying to get out of this rock bottom though. It's just that I am trying to but then one problem after another keeps coming. Even my father wasn't about to sign my loans because he thought it was a scam to get my mom rent money. I was so angry about that and I hate that he just can't help me out without questioning my motive. So hopefully he will still help me out for once and I can move on.

I think I will come out of this even a stronger person though and I'm going to try my hardest to make a good start. I kind of will get a new chance to start over again. Right now I'm starting to realize what I want in life. I'm also finding out who really is there for me and who I should actually consider my friends. I'm just weeding out all the bad in my life slowly... Usually I would always find myself worrying about others more than myself but I'm ready to take control of my life instead of putting it on the back burner.

Oh yeah I also would like to add again that I don't live in Philadelphia. We live in Lebanon County and people around here are like middle class and some are rich. So theirs not much shelters or anything. I'm only moving down to Philly in August and my mother does not want to live there I don't think.

 

[Mariposa]

stayfaded - keep your wits about you and you'll be fine. You have the potential to transcend the present drama. Eviction is the most horrible thing ever - can your Mom get in touch with some social services agencies? I don't know what the waiting list is like there and many landlords/ladies won't accept Section 8. Is there a possibility you can move into your apartment sooner? My first year in college was awesome; it was my first time on my own. I made the dean's list both semesters (I didn't really drink or do drugs) and lived with two good friends in awesome off-campus student housing.

 

[xstayfadedx]

stayfaded - keep your wits about you and you'll be fine. You have the potential to transcend the present drama. Eviction is the most horrible thing ever - can your Mom get in touch with some social services agencies? I don't know what the waiting list is like there and many landlords/ladies won't accept Section 8. Is there a possibility you can move into your apartment sooner? My first year in college was awesome; it was my first time on my own. I made the dean's list both semesters (I didn't really drink or do drugs) and lived with two good friends in awesome off-campus student housing.

Thanks, sorry that I haven't talked to you forever and the last time we spoke was kind of like clashing but yeah I'm sorry about that. Anyways I'm not going to be able to move in sooner because my roommates are also only moving in August 1st. Right now they live at another place but that lease will be up and then they're moving into our new apartment. I may just try to stay at a hotel or something....maybe even store everything in there of mine until I make the movie. Time will see. I tried talking to my mother about everything but she told me she didn't want to talk about it right now so I'm going to try to again soon...I just let her know that we need to talk about it asap...there is no more time to put this off. I know college will be great yes I'm spending a year at a CC but I'll be fine...I'm either going to Temple or Drexel or I might even try to transfer out to USC or CSULB.....I think I will be moving to California like my original plan and I'll actually have some money for a place to live too by that time. I'm not going to drink or have drugs ruin everything for me. I was sober but just recently started having some things again but it's not bad this time around....just recreational. Other than that I just hope I can find somewhere for my mother to go and then I will be at ease.

 

[HeWhoHowls]

I might even try to transfer out to USC or CSULB.....I think I will be moving to California like my original plan and I'll actually have some money for a place to live too by that time.

As a resident of Long Beach i gotta say the California gov. will do alot to help you out if your in trouble like this.
A couple of friends are under some section 8 like deal n live in places like a 2bedroom apt for (i shit you not) 200 a month.
Surprised the hell outta me n i reccomend you research what can be done for you out here.