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ever outed someone's habit or got yours outed by someone else?

picked up a pretty bad coke habit my sophomore year of college and my ex-gf called my parents about it. given the circumstances, it was clearly more about revenge than getting me help (i had already quit by the time she found out), and plenty of her other actions made that clear.

my parents let me make it kind of a "her word vs. mine" issue so the consequences weren't too severe. she definitely made a pretty big deposit into the Bank of Shit that Makes Me Not Like You though.
 
all the stories and shit i've heard about someone 'outting' someone else's drug use to their parents or whoever has always done it out of anger or 'revenge' or greed. no one actually does that kinda thing to someone if they really do care about helping them.
 
all the stories and shit i've heard about someone 'outting' someone else's drug use to their parents or whoever has always done it out of anger or 'revenge' or greed. no one actually does that kinda thing to someone if they really do care about helping them.
 
I "outed" I suppose you could say, a girl I work with who comes to work all fucked up on oxy. I know it's opiates because my boyfriend used to be an addict for years and I know the behavior of someone who's high on them.

I work in a VERY busy and popular restaurant as a host, and we work as a team of about three or four people depending on the night. This girl comes in fucked up to the point that she nods out while putting away menus, can't talk to customers on the phone, and can't remember what table and people I'm telling her to seat.

One day my boss asked me why we were all having such a hard time communicating and working together and I straight up told him "because Amanda is fucking high". To my surprise, he told me that he already knew, and that the other managers had already talked to her about it several times, but there was nothing they could do until they could prove it. So I guess I didn't really "out" her because my managers knew, but it felt good to say it.

I, however, have never been outed :)
 
I have a hard time believing your boss cant just fire that chick, nodding at work or not. Colorado is a right to work state, which means you have the "right" to quit anytime you want, and your boss has the "right" to fire you for any reason as long as its not clearly discriminatory.

She doesn't even have to be on drugs, your boss can fire her for being a shitty employee.

My guess is she's either sleeping with one of your managers, or hooking them up.
 
Haha I don't know but it drives me crazy!

Do what you want in your own time, but when she comes to work fucked up and makes my job twice as hard it pisses me off. And the girl is actually really nice, I don't dislike her for any other reason besides the fact that she's lazy and can't do her job.
 
Nobody ever "outed" me. My parents and friends figured it out for themselves. And of course, I wouldn't out somebody unless they were seriously going downhill and heading for death. And I'd only tell their loved ones - definitely not the pigs.
 
My cousin is a very skilled pathological liar, a person who presents this image to the world at large of being this reliable, responsible person, a superior parent, and a marvelous teacher. Meanwhile, she is a total crackhead and alky who lies, cheats, and steals to get drugs. She decided it would be a great idea, a few years ago, to inform my son, who was then about 17-18 that I had a pill habit. She did so when she cadged a ride from him to her crack dealer's; when he asked where they were going and why, she told him it was to "buy pills for your mom's vicodin habit". This was a total LIE! I didn't even KNOW she had asked my kidto drive her anywhere, and she was going there to score crack for herself, but the damage was done. Thus began a series of events which has driven a wedge between my son and me, and has caused me to become estranged from several family members.

There are more stories I could tell about this vicious, evil cunt and her treachery, but that would be an entire thread in itself.

She lost custody of her daughter to her hillbilly babydaddy a few years back, and I am the only one in the family who understands the true reasons why. Her daughter, "Alyssa", is only eight years old, but when she gets to be old enough, it is going to be payback time. I am going to wait till Alyssa is about 16, and then I am going to inform her that her mother chose to stay with her douchebag crack dealer boyfriend, even though she KNEW her babydaddy's lawyer would use this fact to help him gain custody of her. (Babydaddy might be a hillbilly without much education, but the man is smart enough to see her for what she is.) Yep, she chose a penis and free drugs over her kid, and now whines to one and all about how unfaaaaair the legal system is and how wrong it was the she lost that custody fight! She does more drugs than anyone, yet lied about the extent of MY use and caused my son to hate me, so it's only fair I out HER when the time comes. If I follow through, this will be the only time in my life I will have have ever exacted revenge on someone without caring who I hurt in the process--I have always had too many moral scruples to do so in the past, but I want her to feel PAIN, and mostly, I want her daughter to hate her sleazy whore guts. Then she will know how it feels to have your kid hate you. I live a clean life now, but have not been able yet to mend the rift she caused between my son and myself, and I miss him so crazy bad that it eats away at me all the fucking time. What do y'all think? Does she deserve it? It would hurt her daughter, too, and she is innocent, (even though she's a brat and I can't stand her, I would not want to hurt an innocent person.)
 
