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Does weight really matter?

Jabberwocky

Jabberwocky

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Does being overweight really mean you can't get a skinny girl? I am very much into petite girls but I'm a bit over weight so feel insecure asking them out :( Have had no luck with girls these past few years, ever since I started taking SSRI's my interest in girls has waded off, although it's probably cause the girl I wanted for 3 years destroyed my heart. However it's time to move on and so I seek advice.



Thx.
 
I would say it doesn't to the right girl, but your weight can break your heart. Consider trying to lose the excess so if you find her you can hang around to enjoy the time you have with her.
 
If you don't act insecure then it won't be as much of a problem. The more confidence you show the better, so keep that in mind.
 
i think if you want to attract skinny girls, then you should think about what some of the main things that they are attracted to

a) health
b) confidence

you can be overweight and healthy, are you in good health, do you eat healthy whole food? i think people can be big and beautiful its just if people are living off processed food it comes off as self-destructive to me

confidence comes from finding who you are and being comfortable with it and thats a difficult journey for some people but good ways to build confidence are regular cardio / stepping out of your comfort zone more often / supplementing with nootropics has really helped me in terms of social anxiety/depression
 
You can't expect from others what you don't expect from yourself.

(Shallowness begets shallowness.)
 
Your health is the main issue, I'm sure you know the risks of be overweight. But what's holding you back from a bit of exercise? Okay So ill move on to your original question.

It's all about how you carry yourself confidence (not cocky). Embrace the waist don't let that hold you back from talking with a cute chick. Not every girl will be into you but if you keep trying I'm sure you can find someone who will love you just the way you are. It takes time. Best of luck and get back in the game and score!;)
 
Fuck ssris. They are horrible for you, and your endocrine system may never fully recover.

workout, get in shape, and in turn find confidence.
 
What is "a bit overweight" like?

IMO having good game is a lot more important in a lot of cases if it's not too much weight.


Def start exercising, though. Not only does it feel awesome, it's good for you physically & mentally & it'll help with the weight. Just be sure your diet is proper or the exercise won't change the weight.
 
Tude said:
You can't expect from others what you don't expect from yourself.

(Shallowness begets shallowness.)
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I've dated heavy guys before but not really obese. How much overweight are we talking, 30-50-100 pounds? If you're not able to lose the weight, it's unlikely a petite girl is going to fall into your lap. Consider dating a heavier girl. Realistically, birds of a feather and you can be more comfortable.
 
Bob Loblaw said:
What is "a bit overweight" like?
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Yeah that's what I'm wondering as well. Also skinny =/= hot but I'll try to avoid being pedantic on that point as I'm sure we've all heard it a billion times ;)

OP as has been mentioned, confidence goes a very long way when it comes to looks. I've been everything from extremely skinny to slightly chubby and am now more on the thin side but would always go for slighty overweight guys over slightly underweight guys anytime. Of course that depends on your definition of 'slightly over/underweight' though. And it's simply a matter of personal taste. There's no one rule for every girl.

What matters is that you feel good enough in your body to go for the girls you're attracted to. If you can't do that then you should definitely work on yourself, not for them, but for you.
 
It sounds to me that you have a bit of a self-esteem issue. If you aren't satisfied with your weight then try and lose some. But yeah, I have seen quite a few skinny girls with overweight men. I also see alot of physically fit men with out of shape chubby girls. Basically, everyone has their own idea of what is appealing to them. Just remember that you have to love yourself and be satisfied with what you have to offer before someone can love you.
 
Am 242 Pounds atm at my best I was 167. Severe depression disrupted this and binge eating from taking the wrong meds. Now that the meds have changed I've lost 22 pounds. Still need to lose more, I know...Back a few years ago I was training intensely 6 days a week and was on a strict diet. That helped me lose 44 pounds.

Any how I can see where this is going and really need to work off that weight....
 
I am not ultra skinny, but if I cannot put my arms around my OP, then it's not gonna work out. So heavy is ok, obese is not.

Besides if you are not going to care about your health, why should I have a relationship with you where I end up caring about you more than you do about yourself. Just food for thought.
 
It depends on the girl, your build, your lifestyle, what you define as "overweight" and "petite"...

Here's some advice, at least try to lose some weight and work on your confidence.
 
I find it a little weird that you prefer a certain weight for your partner, but are concerned about the idea of someone else having the same preference. Weight matters to you, why wouldn't it matter to other people as well?
 
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