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kratomman420

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please dont delete this, i know its not about drugs, but i need some help here

so ive been beat up by my own family for years now, always being blamed as starting the fight, or annoying the other person, basically no matter what i do theres always yelling, and everytime i complain, im beat up

so i think i figured out a solution to this

a couple years back, the police almost arrested my brother, but without my testimony they couldnt, my dad threatened to kick me out if i didnt lie, and stop buying me medicine and weed, can i bring the case back up, saying that i told them he didnt do it under duress,

its necessary as i think i have a broken rib right now, and the beatings are just getting worse, they need to go to prison, theres no choice left anymore, how do i make it happen

i believe they will kill me sooner or later if i do nothing, i was hit so hard today i saw stars

i was taking a video the other day, trying to get left alone, and i was beat up and the camera phone was smashed, could i still get the information off it? they were trying to delete the info for a while, and hooked it up to a computer once, is the video even still there, nothings broken but the screen, i had some very incriminating (99% for them, there was some weed pictures with me holding them and smiling but thats it) videos and photos on there
 
Really sorry to read about your situation, I hope it gets better for you soon.

I don't really have a clear answer to your phone question, as I don't know enough about it. I'm inclined to say yeah, the information would be on there, and you just need to sync it up to another comp and transfer it over. But if you can't use the interface at all.......I'm not sure. Hopefully someone more well versed will come along.

So yeah, didn't have much in the way of help, just wanted to say I hope you get out of that situation soon and move on to a better future. God bless.
 
that's fucked up man. you could go talk to the police, explain your situation and ask them what you can do.
you could also buy a tape recorder or something like that.

no one should be beaten, especially not by family
whatever you do you're gonna be in for a big change dude I wish you the best of luck.
 
Well, if you have a broken rib I would go to the ER and have it documented. They will normally ask questions regarding abuse when you come in with injuries that could be...and if they don't you can straight up tell them what happened. They can also document old injuries/breaks/ etc that you may have had.

If you tell the medical people they are obliged to report it--most likely will have the police come out and interview you (so go alone to the ER so you can talk freely).

Whoever beat you and broke your rib can be arrested for assault. But being able to document previous injuries also shows a pattern

And yes, law enforcement can usually get information from a broken phone--although tbh they usually save that kind of effort for homicides and such....

But if you don't want to go get treated now--well, you can go when they hurt you again. Or you can surreptitiously get audio or video with a different phone. But truly, your injuries will bring immediate charges and i would say are your best evidence

Sorry to hear what you are going through. That's the kind of stuff that really pisses me off and makes me want to bring a few of the biggest dudes I know who like to fight... No one should have to feel that powerless and I hope things work out for you. Are you old enough to be on your own? Do you work?
 
i just called my doctor, hes apparently on vacation so his receptionist picked up and i told her what happened, she said shes pretty much gonna tell him immediantly and im supposed to call back soon, she told me she wont call the police, at least right now, thats good enough for me, i wonder what hes gonna say, this has happened since i was about 6 i think btw
 
and i was thinking of hiring people to help, but i figured why not atleast try the legal route first, after the doctor, im going to the police like you guys said, i just wanted to make sure i wasnt wrong for going, i dont have anyone around me supporting me any bit whatever, they still act like im 16 robbing them constantly doing as much drugs as i can without reasearching anything, but even then, i was doing it trying to treat myself, i just didnt know how, and had no money or help, so i had to steal, they act like i killed somebody, and keep using my sister and mother as tools to get me arrested

i told them the entire familys involved, i guess its just one person normally
 
does anyone think its even possible to quit my drugs while this is happening? thats a question ive been asking myself ALOT lately, like should i even try or is that just gonna hurt me, im thinking about just using as much as possible until i can leave, idk if thats a rationalization or a good reason though...

i mean when theres no real happiness in your life, is there a reason not to do drugs?
 
crzydiamond said:
Well, if you have a broken rib I would go to the ER and have it documented. They will normally ask questions regarding abuse when you come in with injuries that could be...and if they don't you can straight up tell them what happened. They can also document old injuries/breaks/ etc that you may have had.

If you tell the medical people they are obliged to report it--most likely will have the police come out and interview you (so go alone to the ER so you can talk freely).

Whoever beat you and broke your rib can be arrested for assault. But being able to document previous injuries also shows a pattern

And yes, law enforcement can usually get information from a broken phone--although tbh they usually save that kind of effort for homicides and such....

But if you don't want to go get treated now--well, you can go when they hurt you again. Or you can surreptitiously get audio or video with a different phone. But truly, your injuries will bring immediate charges and i would say are your best evidence

Sorry to hear what you are going through. That's the kind of stuff that really pisses me off and makes me want to bring a few of the biggest dudes I know who like to fight... No one should have to feel that powerless and I hope things work out for you. Are you old enough to be on your own? Do you work?
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im poor and in debt because of being suicidal last time at the er, dont ribs heal on their own? i have painkillers to, ive had worse, and my chronic pain is worse, its actually a nice distraction from the worse pain

i could work but i would need to take my meds at a high dose the entire time, and i dont like doing that, i guess i could if i had to though, im 21 btw

oh and i need weed to function, which my abusing dad gives me for free, along with my meds, so thats another reason i havent left, i cant really afford it, im gonna grow a plant immediantly though asap

no its not legal here, and my family refuses to do anything to help me move, and tryed to keep me here last time i tryed to....

idk what the fucks wrong with their heads to do this crap, its hard to believe everyone but me in the family is a narcissist
 
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btw idk if this helps, but i have committed no crimes for a long long time, other than a carless driving and possession of a weed pipe, which are class c's and i have nothing illegal but weed and a small amount of dab which now that i think of it, im gonna get rid of at thats a felony, then all ill have is half oz or less of weed, so i think i should be able to go to the police station or municipal court with this right and not fear arrest?
 
well the reciptionist seemed to think i wasnt a threat to anyone and that the majority of what they do is illegal
 
kratomman420 said:
im poor and in debt because of being suicidal last time at the er, dont ribs heal on their own? i have painkillers to, ive had worse, and my chronic pain is worse, its actually a nice distraction from the worse pain
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If it's a fracture they will heal nicely on their own. I've had several. They hurt like a bitch however and take a long time to heal. Best of luck in a tough situation. Chronic pain is nothing to live with now that I know exactly what it's like. I can see why you considered suicide an option. I certainly do now.

