Friends With benefits

[babyjokester16]

I started talking to this girl that I have known for about 9 years. She recently just got out of an engagement. We ended up having sex, and we kept this going for about a week and a half. Well I started to get attached to her, and she started to get attached to me. Some friends of hers started saying shit about what kind of guy I was and it scared her and pushed her away from me. She told me she is not ready to be in a relationship, but she still wants to be able to hang out and be friends and have sex. There is a 8 year age difference between the two of us. Is just being friends with benefits going to ruin a chance of us being together in the future.

 

[Jabberwocky]

I don't see why you can not fall in love at some point in the future regardless of benefits. Just don't get "co-dependent", if possible

 

[Maya]

It really depends on your situation. If she falls deeply in love I don't see why not but if she keeps listening to her friends about the bsd things they are telling her then maybe not. This all comes down to how deep you guys' feelings are for each other. If she already told yoi she is not ready and you are not convinced with her answer then maybe tell her about how you feel and if being friends with benefits will not work out for you then might as well stop it.

 

[dopemaster]

Its not going to hurt it, but things may not move forwards.

I would suggest not developing much feelings in a NSA relationship.

Sometimes these type of things lead to more but usually not. I wouldn't get my hopes up.

If you want to carry on with her and enjoy her company I would take it for what its worth. She is going through alot and that may be a factor. If you cannot handle the way things are it may be for the best to not stay in this thing.

I wouldn't push for a relationship too much right now because she already knows you fancy her as more than a casual thing. If she wants more, you will know.

 

[Mysterie]

be prepared to get very hurt if she isn't ready for a relationship and you are attached, and are thinking of continuing sex

 

[llama112]

Being friends with benefits won't eliminate any chances of you being together, no. However, if you're moving at different paces (one person developing feelings quicker than the other), then it could be an issue.

 

[pofacedhoe]

for me fwb's always drop off at some point but theres no reason to think you couldn't have a relationship out of it just that the dynamic might feel odd.

to be fair sleeping with someone who isn't as into you as you are into them is a little bit soul crushing

 

[BlueSaffron]

Yeah.. it's either going to drop off, or turn into more. IME, it never stays at "just friends with benefits".

 

[iLoveYouWithaKnife]

She recently just got out of an engagement. Is just being friends with benefits going to ruin a chance of us being together in the future.

I would say that trying to get with her, in whatever way right now, would ruin the chance of you possibly having a chance of being together in the future.
You'd be a rebound. And stay the rebound.
She just got out of an engagement.

Just my opinion, though.