Eaten up by guilt

[the bold one]

today was the 3 year aniversary of the death of my girlfriend.she died of a heroin overdose.the reason for my guilt is that i was the one who introduced her to the drug and feel so responcible.in the intervening years i have managed to pull myself away from my addiction. but still feel so eaten up when ithink of her.what will i tell her daughter when she is old enough? does anyone in tds have any sinilar experiences? does the guilt go away ever? any similar talesould be appreciated,i feel close to a breakdown and am unsure how to cope with my guilt anymore. yhank you,erik

 

[ocean]

It is understandable why you feel bad, but it isn't your fault.
A person makes the choice to do a drug themselves.
Introducing it to her may weigh heavy and I'm sorry for that, but if she continued on, it was her choosing.
Have you tried going to grief counseling or perhaps to a group?
Try to understand that her death is not on you, and forgive yourself for introducing her to the drug. I am sure she wouldn't want you to beat yourself up over it.
I'm sorry for your loss

 

[molly897]

you will tell her daughter how beautiful and amazing she was. see this as an opportunity to turn that guilt into ambition to raise a wonderful daughter... your daughter isn't going to love you any less

 

[Draigan]

[I know what you're trying to say man but it's a bit too harshly-worded for a thread like this k? - n3o]

We all are guilty. Remember that if someone trips on a stone along the path, its not just the fault of the person who tripped, its also the fault of them who came before along the path and failed to remove it.

Theres a whole world out there man, and you are not entirely responsible for this!

 

[n3ophy7e]

Hi bold one, I really feel for you mate, that's a horrible thing to have gone through.
I'd like to echo what ocean said and suggest (if you haven't done so already) that you get some counselling of some description. Whether it's one-on-one or in a group setting I think it will really help you.

The grief and guilt WILL pass with time, sometimes with horrific life-changing events such as this is can take a bit longer for it to heal. But you will be able to forgive yourself one day.

One thing is for sure, your girlfriend will have forgiven you. She knows that if you knew what was going to happen you would have changed how things panned out. But you didn't know it was going to turn out like this. If you can work through it and learn to forgive yourself, you will be able to enjoy your life again