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tyranarus

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So basically most people seem really dull to me and then theres the random ass attractive unique looking people who stick out to me who id really like to get to know, i usually run into these types of people at raves and such occasionally in everyday life, but the question i pose is How do you just go about starting a conversation off the bat with some one you dont know? id like to know because im trying to expand my social circle with more people i actually like and just to put myself out there in more ways than just attraction.
 
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Hi how is your night/day been? can I buy you a drink? my name is...... how are you? just be yourself and have confidence when you talk to them
 
Are you looking for friendships or relationships? Also, there's a lot of "random ass attractive unique looking people" you don't wanna know, and a lot of dull people that'll have your back through thick or thin... Don't judge a book by its cover mate.
 
^ very true, but it's always good to have that first attraction to get you wanting to actually make the effort to go over. I'm guessing he wants some sexual experiences. You don't usually wanna taalk to the weird drugfucked ill looking people at raves do you? lol (or in general for that matter...unless you're wondering if they need a helping hand with anything!).

OP I would say don't judge someone by how they dress, so you like a freak? Great, but often the loudest person in the room is the weakest - do you really want to involvve yourself with aa bunch of headcases?

tyranarus said:
So basically most people seem really dull to me and then theres the random ass attractive unique looking people who stick out to me who id really like to get to know, i usually run into these types of people at raves and such occasionally in everyday life, but the question i pose is How do you just go about starting a conversation off the bat with some one you dont know? id like to know because im trying to expand my social circle with more people i actually like and just to put myself out there in more ways than just attraction.
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Start off by commenting on something about them you really like, or something that "intrigues you"/caught your eye/made your "head turn", or if they have a light, or a cigarette, or anything really...

It's just best to have something to say before you go over, at least one line, so you're don't end upp freezing, being that smiling but vaguely leering dude. *shudders* back when I wasn't very confident I found myself being that guy a coupla times.

Establish some mutual eye contact - tear away, then look back really soon, and if you get a look/gaze (but not a glance), then either toy with her a little bit - go for one more look away and look back, or just move in for the kill.
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
^ very true, but it's always good to have that first attraction to get you wanting to actually make the effort to go over. I'm guessing he wants some sexual experiences. You don't usually wanna taalk to the weird drugfucked ill looking people at raves do you? lol (or in general for that matter...unless you're wondering if they need a helping hand with anything!).
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Agreed, although they're usually the ones pinging their brains out and not looking to conversate though IME. OP was just really vague on who he considers attractive people. Is he looking for guys or girls, sense of humour, good looks, easy to talk to, more aggressive/dominating people? Love, friendship, fuckbuddies? I guess the title says it lol. It really comes down to your common interests and personality, and also your ability to 'shit-talk' and feel comfortable around people in those situations. That's why that scene ain't for me... unless I'm plastered or peaking, then I'm one of those ill-types hahaha. But yeah, fair advice going round. Just be yourself mate.
 
All pretty good answers and im not trying to judge anyone on their looks i know a lot of supposedly normal people who are some of the most chill individuals out there however im not saying im some ridiculously hot individual however i do enjoy basic accesorizing body mods, jewelry im a guy btw all that cool teenage shit lol so i try to find people interested in that kind of stuff even if its just friendship but basically its like B1tO'RoughJack said about the whole freezing up and being the smiling creepy leery guy a lot of times ill catch people sitting down or dancing looking at me or something or even just people with a similiar interest will start talking to me asking short possible one word answer questions like are those glowsticks or leds and i will promptly answer and then continue dancing and its not that i dont want to talk to them its just that i guess i find the idea of just asking some stranger to come sit down and talk with me weird i dont know why i just do. Im also not specifing any gender im trying to meet because for the most part what ive found with people and relationships is you just have to get out there and meet people for the sake of meeting people instead of waiting for the universe to just throw some one your way.
 
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