TDS Fucking Bullshit

[bmorenotless]

need to vent badly.

23 years old never been convicted of a crime until recently (Possession of marijuana less than 10 grams)

I was put in a drug court program to eventually expunge my record.

only drug I ever really used was weed. I did cocaine a few times back in 2009/2010.

I was smoking spice the fake weed to go to sleep and chill out.

I was eventually tested for it (pb-22 and n-pentaoic acid is what I tested positive for)

I was thrown in jail for 3 weeks. I lost my job at Comcast which was paying 45k aftr taxes

my gpa at my local community college is way below a 2.0 I don't know if I can even get back in there

my main question is do you guys think I can go back to college? I have wealthy parents money isn't the problem, I am just unsure if the college will let me back in. I feel like my only option is to start selling drugs, I have very good connects from living in bmore city fr awhile. pleasehelp

 

[bmorenotless]

lost my place, had to move back in with parents. can't do shit because my bank account is draining. all my friends have degrees awesome jobs, now I have nothing over a half gram of marijuana. I was put in a high risk block in jail as well. the judge said he didn't like my attitude during bail review

 

[abracadabra girl]

The college will take you back, but you may not be able to get financial aid from the government. If you can't give up smoking you might want to consider moving somewhere that doesn't consider it a crime. And you're right, that's fucking bullshit.

 

[bmorenotless]

I quit smoking weed, I had no physical dependence to it.

I have no intentions on moving because I have no money no contacts outside the state of Maryland.

my probation won't let me leave the state

 

[bmorenotless]

I also have no intentions on ever smoking spice again, I know I made a mistake smoking it, but I was giving jail time for a first a offense of violating probation.

the heroin addicts in the program get all kinds of chances before they are thrown into jail. they get rehab and all kinds of other help.

 

[herbavore]

It's really sickening that happened--was it a drug test at work? I can't believe that people are losing their jobs and going to jail over this. But it happened and the most important thing now is to calm yourself down and not over-think what may happen in the future. You can certainly go to college and pursue whatever courses you want. Try to get through the court bullshit the best you can and throw yourself into getting your grades up when you go back to school. Good luck. Years from now this won't matter so just try to stay calm. Sometimes our own worrying can compound the original problem.

 

[T. Calderone]

Trouble with drug court is you have to abstain from drugs (except prescriptions) just like probation really. My son had the same issue over a half a gram of weed and he repeatedly tested dirty but being a minor they put him in the youth home. It took two and a half years of diversions and court before we had it sorted out.

Best thing you can do is make an appointment to speak to the Dean and let them advise you how to get back in. It's community college so they will give you another chance. If you were suspended, you just have to sit that out whether it be a semester or year. Then when you get back in you're on academic probation. So you have to bring your grades up.

It might be better not to work so many hours so you will have more time to dedicate to your studies. Maybe you could find a part time job. You say your parents have money, so what's their take on the situation? Will they help support you through all this? Wish you the best.

 

[bmorenotless]

no the drug test was for the drug court. thanks for the response

 

[bmorenotless]

Trouble with drug court is you have to abstain from drugs (except prescriptions) just like probation really. My son had the same issue over a half a gram of weed and he repeatedly tested dirty but being a minor they put him in the youth home. It took two and a half years of diversions and court before we had it sorted out.

Best thing you can do is make an appointment to speak to the Dean and let them advise you how to get back in. It's community college so they will give you another chance. If you were suspended, you just have to sit that out whether it be a semester or year. Then when you get back in you're on academic probation. So you have to bring your grades up.

It might be better not to work so many hours so you will have more time to dedicate to your studies. Maybe you could find a part time job. You say your parents have money, so what's their take on the situation? Will they help support you through all this? Wish you the best.

My parents have my back but they don't know how bad my GPA is, and im embarrassed to get a part time job because its going to be something pathetic, I honestly enjoyed my job, only reason I lost it was because I had no way of contacting them for 3 weeks

 

[bmorenotless]

It's really sickening that happened--was it a drug test at work? I can't believe that people are losing their jobs and going to jail over this. But it happened and the most important thing now is to calm yourself down and not over-think what may happen in the future. You can certainly go to college and pursue whatever courses you want. Try to get through the court bullshit the best you can and throw yourself into getting your grades up when you go back to school. Good luck. Years from now this won't matter so just try to stay calm. Sometimes our own worrying can compound the original problem.

 

[THECATINTHEHAT]

You do sound like you have a shitty attitude tbh.

'Embarassed to get a job because it's going to be something pathetic'.....

Guess what dude, sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. How about being grateful it might only be short term and you have other options open to you long term? On the other hand I would probably have a shitty attitude if I got thrown in jail for a couple of grams of weed.

 

[_DankOpiAmp_]

Not all entry level jobs are service or repetitive labour. You have to look around.

