Doing nothing!

[yteek]

Well, lately, it seems I've become damn near addicted to sitting on my ass doing nothing.

Just sitting on the computer and letting the junk food around me pile up.

I'm convinced I can damn well be a hoarder. For the new year, I was determined to keep my house clean, work out, and I was and then it snowballed to this point.

You know, I will admit this may be related to physical health or my mental state, but, I can't rationalize and make excuses for being a shit bag doing nothing.

Obviously the answer is "just do it", will power, but, maybe I'm looking for something beyond that as far as advice goes, so I'm here....

 

[Trying2Iso]

i hear ya. in the same position myself.
i think i might start volunteering soon, like at salvation army or red cross. give me something to do, help people. maybe even lead to a job.

 

[d-nihl]

yteek, do you work?? I know where you're coming from, and I found getting a job is a good way to force yourself to get out of the house and interact with people,

You will meet some new people! you wont have plans if you don't try to make em!

Also try doing a calendar type thing...write out a daily schedule and abide by it, like saaayy, tread mill: 10-10:15, walk around the block: what ever, and then when you can physical check those things off,you feel a bigger sense of accomplishment.

 

[herbavore]

At the risk of sounding ridiculous, I just want to say that junk food is a drug--or many drugs to be exact. Try making smoothies with fresh fruit, fresh greens and nuts or protein powder. They are done in a snap, taste good and fill you up. All food has a chemical impact on your brain and body. I found that when I started eating better my mood was better, I had more energy etc. It's not everything and I'm not trying to oversimplify or deny other things that may be going on like depression but it is the first line of attack when you feel no motivation--well, actually it's in a dead heat with exercise.

 

[Maya]

^absolutely agree, I guarantee you that you will feel a hell of a lot better eating healthy and get your motivation into working out. I am an exerciseholic and still going! Im actually going to the gym today to workout. Once you have set up a routine it will be part of your daily activities.

 

[Erikmen]

When I read the two sides I just think I am becoming too accommodated.
I work a lot, am a good father, husband, but I don't exercise as I should and feel that I could be more productive on my weekends.
Stay on computers all the time, in three, sometimes four screens.
I walk with my dog and when I am not traveling I'm just not present enough, considering my withdraw as an excuse

 

[yteek]

I don't have a job, to be honest, as far as most of my wants and needs, they're taken care of.

I got anxiety along with a neurological disorder, but, as said before that is no excuse for turning into a pile.

Obviously, simply answer, just do it, get off my ass, but I don't know. I often feel so fatigued, lack of energy, lack of motivation, I'm like why bother?

Of course getting off my ass would benefit me, then, I find myself opting to wasting away.

 

[d-nihl]

true, I feel you there. ^

I went to my first meeting after basically not leaving the house for a week today, and it wasn't that bad...ill just say I thought it was gonna be worse, but I enjoyed it. give it a try, im gonna (I think I mean it this time?) EDIT: No I definitely mean it. is what I meant there.

 

[thujone]

"just do it" only works on people who already give enough of a fuck that they just need little cues/nudges to keep their motivation pumped up. if you don't give a fuck at all then there's really nothing that is going to work, IME, until you start to give a fuck about something, anything enough that "i have to do this" turns into "i want to do this".

 

[d-nihl]

At the risk of sounding ridiculous, I just want to say that junk food is a drug...

Herbavore I eat sweets like its no bodies effin' bizness. now that I think about it, ill quit anything, everything...! just don't make me quit sweets.

 

[mal3volent]

Start eating better. After a while, you will be accustomed to it. That will make exercising much easier because you will have more energy. After you get accustomed to exercise, that will increase both your energy and improve your overall mood. While you are doing that read a lot, listen to lots of music. Discover something you care about or develop a goal. Pretty soon you will have no desire to sit around all the time. But you gotta make the effort at the beginning to start the ball rolling.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Timer for computer use? Or, after every "snack"--you must clean something. Projects everyday--goal yourself. Healthy snack in between each unhealthy snack.

 

[herbavore]

Herbavore I eat sweets like its no bodies effin' bizness. now that I think about it, ill quit anything, everything...! just don't make me quit sweets.

I would place money on my sugar addiction over your sugar addiction! (Plus I love to bake and I bet you do, too. Double whammy, right?)

 

[cay]

Been there, trust me after awhile you look around and just feel defeated by the proposition of doing the task. I sadly really don't have a solution for you, what happened with me is that I always had the energy just not the will. But once I started working again I found it easier to do a little at a time and random big spurts when I was bored. That is what worked for me.

 

[WantToBeReborn]

This is to be expected. Start trying to achieve just one small task a day and then build from there. What is at the root of this at the moment for you is a lack of purpose, a lack of belonging, isolation and an inability to change your life and behaviours from that of active addiction. This stuff takes time and work. Don't beat yourself up too much for having a natural human reaction to changing circumstances. Do simple things, like even just getting out for a walk every day. Music was massive for me when I was in this state. Listening to high energy music and especially first thing in the morning upon waking. Try taking up an instrument, it really does bring joy. Also, making the effort to get up every day and get in the shower and just get out of the house and not be looking at four walls does help.