However I'm old and you are young and you have a lot to live if you can make it out and find a way to have a life. That's the hard part. Knowing how to navigate living so as to have more pleasure than pain. You have to trust yourself for one thing and then know enough to make that trust worth something. I hope you can make a move.
 
Cosmic Trigger said:
If it's a fracture they will heal nicely on their own. I've had several. They hurt like a bitch however and take a long time to heal. Best of luck in a tough situation. Chronic pain is nothing to live with now that I know exactly what it's like. I can see why you considered suicide an option. I certainly do now.

However I'm old and you are young and you have a lot to live if you can make it out and find a way to have a life. That's the hard part. Knowing how to navigate living so as to have more pleasure than pain. You have to trust yourself for one thing and then know enough to make that trust worth something. I hope you can make a move.
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ya but heres the problem, you people that actually understand what im going through, your like 1% of the population

for example, i just walked 2 miles in the heat, only to be turned down by the receptionist who wouldnt even answer my questions until i would give her my money, i told her she was a bad person, took my information off the charts i gave to her, told her have a nice day and left, she was just mean for no fucking reason, still have a injury, im trying to get her fired but i doubt its gonna happen, all she said was, ill check your bp with the bp cuff and call you a ambulance, even though we maybe can treat you here if you have money, you dont so were gonna make your pay 10x as much in the long run, so i walked another 2 miles home, btw i have chronic pain EVERYWHERE and walking that much is horrible for me, the only reason i did it was because i was promised help, but it was all a lie, all of the are fucking liers, i think my doctors just a anomoly, ive asked him to fix it

i hate hospitals
i hate police
i hate doctors
i hate 99% of people

the world really fucking sucks, and just wants your money in the end

i plan on going to the uk or a different state to get euthanized legally if this doesent get better soon.... thats all the money i have left for, i dont wanna die horribly in pain and nobody seems to give a fuck, so thats the only choice i have, sounds like pleasure is involved in your life, real pleasure, from good things happening, i dont have that at all, i have drugs and thats it, why not just die at this point? i dont even have a family and all my friends are to far away to help


make a move????? how??? i have no recources, mental or physical
 
idk fuck the world ima go do a shitload of drugs, if i was gonna be helped i would have been by now, maybe ill die peacefully in my sleep tonight
 
oh and i have no idea what it is honestly, theres no mark and the pains internal, along with the rest of my pain already, and the doctors wont even look at it, wont believe it exists, maybe im bleeding internally who the fuck knows
 
it hurts when i breath, or couph or twist towards my left, and a little when i twist to my right, and its really bad when i straighten my back, if im not slouched im in serious pain, does that mean anything to anyone here? i need a diagnosis from the interenet i went to the doctor and they hurt me, i wont go back to someone unless i have a 100% chance of getting what i pay for
 
But if you don't want to go get treated now--well, you can go when they hurt you again. Or you can surreptitiously get audio or video with a different phone. But truly, your injuries will bring immediate charges and i would say are your best evidence

sucks doesent it, i cant even prove that i have injuries because they wont look at me for short of a grand

if they would just stop being selfish assholes and take one minute to check me out, my life would be perfect
 
If you're trying to build a case against this family member, go to the emergency room. Unlike your physician's office, a hospital can't turn you away for not having insurance or money. Tell them what happened and they should have a patient advocate/social worker to help you. No one deserves to be beaten.

(BDD ----- > The Dark Side)
 
im going tomorow, im gettting my abusive dad to take me, and i told him im telling them it was from being beat up, i think hes afraid to not take me now, dont worry im going tomorow, i did alot of painkillers and benzos and a little dxm so im good for now

bupernorphine, dxm, poppy pods, kratom, valium, lyrica, clonidine, and weed is a nice mix for pain, for me atleast, idk seems like that would kill alot of people, its low dose bupe btw, if u only take 800 mcg a day you can easily take opiates with it, or atleast i can

sitting completely naked at my computer watching divergent high as balls... good times

im naked cause i feel hot, and my clothes dont feel natural
 
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Hi, I've read your previous postings. If you are being physically abused, go to the police. Period. I don't care who you hate, how much weed you think you need, the cops are the only folks who can investigate. Having your doctor involved is a good idea as well
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Hey, don't have much time so I haven't read through all of the replies. I used to work for a city IT department and we provided technical support to the police. As long as the phone wasn't totally destroyed they can probably extract the video. If police are investigating a specific crime, 9 out of 10 times they aren't concerned about drug pictures, etc, unless you have images which show you or someone close being a huge trafficker. Essentially, if you're holding a bud they don't care. If you're smiling in front of 100 lbs, they do care lol. If you have proof of your abuse you need to report it for you're own safety. If you report it, you have to stay strong and see the process through - don't change your mind in the future. You need to try to find a safe place, and avoid being around the abusers. If you are depending on them to pay for medication, check with county services as most provide some level of health care and reduced or free medication. In my early twenties I had to use the local health department and I had to wait 2 weeks to get seen, and then had medication later that day. As for your stash, you'll have to figure out how to maintain that yourself lol. However, I don't think allowing yourself to get beat just to maintain a weed habit is worth it.
 
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