Why not do both?? Pill sex is awesome, so is scattered sex. Haha!
Seriously though, taking pills with someone you love can be a mind blowing experience. It can open you up and make you see things within yourself (and them) that you hadn't realised.
As for an ultimatum between love and XTC, I was in that situation at new years... after telling the person that they won, they then said to me that not partying would change who I was. They were right.
Anyone interested enough in raves to be reading this would be interested enough to know that not partying would change the essence of who you are. The concious decision to go out on a weekend is now a decision not to go out. It is strange for me to actually wake up on a Sunday.
And I guess that he could see that changing that would be changing who I am as a person, making him not love me as much anymore.
I am not saying that drugs are necesarily part of it. Because for me they aren't. But I know that if I had a partner who disagreed with recreational drug use, or wasn't into the scene, that there is no way that they could completely love me because it is part of who I am.
As for the question of XTC vs Sex vs Love, I choose all of them. They go together a treat.