Does my cousin have a coke problem?

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I know my cousin tried cocaine for the first time about a year ago. TO my knowledge, she did it occasionally and recreationally, but the past couple of months im pretty sure she is doing it multiple times a week, most of the time alone. she will be with other people but hide that she is doing coke, but i can tell when she is high..she does it on weeknights when she isnt going out or anything, just to do it i guess.. i said something to her abotu it and she just said not to worry, she'll be fine and to please not tell anyone

i am worried because she is 27 years old and trying to get her life together. she is been depressed the last couple of years due to the death of her mother and her job and family situation. she is also bipolar and has low self esteem and i know these are all risk factors for addiction. she has not been happy for a while and i feel that the coke probaby gives her a false happiness.. one day after doing coke all weekend she had a break down and was talking of suicide etc and this scares me

basically i am trying to figure out if this is a recreational thing or turning into an addiction. i dont think she's doing it everyday, but at least 2-3 times a week to my knowledge. if this is a problem, how can i get her to stop? what do i say or do to get her to snap out of it and get on the right track?

PLEASE HELP!

- concerned cousin
 
well since she has problems like depression, is hiding her use from most people, and is using more and more frequently, it sounds like a problem. im guessing she probably isnt even totally honest with you about the 2-3 times a week thing. but thats totally speculation. an addict, especially a still developing one, will lie or even not realize themselves about their addiction.

has she lost a lot of weight?
how close are you and her?
if she can go a week without any at all, shes probably not addicted.
 
well she's really not honest with me at all. she told me she tried it once and that was it, i know she is using at least a few times a week just from me noticing the clues, talkativeness, dialated pupils, etc etc. i contfronted her about it and she admitted it but didnt say anything about it except not to tell anyone and that everything was fine. she said it isnt something she's proud of and she's only 'dabbled in it a little bit' i dont think she thinks its a problem.

her weight is always fluctuating, it doesnt seem like she lost any recently but she frequently doesnt eat - whenever she's on it. what concerns me is that she is doing it on these random nights and doing it by herself. i have also been reading that people with depression are very likely to become addicted. i dont know if she's addicted now but i feel like it may be going down that path.

me and her are very close, im her best friend. she has this boyfriend who i hate and who got her doing it and she swore she wouldnt talk to him again after the 100th time of him fucking up but i know she still is she doesnt tell me about it or the coke usage but im not an idiot...
 
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