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Drug "friends": Is it possible?

Drugs can contribute to friends falling apart. However the truth is that people change. Maybe it can be because of drugs, but sometimes they just change and drugs have nothing to do with it. It sucks but thats the way life is. When you're young you think you are going to be friends with people all your life, yet 90 percent of the time this doesnt work out. People go their own ways, or their personalities change. This has happened to me even before i started using drugs. Its just life :(
 
gloggawogga said:
I can't say drugs break up friendships. But what they do do many times is bring out the true character of people, and that breaks up friendships. What you need to do with this friend is lose him, becuase from what you said his problems are deeper than weed or any other drug.
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I completely disagree. While drugs may at times bring out the "true character" more often, IMO, drugs completely CHANGE one's character. You cannot tell me that long term drug use cannot lead to personality changes. I've seen it happen, many times over. An addiction can make a saint steal. To say that the person had problems only REVEALED by drug use isn't always corect, and is sometimes completely wrong. I've seen many poeple who were fine, upstanding people become total degenerates after developing a meth/coke/insert drug of choice here addiction. These have been people I grew up with, that I have known my entire life. The problems weren't revealed by drugs, but created by them. you cannot fuck with your bodies chemistry nonstop, and not expect changes to take place. personality is usually one of the first things affected in my experience
 
"To say that the person had problems only REVEALED by drug use isn't always corect, and is sometimes completely wrong"

Well, I don't think that we're talking absolutes here.


There is alot of truth in drugs showing the "true character" of a person. It is easy to put up a fake personality of understanding, caring, a "good " person when off of drugs. Drugs such as coke, E, psychadelics offer you a look at some other aspects of your friend's mind.

I used to have about 10 "close" friends in my life. Every one of them I've done E with before. During those "high times" with some of those friends I really saw that they were not who they pretended to be. Every single one of those friends I am no longer friends with. Not because of drug use, but because I became aware of their underlying motivations.

I now have 3 closer friends now. Friends that have proved their worth over time and with ordeals.

When people decide to open the Pandora's Box of illicit drug use, they go in with the knowledge that they will be testing their strengths and exposing their weaknesses. I think we all know people for whom that Box should not have been opened. Some personalities cannot handle any drugs.
 
me and my closest friends all smoke too much weed. weed is definently more important that each other. i'll smoke with whoever has weed, and usually if people don't have weed then they don't smoke. we generally gave up smoking up each other. i would rather get high alone then hang out with my friends with no weed (because there is nothing to do)
 
If you chill with anyone that has ever showed at all that they're untrustable to you then you are in very risky business, it's basically like playing russian rullet, they might not fuck you over this time you deal with them, but eventually they will, so it's best to not play russian rullet at all and just chill with home dogs taht you are positive are down ass real ma fackaz, know what i'm saying???

Oh also never chill with anyone that puts money before a trusting relationship. It results in shadyness, you gotta both want the same relationship level otherwise things dont work out, if one person puts friends before money and another puts moeny before friends then the person that loves friends first will get burned(happened to me quite a few times, but i've learned a valiuable lesson from it:))
 
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" if one person puts friends before money and another puts moeny before friends then the person that loves friends first will get burned(happened to me quite a few times, but i've learned a valiuable lesson from it"

That's SO true. It took me a couple times to read that (puncuation problem I think :)). And the problem is that YOU are the one that puts the friendship 1st, you don't usually see it until it is too late. - Thus the "Early Warning Radar" of a good dose of drug "truth" serum.
 
LOL...no problem. I guess I didn't find it very profound, as it seems basic to me, but at the same time, judging from some posts, many feel as if they are invincible and that the drugs won't have a single long term effect
 
I talked to my friend actually Friday night and I think I made him think about things. I just told him that when you are doing drugs, basically there are two paths you can take: One is just not giving a fuck about anything but drugs. You just don't care about your family or friends and you just end up hurting a lot of people. The second is doing drugs, but keeping your life straight. You have to be responsible for your actions and know when you are going too far.

I told him that Friday night and I also discussed these people he is hanging out with. He told me I was right about everything. He just got caught up in having too much fun that he wasn't worried about the more important things. He went home Saturday morning and I think his parents were super happy. The thing that made my day is that his parents thought that the way he was acting was my fault, but he explained to them that I was the one that talked some sense into them. Saturday afternoon, they called me up and apologized to me and actually thanked me.

Me and him got high Friday and he actually smoked a ounce with me and gave me 7 2mg Xanaxs for free. But I did give him a few bucks for food and I gave him so money for the weed. I still do think drugs can help break up friendships though, but I think drugs play a very small part in it. The thing that plays the biggest part is who they are hanging out with and their attitude.
 
Iv'e lost friends over drugs, and made some very good ones as a result of them. The only way that drugs are a factor with me is if people are judgmental about drug use, or get so into them that they fuck their lives up. If you are a good friend with the latter, you really should try and help them out. Again, don't be judgmental, just try and show them where the negative change is.
 
here's a perfect example of a drug friend...

When i first started smoking pot, i started hanging out with this kid. We smoked pot together and had crazy times (low tolerance.) Eventually really into DXM and any pill he could get his hands on. He completely changed and became an asshole. But for those few months, i had a great friend and i found a great drug.
 
chrisisparanoid said:
heavy weed smoking fucks up friendships...especially if that's all you do with your friend anymore.
i've noticed that most people usually "grow up" around 20-25 and realise that they've wasted so much time and effort being stoned for the last 5 years...its amazing how people become so addicted to weed and its whole culture.
i'm trying not to be heaps anti-weed here but smoking weed everyday makes you worry about things like this too much and makes people into sketchy fucks.
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No doubt! I just got to the stage where you 'grow up' and don't spend %100 of your time on a quest to get high anymore. It's sad looking back at all the time I wasted on a fruitless quest to get high and how many people will only call you if they want you to smoke/drink with them. I'd rather sit back and have a few brews with a good friend then hang out with 8 people that are only over to smoke out, good friends appreciate you for you and not what drugs you happen to be using. Strange how some of the people you thought were 'good friends' will only give you a ring to smoke bowls or drink booze.
 
I sometimes think about how drug use effects my friendships, i used to think thats all we would do, there were weird times like days where we had the money for weed but no hook-up so we would look for weed ALL DAY LONG and sometimes not find it, there were days where looking for weed was the last things on our minds. The laziest haziest days you could ever imagine. And i thought "is this all we do is smoke weed?" one close friend i have right now i met thru weed and i can't think of a time where we werent smoking but he also hangs out with my friends now which i've known forever (before drug use) and I his.
Drugs have never came between me and my friends, its pretty much the same group of people everyday and we would never lie to each other.
I have had one friend pull the whole Vague/shady thing on me so i just said "fuck him" I never told him that I didnt want to chill i just stopped callin him up to chill now when i talk to him it's kind of weird, like an un-spoken thing that he was a real dick to me and he realy doesn't seem to care.
Im also just hours away from pumping his current girlfriends guts as of this moment, it may be an assholish thing to do but he pulls the same shady shit on her and has been since he first pulled it on me 2 years ago.
 
Yes friendship is strange;
You must slowly earn trust, and once any trust is lost it is SOOOOO difficult to get back, so every1 should try to make it so people know that they are trustable, yall know what i'm sayin?
 
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