Ever like someone while dating someone else or wish you dated someone else?

[Joker11789]

Just like the title ...ever been in a relationship and want someone else ..more than lust of course ..

or worse is acceptable like cheating ..

also ever choose one person and lose another but miss the other a lot ..even as a friend ?

 

[Joker11789]

I'll admit I have ..my best friends are always girls and one was a diff type of look and attitude than my gf ..but I didn't want to lose my gf so it was a lose lose ..knew the other girl first and she just up and left one day and I can't even find her (which means she doesn't want me to of course lol) ..

 

[Joker11789]

So no one else has anything ? Lol come on story time ha

 

[citizen cained]

Yes with every GF I have had, after the honeymoon period is over I think "if I was single I could fuck her" or what ever, It's like a fear of not being able to sleep with someone if they offered which is weird as I am not really the one night stand type.

I also worry that If I am with someone, I may miss an opportunity to date someone even hotter or better suited to me..

I suppose it is because I haven't found "the one" yet.

 

[Joker11789]

Yes with every GF I have had, after the honeymoon period is over I think "if I was single I could fuck her" or what ever, It's like a fear of not being able to sleep with someone if they offered which is weird as I am not really the one night stand type.

I also worry that If I am with someone, I may miss an opportunity to date someone even hotter or better suited to me..

I suppose it is because I haven't found "the one" yet.

Thats how I was threw high school ..found "the one" but still wonder maybe if we met later I coulda been with this girl or experienced this n that lol

 

[llama112]

I've been with my boyfriend for over four years and I definitely find others attractive but do I actually want someone else? No way. He's the one that I want to be with.

That being said, in my previous relationship, I was with my ex, and I wanted my current boyfriend. So I left that relationship.

 

[Joker11789]

I've been with my boyfriend for over four years and I definitely find others attractive but do I actually want someone else? No way. He's the one that I want to be with.

That being said, in my previous relationship, I was with my ex, and I wanted my current boyfriend. So I left that relationship.

So that worked out then , for me it's more a missed opportunity ..maybe a lesson on relationships (more I've had more I learned the little things ) .. Plus lust is a pain ..haven't cheated never will .

im assuming you're happy with how you're decision worked out ? lol

 

[Animal Mother]

yup. And as soon as I order a Turkey club, I wish I would have ordered the french dip.

Grass is always greener is basically is my prerogative.

 

[dimensiontripping]

I definitely think about this from time to time and has been a topic on my mind a lot at certain points during my current 5 year relationship. I often kind of find a middle ground, because what I like about these girls the most is that they are cool and I enjoy being around them. We become friends and what I often find out is that if we were to date, or even just have a sexual relationship, it would not be as good as what I have now.

There was this one girl that was my best friend in colleges gf. they broke up and we both live in the same city now (she just moved to mexico though for a few months). She beautiful, an artist, rebel, witty the whole package but as I got to know her, she is kind of crazy, insecure and just not into the idea of sticking around for anyone too long. She became good friends with both my girlfriend and I. I think becoming friends often is even better than chasing her in any way especially if you have some amazing going for you. Who doesn't love beautiful company? Though I may be chasing girls here and there, in the end, its just a reminder that I who I am with is incredible. She does the same thing to some extent. Its part of being young and in your 20's (especially in a major city like we are). No harm, but no cheating.

I like to crush, who doesn't? But in the end, I am way more happy with who I am with. The grass is always greener on the other side, as they say.

 

[Joker11789]

I definitely think about this from time to time and has been a topic on my mind a lot at certain points during my current 5 year relationship. I often kind of find a middle ground, because what I like about these girls the most is that they are cool and I enjoy being around them. We become friends and what I often find out is that if we were to date, or even just have a sexual relationship, it would not be as good as what I have now.

There was this one girl that was my best friend in colleges gf. they broke up and we both live in the same city now (she just moved to mexico though for a few months). She beautiful, an artist, rebel, witty the whole package but as I got to know her, she is kind of crazy, insecure and just not into the idea of sticking around for anyone too long. She became good friends with both my girlfriend and I. I think becoming friends often is even better than chasing her in any way especially if you have some amazing going for you. Who doesn't love beautiful company? Though I may be chasing girls here and there, in the end, its just a reminder that I who I am with is incredible. She does the same thing to some extent. Its part of being young and in your 20's (especially in a major city like we are). No harm, but no cheating.

I like to crush, who doesn't? But in the end, I am way more happy with who I am with. The grass is always greener on the other side, as they say.

Ueah ah good points ..basically same thoughts when I had my thoughts even had a "best friend" who was my type and so on but I wouldn't of wanted to date for ever ..but I wish I did type thing and could of during my long relationship and wanted to during it..

but at the same time I'm too happy like you said with who we have why leave type thing..also I always end up considering it when I'm bored and realize I wouldn't want much from them sometimes it's lust which would be a huge mistake lol .

 

[llama112]

So that worked out then , for me it's more a missed opportunity ..maybe a lesson on relationships (more I've had more I learned the little things ) .. Plus lust is a pain ..haven't cheated never will .

im assuming you're happy with how you're decision worked out ? lol

I'm very with how it worked out. It was risky... putting a three year relationship on the line for some guy I didn't know? But it worked out for the better. It could have gone either way. I'm sure that, even if things with my boyfriend hadn't worked out, I would have found someone else. So I wasn't terribly worried.

Opportunities are sometimes missed. But that's okay. Just keep that in mind next time an opportunity arises

 

[pofacedhoe]

yep for sure. didn't cheat though

unlike first relationship where i really didn't want anyone else but had bipolar sluttiness ,cheating with people i didn't even fancy, issues that killed it. sad face

 

[Animal Mother]

I'm happy to say that I've never cheated. I have, however, been with multiple women during the grey zone beginning of dating. I am not especially proud of that though. I feel like I'm taking advantage of some one.

 

[swampdragon]

I think too many people see things in black and white.. it's perfectly possible to have romantic feelings for more than one person. Whether those are acted on, I guess depends on your moralistic stance and/or what you've agreed with your partner/s. I wouldn't say it was a "grass is greener" thing, more a "different patches of grass are different and interesting in their own ways" thing.

 

[Joker11789]

I think too many people see things in black and white.. it's perfectly possible to have romantic feelings for more than one person. Whether those are acted on, I guess depends on your moralistic stance and/or what you've agreed with your partner/s. I wouldn't say it was a "grass is greener" thing, more a "different patches of grass are different and interesting in their own ways" thing.

Ya , for some of us I believe that's the case ...I would like to know how things would of went/turned out sometimes too just out of curiosity since you learn life lessons from so many different things .