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Does weight really matter?

Wow, I can't believe all the stereotypes. NOT ALL SKINNY GIRLS LIKE SKINNY GUYS. Just because they are one body type doesn't mean they can't like someone with another body type.
My boyfriend is super skinny and I'm curvy and we are both very attracted to each other. My ex was overweight and I thought he was attractive too. So I've liked guys on opposite ends really.
 
agreed llama. i have no set rules for what i am and are not attracted to, attraction is spontaneous and depends on the individual.

if the OP finds a certain type of woman attractive, how and why should he deny himself of that? we dont "choose" what were attracted to per se. its natural instinct and simply what we like. we dont feel attraction due to social scaling. thats a learned social criteria.

...kytnism...:|
 
I recently got in really good shape and noticed a lot more women checking me out when I was out in public. It went from seldom (that I could tell) to often. I'm not even young or good looking.

Then I got injured and had to stop swimming (and ate like a pig) and in a month I lost that very fit look and the glances from women went away.
 
Weight can matter if you really let it get out of hand, but the most important thing is how you carry yourself. I carry about thirty extra pounds, and I've got three girls I'm seeing currently, ages 28, 35 and 41, all in decent shape.

I guess what I'm saying is attitude and confidence can go way further than looks alone will carry you. :)
 
some people like fat people. most probably dont.

me, I have a question for you.. why do you want a skinny girl and not a fat girl?
put simply, if you dont care about your weight, i dont think you have any reason to expect other people to care about theirs.


I was fat, I didnt want to sleep with fat people. So I'm getting in shape.
 
Not necessarily. I know of a few people who prefer chubbier people. But they're all dudes.
 
it might not be a deal breaker, but it's something you'll have to make up for in confidence/wit/etc. on the other hand, losing the weight and getting in shape would be a huge confidence booster.
 
I have a serious problem with my own weight (BMI of 21 now though, so it's looking up), though I tend to barely notice other people's weight. If they are beautiful, then a few extra pounds shan't sway my opinion.
 
I think the answer to this question is as varied as the number of different people out there... Can a heavy guy date a skinny girl? Yes,of course. Attraction is WAY more complex than just weight. Some people can't get past the exterior, some people look for a great personality, hell some people only date redheads or people with tattoos or people who ride motorcycles or people who love spaghetti.

The possibilities are endless. In general, though, most people find self confidence in their partner attractive. I would suggest you work on that aspect first and I bet that the rest will fall naturally in place for you.
 
^Yes exactly. In the end I think the only reasonable answer to this thread is for the OP to work on his own body image because he clearly doesn't feel comfortable with it. For any type of body there'll be someone attracted to it, what matters is that you can feel confident and happy enough with your own to be able to feel comfortable around women you find attractive.
 
Of course it does, who would want a pig btw?? :) I'll tell you, another pig or possibly one feeling as such.
 
I'm in good ish shape. I prefer big girls. Always have. Always will. It's a personal preference
 
How overweight are you? It depends on the girl. I usually like guys who are toned...but there's been a few that just had a terrific sense of humor and personality....they also had a lot of confidence, so def work on that. Act like you are the fucking best of the best.....and you'll be alright.
 
I don't think that weight matters all that much; I'm not a chubby-chaser, and, generally-speaking, I don't find overweight women all that attractive, but when love happens, it happens. I've been dating the girl I'm with for six years now, and when I see pictures of her from when we first met, I cannot believe how, well, big she was. I honestly cannot believe it... I just didn't see it, I guess. She's still not skinny, but she's not as big now as she was then. Just didn't see it, didn't care...
 
Animal Mother said:
Fuck ssris. They are horrible for you, and your endocrine system may never fully recover.

workout, get in shape, and in turn find confidence.
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Yeah fuck the SSRI's.

To the OP: I was fat until aroun 16. Then i started with the meth, lost a ton of weight, and it seems like i got better luck with one nighters with girls. I suggest you stop eating all processed foods if you eat them. Rice,Green Vegetables, Green apples, Canned fish, Eggs on occasion, If you drink lots of beer swtich over to liquor it doesnt cause as much weight gain as beer. THis is what im doing rite now and ive already lost like around 10 pounds. With a little workout a few times a week. RUnning is great for weight loss too.
 
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