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First Date Sex-Question for the Guys

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ccm

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If you have hot sex with a gal on the first date, do you think she is a slut and never call her back? Or do you like the chase better?
 
I don't think she's a slut because of that, but if I go on my averages, then it probably isn't going to last.
On the other hand, the relationships where it's not been first night, have tended to last for a very long time.
 
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plus one, more or less

I can't speak for others guys, but if I have sex on a first date, its because there's great chemistry, and I'm interested in more than a quick fuck. Moreover, its a great sign that she and I have similar opinions about the place of sex in a relationship, and that we don't have any hang-ups about looking like sluts.


When you give it up on a first date, but don't hear from him again, its not because he thinks you're a slut. Guys LOVE girls who love sex, especially when its sex with them. A more likely reason is that the sex wasn't good (which is usually indicative of incompatibility), or you dated a guy who was really only interested in sleeping with you once, for the experience. If its the latter, consider being a little more choosey with the guys you take home.
 
ccm said:
If you have hot sex with a gal on the first date, do you think she is a slut and never call her back? Or do you like the chase better?
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Highly dependent on a number of factors, and a reasonable answer would require more information.

Depending on the guy and girl, age, class, etc... it could be good, bad or irrelevant.
 
I'd have to say that if I was to have hot sex with a girl on the first date I'd think of her as a hot girl I had hot sex with. I would definitely not think of her as a slut but I wouldn't call her again if the sex was of a one night stand character and we weren't really compatible (Sexually or otherwise).

Also, I'd like to note that I've never been a fan of "the chase". In my experience the only guys who like the chase are guys who take sex for granted because they know if they don't get the girl they're chasing there's always some other girl who would have sex with them (and has most likely made this clear). Just my experience from the people I know though...
 
I absolutely HATE dating. All of my long term relationships have started out as FWBs that have eventually turned into more than that. i find that as FWBs you really get to know each other better than sitting at a restaurant talking about each other's jobs, families and current events. Dating just feels so forced. I'd much rather just bone and hang out and see what happens.
 
toa$t said:
Dating just feels so forced.
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QFT

I've cast-off a couple girls (nice ones, too ;)) because we didn't see eye to eye on dating. She (they) wanted proof that I cared, and they wanted it in terms of money spent of pleasing them with meals and tickets to stuff.

I don't have any problem spoiling someone I love. I do have a problem sitting down to a dinner table, and feeling like I'm in some movie or story about going on a date.... they didn't get my criticism of the institution, so I got called an asshole. ;)
 
I went out with a guy I like for the first time today, but to really judge to see if he is relationship material I wanna see how well he can hit it. So I held back, which sux 'cause now I am HOT and BOTHERED.

Dating is bullshit, I would rather post up somewhere and dispense with the social niceties.
 
Pander Bear - I do not require proof of caring by way of money spent. I require proof by way of sex.:D

You atavar has been bothering me for the longest. Is that a damn chiwawa doggie (can't spell, I know) with a wig on? lol
 
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ccm said:
I went out with a guy I like for the first time today, but to really judge to see if he is relationship material I wanna see how well he can hit it. So I held back, which sux 'cause now I am HOT and BOTHERED.

Dating is bullshit, I would rather post up somewhere and dispense with the social niceties.
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I have a (female) friend who always sleeps with guys as soon as she can because she wants to see how compatible they are sexually before getting too involved.

Her relationships rarely last long. Take that as you will.

Personally I'm a fan of getting to know someone pretty well before having sex with them. First time sex is always awkward for me anyway, and I tend to find that I'm the one who won't take the relationship seriously if we have sex early on.
 
ccm said:
Pander Bear - I do not require proof of caring by way of money spent. I require proof by way of sex.:D

You atavar has been bothering me for the longest. Is that a damn chiwawa doggie (can't spell, I know) with a wig on? lol
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I believe its a jack russel terrier wearing a wig. I don't know though, he's not mine. ;)

props on demanding good sex before you fall in love. :D
 
Ya, it is an excellent idea to take proper precautions/protect yourself if doing this.

I haven't been involved (that means no sex and/or relationship) since November 2006, and I am just anxious. The flirtation has been going on for about three weeks now.

How/in what sense is it awkward for you, if you don't mind me asking?
 
Pander Bear said:
I believe its a jack russel terrier wearing a wig. I don't know though, he's not mine. ;)

:D
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Oh, that is not you? A shot of your girl, perhaps?
lol
 
GenericMind said:
I wouldn't consider a long-term relationship with a woman that I had sex with on the first date.
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Strangely I feel the exact opposite, I wouldn't want to be in a long-term relationship with someone who didn't like me enough on the first date to have sex with me, if you have to work on getting someone to like you then there isn't enough chemistry (IMHO).

/mludd
 
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