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Finding it hard to cry?

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noregrets2011

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Do any of the male blue lighters find it hard to cry over relationships? I've been having problems with the same girl for a while now and she can cry very easily in front of me. I'm 20 and haven't cried in 3 years, and that was at a funeral. Sometimes I think I'd feel a lot better if I just cried but I can never seem to. Anyone else have this problem?:?
 
I do I understand I can't cry if I tried too usually I was told it means I'm acting like a man and not letting myself my true feelings its ok to cry once in a while I try and make myself it's hard but I try until I do it helps you alot
 
Not necessarily over relationships, but I find it hard to cry fullstop...I appreciate it when I do - it's such a release but I never feel it well up or anything usually - I have to be really overwhelmed in more than one way to get weepy...But yeah I guess it's hard to cry.
 
Yep, I'm 31, and have the same problem. And it causes me to cry from weird things at weird times, like driving down the road and a sad song comes on, and all of a sudden tears are streaming down my face. The therapist says it is from being taught that 'real men dont cry' at a young age. I hope you figure it out.
 
I honestly think that I physically can't cry.
I can't recall ever crying over anything at all. I probably did as a child but haven't cried since hitting my teens and I am 41 now.
I couldn't even cry at my wifes funeral, I wish I knew why as I'm sure crying helps to deal with tough emotions.
 
I'm pretty certain it is the male bravado why I can't cry, I stopped crying earlier in life because I always found it embarrassing that a lad should cry. Like tonight I'm led in bed awake with a lot on my mind, and I can feel my eyes getting a bit heavy but I don't actually let anything out and I really want to which is making things worse for me as I'm getting more and more frustrated by it. What's the best advice anyone has had about this?
 
I find it frustrating that my emotions seem to be a bit delayed, I won't react til a bit later; often causing others to think I don't care. I find it hard to cry, when I feel something that hurts, only time I cry easily is exactly when I don't want to; when I'm angry. Totally kills trying to play tough, though it's not the helpful kind of crying, more of an annoying eyes brimming over and blurring my vision type deal.
 
I know what you mean, if someone I love is shouting at me and screaming and crying, I just don't react and it makes things worse. And I've had people tell me if that if I just tell them how I feel it would make the situation better, but I never know how I feel anymore if that makes sense.

I don't even cry when I'm angry, or frightened or even if I get into a fight drunk, which tends to happen quite often seeing as I know how to be a dick when I'm drunk. Nothing that stimulates me makes me cry anymore and I hate it, I'm proud to admit it but not proud that I can't release things on my own
 
It's not just the bird, I just wanna release all this stress on my plate, this is my second all nighter in a row and I'm starting to get annoyed
 
I don't have a problem crying about relationships, i just prefer not to do it in front of people. Getting it out always helps me feel bettter right after. I always find it's easier while drinking, although it is easier to go overboard drinking after a break up too.
 
Crying does bring considerable release. I had the same problem from age 14 to about 50. I was aware of the need but somehow could not release the pain. I think that lots of men get trained out of the ability to cry. I remember being taunted in school because I started to cry about something, and so you learn not to do it. It's difficult to get fully back in touch with your emotions. I have found that mdma helped me, but everybody's different. Hope you can come out of it.
 
I found that taking MDMA this weekend has made me a generally happier person. And music doesn't do the trick, I relate to the music I love, Don't Look Back In Anger makes me want to well up but it ends up making me feel really happy, it's weird music doesn't seem to be able to make me cry.
 
^ yeah exactly the point in a lot of music - especially music you're into.
"one good thing about music - when it hits, you feel no pain." - Bob Marley - Trenchtown Rock.

Maybe you just don't need to cry at the mo, then..I'm sure you'll know when you need to cry because it will just come out!

Or maybe you're number than you'd like to be. Either way, just work on yourself.
tkarr said:
Well if you're having girl problems I feel bad for you son.
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haha fuck yeah - choon.
 
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