 

[THECATINTHEHAT]

Even if it is service or repetitive labour....so fucking what? Going to not do it because you think you're too good for it? Fuck that, I've worked service jobs and basic labour when I needed to because it's more productive than doing fuck all.

I know that if I looked at two CVs and one of them said 'worked shitty job whilst waiting for something better to come along' and the other one said 'sat on my arse whilst I waited for something better to come along'........geuss which one of those motherfuckers I'm going to think is the sort of person I want working for me if they look similar otherwise?

There's a lot to be said for work ethic and humility. Whenever I've been asked for my opinion on whether to hire someone I'm much more interested in someone who's going to work hard and listen and learn than someone who is perhaps a little more skilled but got no humility. First proper job I was given I had no real level of skill and was told they would fire me if I wasn't up to shape in a fortnight but I got by on my willingness to be taught and my willingness to work hard (and I was cheap labour prepared to work for less than minimum wage). I left that job two years later a finely tuned machine in comparison to how I walked in there.

 

[bmorenotless]

Even if it is service or repetitive labour....so fucking what? Going to not do it because you think you're too good for it? Fuck that, I've worked service jobs and basic labour when I needed to because it's more productive than doing fuck all.

I know that if I looked at two CVs and one of them said 'worked shitty job whilst waiting for something better to come along' and the other one said 'sat on my arse whilst I waited for something better to come along'........geuss which one of those motherfuckers I'm going to think is the sort of person I want working for me if they look similar otherwise?

There's a lot to be said for work ethic and humility. Whenever I've been asked for my opinion on whether to hire someone I'm much more interested in someone who's going to work hard and listen and learn than someone who is perhaps a little more skilled but got no humility. First proper job I was given I had no real level of skill and was told they would fire me if I wasn't up to shape in a fortnight but I got by on my willingness to be taught and my willingness to work hard (and I was cheap labour prepared to work for less than minimum wage). I left that job two years later a finely tuned machine in comparison to how I walked in there.

was working 80 hours a week I know hard work. Dope fiend junkies get more chances than someone who smoked weed. I have no humility anymore. fuck world governments and fuck any1 who thinks different

 

[Allein]

I do tend to agree with Owen, the CV point is a given.

I don't equate having to work with

world governments

almost all of us have to dirty ourselves with capitalism / big government to live. If you claim any sort of benefits / social money from the government you're just as much a part of it as someone who's working, in fact as far as as I'm concerned the very use of money makes you part of it.

I know nothing of you so this isnt a personal thing, just my views, but those that refuse to work when they have the opportunity, then claim unemployment benefit on the basis that you don't hold with big business / world governments / capitalism need to re-asses there actions. If you don't work because you just don't want to that's another thing and I have less of an issue with it.

Strip away the modern world and go back to when we lived in caves, if you did get up and go out and do whatever was your 'job' withing the tribe / community just because you didn't want to I have a feeling you wouldn't have lasted very long.

 

[THECATINTHEHAT]

Well it's your choice my friend, either work the system or let the system work you.

You've been screwed, there's no denying that, but looking down on other people because they became junkies and in your eyes get more of a chance will get you nowhere. If you think they've got it so good why not become a junkie? Also, I hate to be that arsehole that policies a forum they don't moderate, but as far as I know using language like 'dope fiend junkies' in an agressive manner is against the rules of this section. I can understand your anger but if you come in here asking for advice and at the same time say shit like that you're not likely to get a warm reception.

Unfortunately you're unlikely to be bringing down any world governments any time soon, so you gotta decide whether to be a victim or do what you can to get yourself back to where you want to be. I don't understand the american grading system so I can't say whether you can go back to college, but being angry at what has happened is going to be futile for you in the long run. Holding resentments will only hurt you.

Someone once said to me that to gain humility you need to be humiliated, and I agree with that to a certain extent. It sounds like you're angry and feeling humiliated by the system to me. Bottle that feeling, be humile, use it to fight for your path in life. Be prepared to do what you need to do to move forward with your life. If that means working a job you don't relly want to for a while then fuck it, do it. Don't let what other people might think stand in the way of doing what you need to do.

I don't know much, but I know a lack of humility generally fucks people over from what I have seen.

As for the final question, which do you think is more likely to form a secure future for yourself? Selling drugs or fighting to get back in to college? I know which one I would go for. If you don't know whether the colllege will let you in then get in contact with them and ask. The first time I went to uni I got in to a course that they were asking for AAB when I only had BCD. Don't underestimate what you can do for yourself through interaction with the place you want to study and the strength of your character.

Good luck, I think you probably know which direction you want to take, don't be afraid to fight for it.

 

[Burnt Offerings]

No shame in basic labor jobs. The only problem with such entry-level positions is that you have to eat a lot of shit, either from your bosses or (if you have the unfortunate "pleasure" of working in the service industry) the customers, some of whom ironically think that your occupation is, and I quote, "pathetic".

 

[garbagegutz]

gotta start somehwere - try the nearest maccas - they teach good standards.