Whilst pondering over my debaucherous Friday night, I realised why I was so uncomfortable about the fact that the guy joined me and the girl in bed. I couldn't quite put my finger on it before (apart from the fact that I'm not terribly attracted to him).
Out of all the deviant things I have done, I've never really felt objectified. But sometimes, when I've kissed girls in public and get lots of guys around leering, I've always had a sort of dirty feeling that I couldn't quite understand. This happens especially with one Lithuanian girl friend of mine, who is a bit of a cock tease (but a lot of fun!) and will always kiss me and dance sexy with me when we're out clubbing. Now I don't mind too much, because she's a hottie and a great kisser - as most girls are - but at times it just felt slightly wrong, I suppose depending on the crowd as well (i.e. the types of guys around - are they the kind who will be cool about it or are they the kind that will leer and try to take pictures - as one of my workmates tried to do on Friday).
And that's the feeling I got when we were all in bed together. Most guys that I know would feel like kings if they had two hot girls together in bed. And to be honest, unless I really like the guy and feel like I want to give him that feeling, then it makes me feel objectified. Now I've had a threesome before, and in that case it was with two good friends, and I felt really good about being with the guy. I wanted him to feel like a king, and I suspect my girl friend did too. But as for Friday... I don't know. Something about it just makes me feel a bit wrong, and I wish he hadn't been there. I suppose I'd feel better about it if I didn't work with him. But I feel a little ick. Just... objectified.![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
It just suprises me that I can do a million other things with guys, be with guys that I don't particularly like very much (well, I have in the past), act like the perfect little submissive, etc, and that stuff doesn't take away my pride at all, even though the guy might still see me as nothing but a sexual object. For me, it's just a game. So I'm trying to get my head around why I feel so strange about threesomes and girl-on-girl in front of guys.
Any insights?
Out of all the deviant things I have done, I've never really felt objectified. But sometimes, when I've kissed girls in public and get lots of guys around leering, I've always had a sort of dirty feeling that I couldn't quite understand. This happens especially with one Lithuanian girl friend of mine, who is a bit of a cock tease (but a lot of fun!) and will always kiss me and dance sexy with me when we're out clubbing. Now I don't mind too much, because she's a hottie and a great kisser - as most girls are - but at times it just felt slightly wrong, I suppose depending on the crowd as well (i.e. the types of guys around - are they the kind who will be cool about it or are they the kind that will leer and try to take pictures - as one of my workmates tried to do on Friday).
And that's the feeling I got when we were all in bed together. Most guys that I know would feel like kings if they had two hot girls together in bed. And to be honest, unless I really like the guy and feel like I want to give him that feeling, then it makes me feel objectified. Now I've had a threesome before, and in that case it was with two good friends, and I felt really good about being with the guy. I wanted him to feel like a king, and I suspect my girl friend did too. But as for Friday... I don't know. Something about it just makes me feel a bit wrong, and I wish he hadn't been there. I suppose I'd feel better about it if I didn't work with him. But I feel a little ick. Just... objectified.
It just suprises me that I can do a million other things with guys, be with guys that I don't particularly like very much (well, I have in the past), act like the perfect little submissive, etc, and that stuff doesn't take away my pride at all, even though the guy might still see me as nothing but a sexual object. For me, it's just a game. So I'm trying to get my head around why I feel so strange about threesomes and girl-on-girl in front of guys.
Any insights?
