Finding Peace

[garygroundwork]

I hear some people say they are at peace now or have found peace. To those people who think they have finally found their peace in life how did you do it or how did it happen for you?

For example was it something like:

-moving to the country, quiet city, beach etc
-through a drug/drugs or coming clean
-through a relationship or ending a relationship becoming single
-with a pet
-quitting a stressful job or quitting work all together/retirement
-having chn
-through a hobby..reading/music/painting etc
-isolating yourself from people

Or what made it happen for you?

 

[paltatomate]

for me it was a mixture between all of what you mention (other that chn, no idea what that is), and a lot of reflection and growth.
there are still some days or situations where i don't feel at peace, but it's getting easier from experience to experience to be at peace again. and then it's mostly reflection and small changes.

big steps like moving to another place, getting away from something/someone, or starting something new is a good thing to do if you know why you are doing it. but it won't automatically bring you peace.

 

[paltatomate]

-having chn

what is this?

 

[jasperkent]

I haven't found 100% peace but I'm consistently a LOT more content/happy/serene than I was in my previous six decades.

Here are the major factors for me:

• I don't take myself too seriously.
• For the most part, I no longer consume substances which cause me physical, emotional, and/or financial distress.
• I work at a job I enjoy with people I like. I won't get rich, but it pays the bills.
• I don't dwell on the past-- neither regretting my mistakes, resenting my misfortunes, nor pining for good times long gone.
• I don't live in fear of the future. The worst that can happen probably won't.
• I try to treat myself and others with kindness, generosity, and respect-- and I accept the fact that I will often fail.
• I embrace the absurdity of it all.

 

[paltatomate]

• I don't take myself too seriously.
• I don't dwell on the past-- neither regretting my mistakes, resenting my misfortunes, nor pining for good times long gone.
• I don't live in fear of the future. The worst that can happen probably won't.
• I embrace the absurdity of it all.

this such great points!
everyone should consider this. would make the world a better place!

 

[kiely]

“If we are peaceful, if we are happy, we can smile and blossom like a flower, and everyone in our family, our entire society, will benefit from our peace.”
Thich Nhat Hanh, Being Peace



"When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro." - Hunter S. Thompson

-- sry




I do find peace in reading philosophy sometimes though. Or happiness.

 

[emkee_reinvented]

Good points Jasperkent.
Never trust a ... inc one self, ruminate, get anxious for nothing and accept it is as it is.
Absurd thats a fact.

Also think what Kiely quoted would be the aim, so that something to incorperate.
Hope it will pass over. Often start likes that but end in rage as no one reading the mails to ...
seems to get this yet.

and for the points.

-relocating to a diff kinda vibe more suitable to your appreciation of life
-substance abuse avoidence
-relation ship with/ without kids ?
-taking a Cat, be prepared to homebound for care, or have people around. Dogs, well IDC [I Defy Cops]. Dogs don t.
And you have to take care off there poo to. Not mine i am souvern and can shit any where i like, by law.

-whatever job wouldn t even matter, a good employer/ employes. Good enough for me.
If your not allready ina maze like i, in which case working actually will cost you money.
Exception a well paid job with a lasting contract.

-Being free aint no vacation either though hard work,
filling your time useful. But can be done ! Way more rewarding as a subpar 9/ 17 job.
So yeah art, but without sharing for me is seems missing something, the purpose outward expression.

-So isolating from the wrong people yeah, but not from people. My opinion, as loner you need em.
And some are great inspirators.

 

[rentedbythehour]

I found acceptance. In order to find inner peace you have to be ok with yourself. I don't believe in regrets. I think once you reach the point of accepting who you are and whatever has happened in your life, that peace comes. I do think age and maturity also have a role in this.
I also have a few daily reminders I don't use so much now, but I did once. They are:

1. The past cannot be changed
2. Opinions don't define your reality
3. Everyone's journey is different
4. Things always get better with time
5. Judgements are a confession of character
6. Overthinking will lead to sadness
7. Happiness is found within
8. Positive thoughts create positive things
9. Smiles are contagious
10. Kindness is free
11. You only fail if you quit
12. What goes around, comes around

 

[rentedbythehour]

I wanted to expand a little here. Not everyone always has the resources to do some of the things you've talked about. Moving, ending relationships, quitting a job, etc are all things that would be difficult for people in today's society. I find most people are living in survival mode, so even finding the time to focus on self is difficult. It must be a priority though.
I do believe getting rid of anything toxic in your life helps. That's people, habits, places, anything that is detrimental. I personally had to do this years ago. I had to stop talking to family members for a while because what we were doing together was not good, for any of us.
Finding whatever makes you happy can be challenging. I had to start very small. Finding one thing a day that makes you smile, that brings that inner happiness. Even if it's only for a brief moment, it's a start. Eventually you'll focus more on those things because they're rewarding.

