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DexysMidnightRuner

DexysMidnightRuner

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So I find myself not knowing what to do with myself in my free time. what do you all do besides drugs? sorry if there is already a post about this, i cant figure out the new website and the search thing does not seem to work to find anything..
 
ohoh, it is amazing how much time one spends doing virtually nothing and enjoying it while one is on drugs. It's a void in our lives that is not easy to fill. I'd recommend exercise, video games, studying/reading, making something. Anything that'll be truthfully rewarding in a sense of endorphins. Something with actual goals where you can find yourself saying "yeah, I did it". This will make great substitute for the drug high. Exercise is best but I guess that you can get a high out of most anything if you enjoy it enough and put enough effort into it.
 
i like how people say things like ' you've got too much free time'

personally, i don't think there's such a thing
 
Depends what im in the mood for. Cleaning always makes me feel good. No matter what i can't keep my place clean, so i figured when i was messy that it was my way of enabling me to be able to clean again. I can only clean in an energetic mood though. If i feel restless i go walk/jog outside or on a treadmill. When i feel extremely lazy, i usually play a video game or watch a tv series. If i have a day off i usually dont make plans ahead of time, because i know my mindset will determine what i do.
 
having too much free time is wholly possible, trust me. my entire life IS free time, and it starts to suck after a while. there are only so many shows you can watch before you run out or only a certain amount of drugs you can do till you start loosing your mind from sheer boredom, or only so many crafts that you can do before it all starts to seem like shit. i dont do anything except watch movies really. hence why im asking others. i dont really have any hobbies, thats why i started doing drugs in the first place, but i'm starting to see that thats my main problem.
 
i don't have any idea who you are personally, so i can only suggest what i would consider trying....

try things you've always wanted to try but never got around to doing, use your time wisely, find yourself

if you are working, maybe request more hours, if you are unemployed, try like hell to find a job(any job) or look into heavy volunteer work, time spent doing labor can be therapeutic
 
i never understood how anyone could enjoy drugs in and of themselves. they were always to me in conjunction with another activity, be it dancing, hanging out with friends, walking or whatever, the drugs were only distorters and enhancers of other things i'd enjoy even without them. it also came in handy when i was slowing my usage, there was no need to find something else to fill the gap, the interests were always there.

be interested in stuff, there is SO FRIGGIN MUCH to do. man, i haven't had free time in years. if i ever find myself with free time now, i'd be disappointed with myself as it is an indicator that i am wasting life.
 
well yeah i usually chilled with friends. but those friends are gone now and i find myself at sorts with what to do with sober people...it just feels weird and awkward now. and thats exactly why i was so depressed for a long time because i have no interests. never did before i did drugs, never did while i was doing drugs - besides going to get them, doing them, and finding ways to get money for more - and i dont have any real hobbies now that im trying to stay clean from hard drugs. i find free time is my main problem. what is this SO MUCH to do you speak of...examples? i also find that i'll enjoy certain things for a while and then i loose interest..like always.
 
Good question, I always wonder what to do too! I actually know what I should be doing I just tend to avoid doing it often. I agree with L2R there really are many things to dive into and explore. I find it can be paralyzing because there are so many new things that I want to learn to instead of going step by step I end up avoiding everything.

Free time is great but I've also found it can lead to lots of time of unnecessary thinking/worrying.
 
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Free time is great but I've also found it can lead to lots of time of unnecessary thinking/worrying.
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Story of my life! :\

Recently it's been all about getting up early in the morning so that I feel naturally energized for the upcoming day. Try to socialize and network with people, because just as this site functions as a hub for explorative ideas, so, too, will your social networks in-person (and they may even lead to more practical ideas, as those you spend time with live in the same area, are exposed to the same environment, and generally have adapted. We are social creatures - don't be afraid to take their lead!)

I'm a DJ and drummer, so I spend a lot of time mixing and producing music. "Jamming" with people is always a possibility, although my live-instrument friends aren't much around any longer.

When I'm utterly alone, I like reading books - love reading books, in fact - and, believe it or not, reading up on psycho/neuropharmacology, as I consider it a hobby of mine. I'm infatuated with discussing subjects relevant to the topic on online forums and learning/exploring from there. I meditate. Sometimes I'll go on bike rides or walks in the woods with my camera and, feeling inspired, take some shots of the serenity that surrounds us at all times. I can extend this activity later on by uploading the photos to my computer and editing them, creating some really wild pieces of artwork.

Speaking of artwork, I have volumes of sketchpads filled with pictures in just about every medium. Sometimes all it takes is for me to make a simple attempt at any of these activities, and it's off to the races. Especially with music. I (me) feel disgustingly unproductive in front of the idiot box, and hardly (if ever) watch it. The most time I think I've spent in front of a TV in the past year was in the waiting room of my dentist last week lol.

So there are some ideas. I'm not always motivated and sometimes feel unproductive and in a rut. But when I'm doing well, these are the things that keep me going.

~ vaya
 
maybe you could take up a musical instrument like the piano/keyboard. get a book for beginners and a cheap keyboard and start form the start. maybe in 10 years time you will be a decent musician.
 
without drugs my free time is useless. I get high, watch tv/documentaries, play video games, stay up for days researching pointless things on speed. With speedy drugs time just flies by no matter what you're doing. I don't know how 'regular' people can stand having free time.
 
examples:
exercise, sports and martial arts
musical instruments
creative writing
education, study
travel
hell, holding a good job for a while can be rewarding

not to mention films, books, video games and other forms of entertainment which ALL come secondary to endeavours such as the above

the point is: better yourself with effort.
 
I struggle with this alot, i think what bothers me the most is.. despite what i do or where i go i always end up back where i was; every activity just feels like a distraction and i suppose in many ways it is.. but unless i feel like im achieving something of purpose i cant motivate myself to follow up on any activity. Video games use to be my crutch.. i developed an entire lifestyle around them at one point, and in many ways those were some of the best times of my life.. because although the ultimate goal meant essentially nothing apart from virtual self-projection satisfaction i was able to pretend otherwise or at least convince myself that this was important enough to invest time into.

I can't convince myself of that with anything these days.. but i think traveling for a year will be my next big means of occupying myself. ;)
 
You live in San Francisco and you don't know what to do? good gawd!
Imagine what it's like living in Montana
 
I like:
Listening to music, surfing net (looking at funny pictures/comics, reading forum threads and news articles), talking to friends (getting sushi, watching films, getting tea, getting a beer, going to concerts/clubs with friends), reading books, exercising, watching films/shows, masturbating...

When I'm really motivated I like:
Making music with my laptop, playing drums, trying to play guitar, attempting to write a novel, drawing random things in paint.

I get a sense of achievement out of following a tv show or reading a book. Getting ever closer to finishing it. Even viewing a film, going to a concert or whatever. It's another "thing" I can put on the list of "things" I've experienced.
I'd really like to spend more time on creative pursuits however. It's just harder to get motivated for that. I think because it's easy to reach a dead-end when you're trying to write a novel or whatever.
 
Reading, reading, reading. Doesn't matter what.... philosophy threads, mdma research, any books I have laying around. Writing in my journal (actually just started doing this recently and I love it). Watching TV and feeling guilty for doing it. Making fun of commercials. Questioning my reality. Questioning my future. Fantasizing about a life of crime. Sampling new music. Looking at stupid pictures of cats online. Pornography. Gym. Meditation (really helps you realize how valuable free time is).

All in all the best thing to do with your free time is to think. Don't turn your brain off because you have nothing to do. Question yourself and everything you know. Love yourself. Smile.

Also, this vid can help give you a few ideas. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs :)
 
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