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Finding Your Place in the World
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TheLoveBandit
Retired Never Was, Coulda been wannabe
You never know when this might be needed.
Adam HereNnow
Bluelighter
I agree with what was said earlier, that sometimes you have encounters with people or experiences where you come away thinking that that happened for a reason. I used to have this feeling about once a year on average, but in recent years (I am 25 now) I usually have a general sense of goodness in the world.
The difference was in me-- I gradually came out of shyness as a kid. I still am a thinker and somewhat introverted, but I am also very open-minded, honest to myself and others, friendly and accepting of others and sometimes initiating conversations. It feels good to be on the same wavelength as people-- be it friends, acquaintances, or strangers. I try to see past people's obnoxiousness and cockiness-- maybe they need to be that way because that is the only way they know or the easiest way to cope with their lives, until someone or something helps persuade them otherwise.
Also relating to what was discussed above, we should never be envious of others because for all we know someone with that great job is a liar and a jerk and that guy going out with that model might have a good job and is decent looking but he could be an ass and lies to her to keep her.
One last thing-- I know memorizing things suck, but part of learning and being efficient in certain jobs and in life depends on memorization. It shouldn't be the main thing tested but it should definitely play a good part. Sorry if you disagree.
Peace,
Attitude is your one true freedom: choose it and don't abuse it
The difference was in me-- I gradually came out of shyness as a kid. I still am a thinker and somewhat introverted, but I am also very open-minded, honest to myself and others, friendly and accepting of others and sometimes initiating conversations. It feels good to be on the same wavelength as people-- be it friends, acquaintances, or strangers. I try to see past people's obnoxiousness and cockiness-- maybe they need to be that way because that is the only way they know or the easiest way to cope with their lives, until someone or something helps persuade them otherwise.
Also relating to what was discussed above, we should never be envious of others because for all we know someone with that great job is a liar and a jerk and that guy going out with that model might have a good job and is decent looking but he could be an ass and lies to her to keep her.
One last thing-- I know memorizing things suck, but part of learning and being efficient in certain jobs and in life depends on memorization. It shouldn't be the main thing tested but it should definitely play a good part. Sorry if you disagree.
Peace,
Attitude is your one true freedom: choose it and don't abuse it
ambryanne
Bluelighter
Oh, my God, thank u thanku thank u! I had just awaken from one of those "ready to end it" nights and your post has been the ONLY thing to really hit me in a long time. I understand it, I am ready to embrace these messages. Thank you for helping me and a million other people who are in the hole I am in. Thank you.
TheLoveBandit
Retired Never Was, Coulda been wannabe
Glad it helped. It always makes me feel good to know someone was uplifted, got a smile, or just mae it through another day. Anytime things get rough, feel free to drop in here, or in the LIFE forum, or even send me an email - I'm friendly that way. 
Frigg
Bluelighter
It's amazing what you can find in the early pages of this forum. I found this and thought it deserved another read - especially for those that weren't here a year ago.
TheLoveBandit
Retired Never Was, Coulda been wannabe
Been a long time since I wrote this, but it still stands up well. As I find myself coming back into TDS after a long absence, I see several depression threads, suicidal thoughts, and a general feeling of being "lost" by many members. I hope this can still help some of you, and my PM/email is still always open.
honEbee
Bluelighter
I normally don't come in this forum but I'm happy I did today. Even though I'm not suicidal, there is still an important lesson to be learned for people from every life situation in TLB's words. 
I plan on putting his points to good use.
I plan on putting his points to good use.
Mariposa
Bluelight Crew
*bump*
TLB, this is among the first of your posts I remember reading when I joined BL. Thanks for your many words of wisdom and your leadership over the years.
TLB, this is among the first of your posts I remember reading when I joined BL. Thanks for your many words of wisdom and your leadership over the years.
