You helped me so much today @Nas47 .Amen!!!
Excellent!To help someone really makes me glad.Thank u too for good starting of the day.Keep on the fight.gonna help each others remotely
. Great novel and then proceeded to sleep with her because I am no priest like Zosmia (although in retrospect Zosima was implied in the novel to be a womanizer when he was younger -- perhaps thats why his corpse stunk).
not just advices I'm their chain( you know I don't know what happiness is?, or success but pleasing others is not for sure!)
First my language is realyy bad and feel goin'crazy.something that u want and suceed Second i know what the person u are.Something,that scattered me from the deepest of my soul You are here from long time,a mod... And you really made something really disgusting.....Talk avout Shady... And one of his picture-you (and that's was the moment,that i feel what a person is u)...told his name,where he live and so on.So I was astonished.Realy sorry,that we can't talk on my own language....so much things to say.Why y do this?As to corpses and all smell bad-well this is show me ur real self.....someone with...BIIG.....fuck you are patetic.Can't speak on english...try to translate:The subject matter and central-eastern European phrasing of that sentence suddenly brought to mind Zosima (the priest from Dostoevsky's novel Brat'ya Karamazovy); he was a priest, or rather a monk, who people would flock to, a healer of sorts. Was a mystical sort of guy, also a genuinely nice guy, seemed to have a divine connection. In anycase, he died at a certain point (it is a long book) and his body very quickly began to decay and smell bad. This was a big scandal because true holy men were not supposed to quickly decay and smell after they died. So the sound and tone of your statement, "priests,if they are a real, true priests from the calling of their hearts" took me back to the good, true priest Zosmia and his suspiciously smelly corpse
As far as the toxicity of empathy you have to think of the origins of where empathy comes from. It comes from ones own ability to empathize with the pain of another based upon their own similar experience or history. So in some ways, empathy is really a reflection of your own pity for yourself. In some ways sympathy is more noble because it isn't based on some shared personal experience. A woman who's husband left her has a greater capacity to empathize with a woman in a similar situation than one without that shared experience. Anyone who has ever described themself to me as being an "empath" has also been noticeably and conspicuously more self-focused and egocentric than the general population.
Think of the empathy that MDMA produces. Is that valuable and meaningful, particularly the outward expression of that to others? Say a person amongst a group of people at a rave, while high on MDMA, turns to their group of friends and says, "man I love you guys, I'm going to always be there for you guys", or perhaps think back on a deep conversation with a friend while high on MDMA, how strong of a bond did that actually form?
Funny enough, I once slept with a girl who was engaged to be married, and was a self-described "empath". Right before I said, "hey aren't you engaged?", and she said, "yes, but once when he and I took MDMA together we said we'd both understand and forgive each other if we cheated on one another". I thought, damn people suck
So yeah, empathy can be toxic, and ultimately of questionable value. True sympathy, is more noble: feeling bad for someone even though you have no experience with their type of suffering and cannot relate.
But conversely, empathy is what builds non-profit foundations, etc. No one starts a foundation for a rare form of pediatric cancer because they sympathize with the sufferers. They start it because their daughter had it. Humans, like all animals, behave largely and almost entirely in pursuit of self-interest or as a reaction to truama.
Yeah I read this somewhere and also that everthing we do is for our own best interest... hoping this is bunk science cause my life is not about me.
I don't know Shady's name, my description of him as "a man named Ziga from Slovenia" was only a form of existential humor. I don't know his name or where he is from. I always figured he was Hungarian but that is just a guess. Any time you see me participate in the Lounge you can be sure that what I'm saying is joke, like when I said Acklac is fighting in Ukraine. But my humor is very dry so it can be confusing, especially when translated.he did in no uncertain terms and i edited the most damning out to try to keep him from infractions.
You seemed to have misunderstood that joke
Probably....my english is bad.Not sure to understand everything......forget about it.May be talk so much,may be they spray us with something.....something happens here....people are sick.Guess just feel the war.I am sorry.Will try to keep silence and talk lessYou seemed to have misunderstood that joke
