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Drugs in front of kids?!?

I never saw drug use as a child, maybe I saw my parents a little drunk or smoke a J sometimes, and I turned out to take all sorts of drugs.

but a m8 of mine I remember we were like 12 and i was at his house and his dad whipped out a bit of smack and some foil and started taking a burn,
now he was my very close friend and i never told a soul (except the whole of BL ha) what I saw because the look and shame on his face was something i'll never forget.

But he never turned out to use drugs, maybe a bit of coke or the odd eccy an some weed but now im sure he hasnt touched anythin in 2 years, and his big bro wont touch anythin but beer
and im sure he must of seen the ol' man takin his medicine.

so sometimes it can have the opposite effect I think, like "no way will I end up like that."


just a thought.
 
Quick update. Just spoke to my pal and he's doing pretty well. Early last week he was ringing me at 3am and begging me to get him some gear and drop it off (which I didn't). I think he' over the worst of it and he actually appreciates the time off. It was looking after the disabled kid that was doing him in and I was worried because the kid's social worker was getting pretty sus. Just to clarify I was never really going to call CPS (or UK equivilent social services) as kids that go into care usually end up in a terrinble mess. As followers of this thread might remember, his late partners best friend works for the social services and got involved before anything got 'official'. Speaking him today he was on really good form, we were having a joke and stuff. I think he realises how out of control things were getting and the consequences if officials did get involved. Again that wouldn't be my doing but the social worker was beginning to ask awkward questions (are you sure you're coping etc). Well there you go, things are looking better and there's one less thing to keep me up at night!
 
simon.darcourt said:
Exactly.

It is my opinion that if this person is truly your friend then you spend time speaking to them and voice your opinion directly to them and try to get across how much you care for them
and how deeply it is concerning you, without involving any outside organisation.

I would like to ask miss kirsty if she would ever be able to consider the person who had her child separated from her a friend.

I would also like to ask captaincaveman why he let his friend use the drugs in front of his kid in his house and not say anything at the time?
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Just to say I did do something. In fact if you'd read my post I said I took the kid to the park for an hour and he rung me when he was done. When I got back I told him it was fine to come round my house and sort himself out but not bring his kid. He laughed it off at the time but he knew I meant it. Also someone posted a good point saying what's the difference between him smoking brown and parents falling around drunk. This was something my mate said to me. I have lad severe problems with alcohol in the past and he said the kids would be in more danger with me looking after them when I was drinking loads. He had a good point which is why I wouldn't judge him because even when he's gauching he's more attentive then I would be after a bottle of vodka so.... Difficult situation!
 
mrflowers00 said:
doing drugs in front of kids will almost insure they grow up to be an addict as well
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WRONG...I saw drugs around me as a child...I remember one day going into my mums bedroom and her mirror was on her bed, so I picked it up and put it back where it belonged...About 5 mins later i heard a blood curdling scream from my mother..."Who picked up my fucking mirror kids" she yelled..."I did mum, i wanted to look in it" I said....
Well apparently there was a good wack of cocaine sitting on it that i didnt notice as an 8 year old!! Our wooden floor boards didnt let mum get any off the floor as it went in the gaps..

Anyway, I turned out to be a junky and my sister is straight as a freakin nun!! Also a childhood friend who mum did drugs and partied with my mum, she also NEVER touched drugs or grog in her 40 years!...
So that statement is very wrong mate...And generalising also!!!Children will either do the " No way am i going to be like my mum"...Or " Turn out the same"...There is no way to tell what your children will end up being...Unless you are a morman or those people who live in communes, what are they called again...with the scarves on their heads...ummmm....and long dress and still live in the olden days with horses and wagons......and no electricty...ummmmm....You know who i mean!!!
 
You'd think... But do you know how horrible foster care system is?
Maybe the dad is doing drugs in front of the child, which I totally disapprove of, but I'd hope the child isn't being beaten and repeatedly raped at home. These things are VERY common in foster homes. Do you know how many little girls have their foster dad's babies?
My siblings alone have been abused in more than a dozen different "state homes" between the two of them. One ended up stripping and having a child AND OD'ing at 16. All of which were things that did not go on in her real parents home.

CPS is an opinion... but it should be one of the LAST.


Also, I know children well and a 3 year old could definitely figure out something is up and though they may not know exactly what, they'll remember it for later. My memories of my parents drug use are vivid, and I haven't even lived with them since I was 2.
 
I agree that his behavior is bad but if i were that three year old i would take witnessing drug use over foster care any effin day of the week
 
My blood pressure is going through the roof even reading the thread title.

I lost custody of my daughter when she was 2. I took too many pills. After a year of treatment, therapy, and so on she will be coming home sooner than later.

I left my ex because he would be high in front of her... yes getting high, preparing the drugs etc. as well. It is the most fucked up thing to see the child react to this. I left him but was stuck with a habit myself... CPS came anyway.

I'm not going to stress myself out reading this thread because I'm sure my input will have no effect on this kid's life.

My 2 cents.
This kid NEEDS to be with other family ASAP or if not.... call CPS. You have an opportunity to help. Short-term park things aren't doing shit. You are suffering with this knowledge. ACT.
 
mami said:
My blood pressure is going through the roof even reading the thread title.

I lost custody of my daughter when she was 2. I took too many pills. After a year of treatment, therapy, and so on she will be coming home sooner than later.

I left my ex because he would be high in front of her... yes getting high, preparing the drugs etc. as well. It is the most fucked up thing to see the child react to this. I left him but was stuck with a habit myself... CPS came anyway.

I'm not going to stress myself out reading this thread because I'm sure my input will have no effect on this kid's life.

My 2 cents.
This kid NEEDS to be with other family ASAP or if not.... call CPS. You have an opportunity to help. Short-term park things aren't doing shit. You are suffering with this knowledge. ACT.
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Nah, you don't do that. However you shouldn't show the kid that he's allowed to ditch him while he fixes. I wouldn't let him fix in my house with a kid hanging off him.
 
I bet everyone in this discussion advising them to call CPS is a childless addict! This person is also caring for a down syndrome child. How well do you think that child would hold up in the foster system??? Childless fools.
 
I think your friend is disgusting. Even though a kid may be young, they still take in everything (even though they may not fully understand it at the time) and are highly impressionable. I know seeing my father getting wasted on alcohol constantly as a kid made me think it was normal to do that when I turned about 16.....
 
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