 

[emkee_reinvented]

There is saying one can only change oneself. Might be true.
That could give innerpeace no doubt.

Its very hard to accomplish this it seems to me, as i still dwell in the past.
And get chased in the present, to which i still act rebelent.
As its unfair, knowing what it at end will cost.
And al the jokers go home, worktime over no remorse.

So don t react anymore, sounds simple, but is actually really hard.
As hard as stopping Weed or other regular substance use.

While i know the outcome would be better if i did. Both.

 

[emkee_reinvented]

Found some peace today.

This way public transportation, don t you love it.
One thing at least unifying all menkind, assume its everywher be it a Donkey, Camel Bus or Plain.
Humans at their best, promoting paths of people random crossing. Pure bingo you never know which ball falls.

It was a new Chaufeur and a Instructor, born on the island i ramble a lot about locals in a negativ way.
Well i was misinterpreting them, and know nothing of the subtle changes between here and Rotterdam.
He knew and after some chit chat on busses revealed my prejudice was based on a wrong assumption.

he said he liked Rotterdammers as there straight to the point, this comes over a bit rude.
But it sclear and out spoken. But thats normal In Rotterdam, here it different he said.
So the two often collaid, as rude straight to the point to a local is like a personal insult.
Which is clearly noticeable in their responses and actions. [my landlord was bugging me]

1+1=2, nice guy. Bus chaffeur seems like a nice job. till i picked up all warning points of the instructor.
Dangerous roads mostly unlit. Accidents, people walking and idiots on the road.

edit; noticeable change over the years since my progressive Alcohol abuse,
and 3 stress, sleep depriviation and Alcohol mediated seizures.

Where used to wish i was death during my morning dump, few years ago. Now i am relaxed, atm.
Its about halfway my second Coffee and Weed i think 'Sempervivum Tectorum' [plant] and,
i am a ''Fah Thong' [big bag of Rice]. Improvement over time, some little lifestyle changes helped.

Also improved my overall health. So more at

 

[-=SS=-]

I embrace the absurdity of it all.

I think this is the biggest one, and the most difficult to do sincerely. The fact that, despite various beliefs and paradigms, no one really knows what this is all about. We seemingly came from nothing.. for no reason, or at least a reason unbeknownst to us. It is the most pressing question of our individual experience, but we find no obvious answer in the silence.

We are here for but a brief interval, that much is certain. It's all so terribly vague, and such an absurd premise. Yet we pretend like it's not, that all this trivial banal cultural shite means a damn by comparison. We get so worked up about silly little things, and big things, and kill each other over such stupid things.

I think this is why you giggle the first time you do mushrooms.

 

[emkee_reinvented]

Just wondering, becoming or at least mingling in. And become a Belgian would help.
Basickly finding a place where you belong or is it fledding. Both.

At least they share some thing s my natural feelings, that seems are missing in my country.
They defy EU. Big selling point !

Banned and keeped banning GlyFosaat, totally into Weed and Perma-Culture.
An all those lovely powerplants, Chemours and what not.
They are everywhere, like Cockroaches and Rats. Maybe Belgium is less soft ?
But they have like the Ardenenen, way above Sealevel. Safe and secure.

Real weird its only 120 km away.
And you are allowed to sell your own made solar/ wind energie and sell it to your neighbour.
For a friendly price, i romantice.

Which also reveals in NL thats not the case.
It flows to the top here i think, most of the gains.

 

[emkee_reinvented]

Real peace is knowing the drug i am so called addicted to.

Will in near Future be one of the tools used to clean up our mess.

Two kids so one must keep this up, never give in. Its for the Children

[consider myself a old man, my granny is 96 and doing great]

Its conclusive its disgraceful ... but takes so much time while its happened before.

El Dia De Los Muertos, hemanos para siempre.

edit: and add reading the amusing local news 'about the over over neighboor who stopped her bussines,
by pure coincidence. 10 years after she had started it. And handed it to the follow up.'

Then i feel better. Life threathening things happen, but not here. Here someone sells her buzz after 10 years.
Big news.

Imagine could have been 9.8 or 10.1 years

 

[JoshuaGuillory36]

I hear some people say they are at peace now or have found peace. To those people who think they have finally found their peace in life how did you do it or how did it happen for you?

For example was it something like:

-moving to the country, quiet city, beach etc
-through a drug/drugs or coming clean
-through a relationship or ending a relationship becoming single
-with a pet
-quitting a stressful job or quitting work all together/retirement
-having chn
-through a hobby..reading/music/painting etc
-isolating yourself from people

Or what made it happen for you?

Completely being yourself and always believing you're in heaven, is the key.

Peace and Love! And GOD bless you ️️️️

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