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Flaky dates

I do hope it works out for you Foreigner. Not sure this type of behavior can change, but perhaps when you get sick of it and flake on him he'll get the message. lol You never know, and you did the right thing by talking to him, so if he makes a conscious effort to fix it, then I'd say you both are headed the right way.
 
Foreigner said:
He's a Pisces and an artist.
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a professional artist? Oh yeah you're fucked if you keep your attitude to the situation - you need to compromise if you "like him" like him.

As an artist I know first hand that when we are inspired & we are on a roll nothing else matters as those hours are precious, and we never know when we will get artists block - which is existential doom.

I will get back to you on the pisces thing. Lol but for now that means nothing to me regarding flakiness.
 
I'm sorry, but I'm an artist too and that just a lousy excuse to avoid doing things and act all VIP. Most often encountered with painters though, I'm a musician. :D

Anyway, the problem is simple. If he's acting flaky - no matter what he says - this means a very simple thing: you have not made it high on his list of priorities, as of yet. This doesn't necessarily have to be a problem, just make him make you a higher priority, and I'm not referring to asking him directly to do that. You like him that much, man up and win him.
 
Being an artist is not the excuse. But from my own experience when I am in the zone - nothing else matters to be honest. It's very important....Maybe if I'm inspired a lot and things just flow yeah sure, but if things are up and down, I would expect someone I am with to understand when a spark of genius comes my way in some torrid seas of artists block.

Completely agree about the priorities thing, nonetheless - that is it.
 
When men have a passion for something, it's inspiring and attractive. Even if the artistic types drive me insane, I give them props for having a passion for something. I'd much rather talk to someone who has passion than some loser who sits on his couch and just wants to do drugs all day, whines about how life and society sucks and just leeches every ounce of happy from your soul. God, I hate those types. lol

I was actually discussing this with someone else the other day: I was thinking back to my dating history, and I shit you not that every guy I've dated seriously (dated seriously meaning more than one date and lasted a few months) was an engineer. lol I don't know why, but I have to get involved with a smart guy who has passion and interests in something.

I think this might also be why people say girls go for bad boys. Usually, bad boys are emphatic, eccentric and have a passion for something. Yeah, they might be douchebags, but they have interests. The good guy (or nice guy) doesn't always have an interest in anything and sometimes can be pretty emo and annoying about life. For me, I have an immediate turn off switch when someone talks to me about how life is shit and how everything is shitty blah blah.
 
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