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Does love exist?

Tude

Tude

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By love, I mean someone who cares about you unconditionally, supports you in what you want, treats you with respect, wants nothing but the best for you, etc.
 
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By love, I mean someone who cares about you unconditionally, supports you in what you want, treats you with respect, wants nothing but the best for you, etc.
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Sure - that's called "a great friend".....


Being "In Love" on the other hand usually involves far more ego driven motives on both sides....

In modern Western society we are filled with many fairy tale concepts about ourselves and others that have little basis in reality. "True Love" as something selfless, and lifelong and focused on one person and one person alone is one of the most enduring of these fairy tales, but it's a fairy tale all the same.
 
If your are Lucky you get someone you really Love for me it was once in a lifetime...I do believe that Love does exist but there are many forms of Love...Some Good~Some Bad~....
 
Yes, I think it exists. I have seen plenty of people in love. My grandparents, for example. Before my grandma passed away, she was in a lot of pain, suffering, etc. My grandpa, well he was old too (of course) and he was also in a lot of pain. But he put it all aside, didn't bother my grandma with it at all, and focused everything on her. The two of them, that's what I want, that's what I hope to have. There are so many more examples that I could use but that was really the one that stands out. It's the kind of love that everyone should aim for :).

But yeah, it definitely exists.
 
I do think it does exist, but given the sheer number of divorces these days I don't think many couples who say they are in love are really in that kind of love. Both parties need to be reasonably aware.. shallow and narcissistic people/couples won't develop that true love until later on when they start aging/getting saggy and realize they're stuck with each other until death and begin to actually work on themselves and each other in a true way.
 
I think that this whole Love vs True Love thing all comes down to true love being unconditional love. People who get divorced obviously don't have unconditional love for eachother, thus it's not true love.
 
It exists for sure. But what I think a lot of people don't get is that love is ever evolving....there are many phases of love. I think that many folks mistake that hot wild "in lust" feeling that come in the beginning as being love, and when this feeling fades as it inevitably will, they move on, looking for this feeling again. I think true love is comfortable with phases of crazy lust thrown in as well as periods of disliking the person, but always having their best interests at heart, wanting them to do well, etc.

I think our society today has conditioned us to take the easy way out and give up before love can even be established and that is just sad....many people say that the reason they don't want to get married is because 60% of marriages end in divorce, but if you take divorce out of the equation, then your marriage becomes a totally different thing. You actually have to work on things.

This is just my opinion, of course, but I really think that love is something that must be worked at, fed, nurtured...
 
Yes.
But love is like spiritual insight you can't point at it, feel it, smell it or prove its existence.
Love is something you experience.
Once you have experienced love you will find you will not need to ask this question.
 
Unconditional love doesn't exist. Everything has conditions. You love this person because of previous conditions that lead to this point in time, and I'm sure if they were go on a spree of killing and raping and torturing people you wouldn't feel exactly the same, hence conditional.
'True love' can exist though.
 
Thanks everyone for your answers!

Sockpuppet, I really hope true love isn't a fairy tale :/

Hazey, I want to be one of the lucky ones. I know a lot of couples whom have been together over 20 years!

Llama, that's what I want, too :)

SS, I agree.

Tricomb, I hope I can tell the difference when the time comes.

Beachcat, I also think love is something that needs maintenance. I still have a lot of growing up to do, and realize I'm not ready to be involved with someone yet.

Augusta, part of me wants to experience love, and part of me keeps saying "Ignorance is bliss."

Death, I see what you're saying, but I think I'd still love the person. I'd realize they were bad and I shouldn't be with them, but I don't think I'd fall out of love with them. This is only speculation, though.
 
Beachcat said:
love is something that must be worked at, fed, nurtured...
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+1

absolutely possible, and very powerful, but it won't last if you don't put in the effort. take interest, do nice things, better yourself to be better for them. falling in love is pretty magical and spontaneous, but building a relationship to sustain it means making sure you're on point with the more basic day-to-day stuff as well.
 
Of course it exists...as long as you believe in it.
Kinda like the Easter bunny.

~token
 
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Oh, yes, I think it does. The hard part is finding a bond with equal affection, admiration and respect between two people. This forum is indicative of what is common -- it's one-sided. If you are lucky, you find someone who loves you and admires you as much as you do to him/her. That's the hard part.

I've been the one who loved someone who didn't love me, and I've been loved by people I didn't respect or admire and lost interest. I'd rather be the latter, but shit it hurts when you are the former.

Never give up IMO. :) Being in love (even if it's the honeymoon period) is a great feeling that no one should be left out on. :)
 
Yes it does but like what Token had said it's kinda like a easter bunny you have to believe in it...
 
Thanks, everyone!

Double, if what if by bettering yourself, they fall out of love with you? Like, somehow it changes you?

Token, I go back-and-forth between believing in love, and thinking it's a Hallmark creation lol.

Lysis, some days I do want to give up. Lol I realize finding someone who loves me as much as I love them is a daunting task! But I appreciate your encouragement :)

Kitten, I guess I have to decide I definitively want to find love, then believe in it. Here comes the pain lol.
 
Token, I go back-and-forth between believing in love, and thinking it's a Hallmark creation lol.
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Tude..trust me, so do I. Sometimes, 20 times a day.

i do actually believe in it, i do...whole-heartedly.

The attainable part is what's so hard. Finding it and then trusting in it, both of you???

Here comes the pain...
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QFT.

~token
 
Excited says I love you to babys and family some close friends. but to say that to a chick excited is crushing on is out of the question. I find all most people want is a little love care a little bit, just a taste something they can get over or forget about later. excited loves you a little bit..
 
Tude, how old are you? I don't think I really fell for someone until 30ish even though I did get married young and thought I loved the guy. I think I loved him but wasn't in love with him. We were better roommates than lovers. It wasn't until I had good sex, found someone who I was truly interested in and met a guy who I believe was my equal until I think I was actually in love.

I've had crushes on people, and I think I've thought I was in love during that feel-good-honeymoon period, but I think I've only truly been in love once. I did meet someone after him who I thought I was falling into love with, but he did not feel the same way with me, and he did crush me later when he broke up with me. I still believe it can happen again, but TBH I don't really worry about it too much. I'm at peace with myself, but I do hope I find someone who I respect and admire.
 
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