JustaChippa said:
Her daughter, "Alyssa", is only eight years old, but when she gets to be old enough, it is going to be payback time.
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Please don't. What she did to you was awful, putting your son in that situation and causing a rift between you two. But you would only be doing the same thing. It is absolutely world shattering to hear one of your parents has a problem with drugs, and sometimes relationships are ruined for good. Don't waste your energy on payback, it's absolutely not fair to her kid to learn about her mom's addiction like that, just like it wasn't fair for your son. Instead use your energy to mend the relationship you have with your son.
 
^^I agree. If you hold a grudge for 8 years and then exact some petty payback against a member of your own family, then you are a pretty bad person.
 
yeah what the fuck. Way to stoop down lower than a fucking hillbilly crackwhore. At least shes fucked up and addicted, youre just straight sober plotting to do some heinous shit that will destroy some kids life. Its pretty cool that two kids lives have been seriously damaged because you and your cousin are selfish junkies who will do anything to have the last word over some petty shit.
 
I don't condone outing a person just because they're doing something I don't find acceptable but when their life is on the line and friends or myself can not help them then getting the person help by any means is justifiable. Of course bringing the law into the matter should almost always be avoided.Personally I have only outed one person ever and it was to there parents. The story goes like this.

We were in college and my friend started drinking heavy. At first me and my friends just figured it was a phase, we all went through a time when drinking got a bit out of control but it generally passed after a while. But her drinking went from heavy to out of control real fast and nothing I or anyone else did or said could change her habits. After about 3 months things got way worse and we decided to intervene.

She was drunk 24/7. She'd wake up pound vodka or whatever she could get her hands on until she passed out, then wake up and pound more alcohol until she passed out again. this went on and on. She barely could walk at times and was stealing booze from everyone. Which somehow got blamed on me (a result of her manipulation so as not to get caught) until we caught her in the act and discovered just how big of a drunk she really was. No exaggeration, were talking about full on withdrawals, shakes, panic attacks etc.. Well after confronting her and being told nothing was wrong we threatened to call her parents if she didn't go to the local counseling center and get help. She promptly agreed to see the councilor asap after the threat but when I saw her later on in the week she said she missed her appointment and that she really didn't need help.

The next day we called her parents and they took her home and put her in an inpatient facility. She was pissed at first but now she's sober and doesn't hold any grudges against myself or my friends.

Sorry if it was a bit long winded but I needed to illustrate how severe this girl's addiction was and show that outing someone is sometimes required to help them when nothing else will.
 
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I have never been outted or had to out someone else, but I could certainly imagine a situation, whereupon after having exhausted every other feasible solution, and only if the persons life was seriously in danger that it would be the only ethical option left. I would never out the person without speaking to them first, offering my own discreet help etc, and then even if i did HAVE to out them to save their life, i would try and find the most compassionate family member who might be able to help, possibly a sibling who wouldn't take it as bad if their parents were the type to disown. I'd have to know also that the person I'd be telling wouldn't be the type to disown or do something stupid or couterproductive. I guess I'm just saying that taking this step is something that I would not take lightly, the consequences are just too huge.








edit: i dont think i would ever even consider outing someone to the police, thats just stupid imo
 
x girlfeinds mom called my mom at work and yells at her about me being a junkie till she crys , She not only made my mom cry but also called the police and told them i buy/sell oxycontin ,almost went to rehab after that one im not even an iv user never have, but i have been on oxycontin for the last 5 years atleast
 
Yes, and i fucking hate him for it.

I'm a bit of a hardcore weekend warrior, so I went over to my buddies house on like 8mg of xanax and i had just shot a reasonable amount of some good, clean H (considering the xanax dose) so I was pretty fucked up, but not like unconscious, maybe nodding a little)

now my friend knows I dabble in all this stuff, but for some reason his friend convinced him to tell my parents I was out of control with pills and needles and shit.

anyway, parents had me go get drug tested (im over 18 so it was by my choice) and I didn't test positive for anything but Marijuana, which they already knew about.

so the whole thing just started a bunch of shit that never needed to be addressed, and my parents still don't think I do hard drugs.

all is well but my friend can still goto hell
 
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