MyDoorsAreOpen
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Most people reading this will probably agree that learning to forgive people who've done you wrong in the past is generally healthier and more justified than holding onto grudges, for the most part. (I'm sure there are exceptions. Will our one or two token Satanists, who believe that vengeance is a good thing and forgiveness is for the weak, please stand up and be counted?)
At the same time, excesses of anything tend not to be good, forgiveness included. Being too quick to let anything slide would make someone an easy target for exploitation, for sure.
So where does this boundary lie? From your own experience, what generally has to happen before you can feel truly forgiving about something? What are the circumstances or criteria that tend, at least for you personally, to qualify an incident as forgivable?
Are there are any things that have been done to you that you're fairly certain you'll never forgive? Speaking hypothetically, what would need to happen for you to be able to forgive these offenses?
Does anyone know any good thought exercises or general life attitudes that are good for cultivating forgiveness?
At the same time, excesses of anything tend not to be good, forgiveness included. Being too quick to let anything slide would make someone an easy target for exploitation, for sure.
So where does this boundary lie? From your own experience, what generally has to happen before you can feel truly forgiving about something? What are the circumstances or criteria that tend, at least for you personally, to qualify an incident as forgivable?
Are there are any things that have been done to you that you're fairly certain you'll never forgive? Speaking hypothetically, what would need to happen for you to be able to forgive these offenses?
Does anyone know any good thought exercises or general life attitudes that are good for cultivating forgiveness?