First Blog- Child Abuse?

Hello to all who may be reading this In starting my first blog, i want to say quite often i turn to blogs to rant or vent about certain issues pissing me off, annoying me etc..sometimes i tend to generalize, but i do understand that there are exceptions to just about everything!
Todays writing is due to a recent argument i have had with a good friend of mine.. this friend doesnt use anything, he had a bad experience in the 80s smoking weed and has since become an advocate to not use at all.. so obviously many debates and arguments between us have taken place over the past 10 years we have know each other! He has proven to me that he knows nothing of what he preaches about, pulling 'statistics' out of his ass pretty much in an attempt to get me to stop using..i, in turn aggrivate him because its never going to happen and he can preach as much as he wants to at me..but the other day i really could have slapped him, and should have.. My father has smoked since the 60s, grows and enjoys it on a regular basis both to be stoned and as pain relief for back problems..so naturally i didnt hide it from him when i first started smoking weed, and for years we have had a wonderful relationship that became more of a friendship than a father daughter kind of relationship.. which in my opinion is a really good thing and i am happy to have been able to get to know my father far better than either of my older 'clean cut' sisters ever could..we smoked together often, and usually went on road trips together and having one hell of a laugh doing so.. explaining to the previously mentioned friend the situation of my father and i, he was shocked and told me that this was child abuse!! i could have screamed.. i was 15, making my own decisions fully aware of the consequences, and would have continued to smoke even if my father didnt become a smoking buddy so to say.. and i have always seen it as a very positive thing..so for this friend to say such a thing really fucked me off to say the least, and it showed me just how much he really doesnt understand..i would be interested in hearing anyones thoughts on this, if you also see it as child abuse, or if you agree it wasnt?
Thanks to any of you who read this, will post more in the future
Tessa

 

Hi Tessa. Congratulations on your new Blog.

Your friend sounds like the typical anal retentive know-it-all who crusades against ALL psychoactives regardless of the type and its individual effects. There is noone more committed than a convert and most teetollers are ex-users.The psychology is simple.

In any event, age 15 is an adult in most parts of the world. At that age in the West it is a bit different but IF your father felt you could deal with it, than why not?

I never did this with any of my kids and in fact I actually have a 15 year old now. Then again I have never been a heavy user of cannabis.

Your friend does nor sound like a fun person.

 

Hi Tessa, Welcome to Blogs and to BL!
I grew up with my mother as more of a friend than a mom-
We smoked and drank together until I quit smoking pot.
(She first tried to smoke me out when I was 11 but I didn't actually start until I was 12-13)
I myself struggled with this as an adult, wishing my mother would have been more of a parental figure. I know I wouldn't be who I am today if not for that experience, which quite honestly shaped my life. I struggled b/c of the negative things that came with this sort of relationship with my mom.....having to take cared of her, her encouraging me to have sex with boys when I was 14 etc. So, our situations may be different, but I do know exactly what it is like to be friends with a parent.
If you are okay with it, and he is okay with it, than your friend will just need to deal with it or move on.
My suggestion would be for you to decide if this person and their opinions matter that much to you and if you want to keep the friendship than you will just have to let it go......
Your friend likely wasn't trying to be hurtful but sharing his opinion.

Again, Welcome and hope to be seeing more of you!!

 

thank you very much for your replies and for reading! The friend mentioned i have known for over 10 years and we see nothing in the same way, and often debate as friends, but at times he can just be such an ass it makes my blood boil lol.. because yes, you pegged it with him being a know it all type! I dont overly care what he thinks, i guess the thought of what he said about it being child abuse just never really occured to me at all before, i am not normally at all easy to shock or offend, but things can still get under my skin lol..