TDS Friend asked me to stop using

[miscbrahh]

Hey TDS, first time posting in here. Been lurking for a while though, even before I made an account. Reading this section is actually pretty therapeutic.

Anyways, one of my good friends of about 7 years now (lets call him Trevor) wants to be a cop, and there's some program that requires him to not do drugs for 2+ years, or to hang out with people who do drugs for a period of at least 2 years... I don't know any details aside from that, if we can hang out once he actually becomes a cop, etc.
Everyone else that Trevor and I both hang out with are squeaky clean, mayyybe except for weed a couple times / year. I could see group hang-outs including Trevor being a problem. Maybe some of the people in that group that I'm not as familiar with would start to turn their backs on me. Of course I have my other group of friends that Trevor doesn't hang out with.

If I had to stop today, I wouldn't have withdrawal or anything, I've always been on casual weekend use... shrooms one weekend, mdma the next, etc. Maybe you've read one of my trip reports! :D

If I did stop, I would be mildly annoyed though, as I really love going to electronic music concerts, and some drugs make the music sound a whole lot better / lights look nicer. Sometimes I just don't feel like drinking alcohol...

I respect his decision to be a cop, and I don't want to lie to him... and he's not willing to lie to his future employer.

Wondering what your guys' thoughts would be. Thanks!

 

[King-Anubis]

I'm just going to say it, how will they know? It's not like your meth or heroin addicts running around causing trouble. I mean, are his employers going to find, locate and drug test all of his friends? Surely it won't be a problem as long as he doesn't use drugs? And if he can't lie about a simple thing like that I worry to be honest - I understand he want's to be a cop, it's a very respectable job, but no one has lived by the letter of the law for their whole lives. What's he going to do if they ask whether he's ever done anything wrong? xD

I don't know. Again, I respect his decision, but what he wants to do with his life shouldn't effect what you want to do with your life. If it's such a big problem, then maybe he needs to choose different friends. If he wants to be a cop, and he's not 'allowed' to be around those that break the law, then he needs to accept that - if he wants to be this squeaky clean cop - he's going to have to break off these links. Live your life how you want, and if his choices aren't compatible then he will have to make the decision. Not you.

 

[miscbrahh]

Ty anubis for the reply.
I think he's smoked pot... twice. Super clean aside from that. It's almost mind-boggling lol

And that's what I thought too, surely the PD couldn't have the time/$ to be going around and drug-testing an applicant's friends. Just as long as he doesn't touch the stuff / be around me when I'm using... how are they going to know?

Maybe I'll take him out to lunch today and we can talk about it.

 

[cj]

I just wouldnt use around him mix that with nit talking about using around him and everything should be fine. I dont think you should stop doing what you enjoy because he wants to be a cop. Also if he is that honest the police department will eat him alive.