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Getting clean for romance?

...i once had someone tell me that they loved me... and that if i quit they would be with me... i made an attempt... i really did... i was clean for awhile... a week or so.. .somthing to that effect... the withdrawls sucked... but you know what the worst part is... its when the fucking bitch wouldent take me back even when i was clean... she had thought i would never get clean... and had said that thinking it would never happen... so FUCK THAT... do what you want with your fucking life
 
I would never quit a habit for a girl. First of all, the girl herself loses respect for you. Even if she says she wants you to quit, and even if she won't be with you if don't, when you do, it only shows her that she has that much power over you. It's not worth it. Second of all, I WILL NOT be with a girl who doesn't smoke weed. The sex is toooooooo incredible. And if she does coke it's an extra bonus.

That said, a destructive drug addiction is a different story. If I were addicted to a substance, and a girl got me to get my shit straight, I think that would be a sign that she is really something special and I shouldn't take that for granted. (Of course the problem lies with those people who are in a destructive addiction but not yet willing to admit it.)
 
SmokeTrails said:
...i once had someone tell me that they loved me... and that if i quit they would be with me... i made an attempt... i really did... i was clean for awhile... a week or so.. .somthing to that effect... the withdrawls sucked... but you know what the worst part is... its when the fucking bitch wouldent take me back even when i was clean... she had thought i would never get clean... and had said that thinking it would never happen... so FUCK THAT... do what you want with your fucking life
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that's hits so close to home... but i was clean for 4 months.. and after the initial withdrawal, I didn't crave at all until the bitch officially left me.

If you're reading this... THERESA I HATE YOU
 
Exactly what satricion said! I'm waiting for an attractive female heroin and crack dealer to come along!
 
I've never involved myself with any "hard" drugs to any degre, but my weed habit has been a topic of debate among me and many former gf's. My alcohol usage, which was far more destructive to both me and my relationships, usually went unmentioned. Legalities suck....many former lovers would berate me for smoking the herb, while they continued to drink themselves stupid. I never really quit because of their complaints, although I did do one stretch of about 6 months for my current fiance. As a reward at the end of that time period, she bought me a bag, and suddenly realized that my smoking habit kept me sane. She had forgotten all about how relaxed I was when i smoked. After that, she never mentioned quitting again, and suddenly began to enjoy the herb with me. (She was a former smoker, but quit for a few years). Now, things are going great, and we're getting married Oct 2nd, with our honeymoon in Jamaica starting the 4th!
 
Reverend_Lust said:
i tried this once with a girl with just weed. We made out one night and if things were to go further she said that I would have to be clean for a month with out smoking then we could do other things.
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You people need to move out of Mississippi. Sex is not a commodity owned by women and traded to men.
 
getting straight for someone else,whether its a lover,relative,etc.,just doesnt work.the one and only way a person can change their life[in any way]is if that person is ready and willing to actually change.if youre not doing it for you what is the point?if you dont love yourself you sure cant love anyone else[yeah,i know its a cliche but its absolutely true].you cannot rely on another individual for your happiness,youre responsible for that.
 
My ex always hated me getting stoned. She only wanted me to drink, but I don't think I should quit something I enjoy just for a girl. If she doesn't like me smoking weed, then she isn't worth it.
 
rachamim18 said:
getting straight for someone else,whether its a lover,relative,etc.,just doesnt work.the one and only way a person can change their life[in any way]is if that person is ready and willing to actually change.
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Agreed.

rachamim18 said:
if you dont love yourself you sure cant love anyone else.
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And equally importantly, if you can't love yourself, how is anyone else going to love you? How can you convince someone you have enough to offer that you should be loved if you can't even love yourself?

If I could give someone who was about 16-18 years of age one piece of advice, it would be the above statement. I have never found a statement so generic and applicable in almost any situation that is so true. Some sound advice for sure.
 
what a load of balls, within that statement you would find that not many people would be getting or giving love...its such a weak statement when we look at the magnitude of routes that love can be passed through...
every one has someone who loves them.
 
A load of balls? Never heard that expression before.

Anyways, I was talking in terms of a relationship with someone of the opposite sex who you're not related to. We're not talking about how your mom loves you and thinks you're a catch. It is my understanding that this type of love is not the topic of discussion in this thread.

Your comments were kind of vague and had a very defensive tone. I really don't know what point you were trying to make.

I stand by my comments.
 
load of balls...

I agree with the post above...sorry Banky-the subject at hand is whether someone[in this case the individual who posted this thread]should try and curtail their drug use in the name of romance.Furthermore I don't see how loving ones self could ever be a "load of balls."
 
I pretty much only smoke weed these days, and that not very often, so it really shouldn't be an issue. I guess I would quit if I had to... but I'd rather have a girlfriend who smoked occasionally or at least was cool with it. I would be more likely to quit if I saw it doing damage to the relationship than if I got an ultimatum.
 
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