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Feel like a dipshi*t

angryteabag

angryteabag

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i feel like an idiot when i hang out with people. It happens a lot to me, i just feel like theres nothing more to me then a blank stare and a laugh.

Funny thing is my IQ has steadily decreased as i got older

what do i do?
 
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Dude I'm 17 and I'm like you ..... I hate to think what I'm like when I'm older :-S
 
Well, first of all, change the attitude. If you want to start heading in a positive direction you need to want to feel/be better.

Start thinking smart, and you'll start being smart.

Keep stimulizing your brain. As you get older your brain becomes harder and harder to stimulize, hence the reason why after you hit your twenties you start to lose brain cells a few at a time.

Try taking some online memory games, and start emercing yourself into the aspect of learning new things.

Read, read, read. Keeping up with what's new, or what the classics can teach will not only help raise your IQ and give way to more in depth thought, but itll make you a much more charming person to be around. The more knowledge you gain, the more you have to offer to the table.

If you dont already, try to start getting a good nights rest. Sleep is key to not only learning, but retaining what you have learned and staying positive as well as motivated.

Create a healthy diet for yourself. A healthy diet (mixed with good rest) will help give you that push to face the world in a more positive manner.
 
I'd recommend getting your barbell squat up to 400 pounds and your standing press to 200. Sounds silly but you would be surprised. Remember that a weak man is not as happy as that same man would be if he were strong.

Strength: Why And How: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyM7yJWjB94
 
Are you saying someone who is "weak" is not happy? Muscles do not equal happiness and success, and all that focusing on asthetics does is bring more woe to a persons life.
 
Thizzerfershizzer said:
Are you saying someone who is "weak" is not happy? Muscles do not equal happiness and success, and all that focusing on asthetics does is bring more woe to a persons life.
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I said someone who is weak is not as happy as he would be if he were strong. Well actaully, Mark Rippetoe said it.

Its not about aesthetics at all. Its about having a well functioning body capable of performing well through all of lifes demands, mental and physical. And that add much to your life. Did you listen to the youtube video I posted?
 
Staying strong, and staying healthy are two different things.
Staying healthy equating to happiness is understandable, and in fact it's exactly what I was talking about above in my original post.
However, staying strong equating to happiness is just hogwash IMO.

One can be relatively weak, and still be a very happy person.
 
OP, there must be something you can contrbute to a conversation.
Otherwise it seems you are associating with people whom you share no common ground.
 
I consider myself a pretty intelligent human being. However, I often find myself not contributing to social conversation when in a group of people. I prefer to simply observe the interactions and conversation. People don't seem to understand this behavior, and it often turns into some awkward thing...

Like NRG noted, the times when I truly contribute to a conversation is when it is about something I'm truly passionate about, and with somebody that shares similar interests. Maybe you are just surrounding yourself with the wrong people.
 
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I consider myself a pretty intelligent human being. However, I often find myself not contributing to social conversation when in a group of people. I prefer to simply observe the interactions and conversation. People don't seem to understand this behavior, and it often turns into some awkward thing...

Like NRG noted, the times when I truly contribute to a conversation is when it is about something I'm truly passionate about, and with somebody that shares similar interests. Maybe you are just surrounding yourself with the wrong people.
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Same here, i can actually sit in a car with someone, not talk and be completley comfortable with it. I don't really like small talk, i feel like it's entirely generated by the awkwardness of silence, and goes no-where.

I listen more then i talk, and only speak when i have something important to say. Most interpret this as shyness or 'strange'.. i see it as been 'humble'.
 
malakaix said:
Same here, i can actually sit in a car with someone, not talk and be completley comfortable with it. I don't really like small talk, i feel like it's entirely generated by the awkwardness of silence, and goes no-where.

I listen more then i talk, and only speak when i have something important to say. Most interpret this as shyness or 'strange'.. i see it as been 'humble'.
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yea i'd agree with you except i dont think small talk always leads no where. i use small talk to gauge where the other person is at mentally and stay on the same page so to speak. when its just me and a good friend who i see all the time i have no problem with silence. we see each other all the time, we know whats up. with someone i dont know i try to keep the conversation flowing as much as possible. its the only way to get to know someone really.

basically in my mind small talk is the equivalent to dogs sniffing other dogs asses. its how you get a feel for the other person- its alot easier to gauge someone's personality if you are talking to them than just watching them.

to OP, i'd agree with thizzer. that type of mentality is probably your biggest problem not a lack of intelligence. if your shut yourself down mentally by telling yourself that your thoughts are stupid, unintersting, and best kept to yourself then of course people arent going to find you interesting. all your thoughts will be centered around how stupid you are. even if you dont say it outloud it will still be visible. and in my experience, if your not doing shit but sitting on your ass all day your not going to have anything interesting to talk about. do interesting shit/things that stimulate you and you'll have things to talk about.
 
Thizzerfershizzer said:
Keep stimulizing your brain. As you get older your brain becomes harder and harder to stimulize, hence the reason why after you hit your twenties you start to lose brain cells a few at a time.
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I think the word is stimulify, not stimulize. Or is it stimulate... no that's wrong, it's stimulify. :-P
 
It's probably because you are. Do you have any hobbies or interests that help you develop yourself and engage your curiosity about the world? If not, cultivate one!
 
having hobbies and interests and being an exquisite conversationalist do not go hand in hand.
 
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