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Does life slow down this much in your mid 20's?????

Jimmy_Pop said:
Another thing: I now totally understand the phrase "youth is wasted on the young.
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yer gawd dang right it is. I just said this to my mum the other day, and she laughed and agreed.


Starting around 23. people start getting married/getting into serious relationships and having babies. Both of those, in most relationships = less/no time for anyone except your spawn and your significant other. Especially if you own a house...there's SO much to do. It sometimes seems like the only thing I do is work - go to work, and come home and work. Paint the house. Clean. Dishes. etc etc. However, (besides cleaning toilettes) I truly enjoy 'home improvement' crap. I have worked my ass off for what I have, and I like to have it nice, and paint it pretty colors, and make it all comfy. Had you asked me this a few years ago, I'd have said the future me was fucking nuts.

I find myself longing for solitude in compairison of the days of the past where I couldn't wait to get the hell out of work so I could go meet my friends and party. Now, sometimes, it seems like making plans with someone is almost a chore - something that HAS to be done, when it used to be 100% want to. My bestest friend and I used to talk on the phone once or twice a day, and minimum we would see eachother twice a week...bare minimum. Now, I am lucky if I see her once a month. She got married, I got into a relationship, we both busy as hell with our demanding jobs, and both of us agree that after a day of work, nothing sounds more appealing than stretchy pants and the couch.

I also think money has a lot to do with things changing. As you get older, time moves really fuckin' fast. You realize that there's a significant time spent at work/working and making money to live. For those, like me, who are not filthy rich, in times of famine, I couldn't go out even if I wanted to, because there's no extra money, it is going towards bills, savings, home improvements, food, rent...blah blah blah. Now, a few years ago, I'd have said "ah shit, I'm broke, I can't go out." and whomever on the phone would say "hell no get your ass out here I got ya!!" and I'd have been out the door. Now, no way. Hell, I quit drinking because I don't have time for hangovers!!!

ah shit I'm getting old!
 
Man this threads depressing, I just turned 24 and feel increasingly depressed at the futility and pointlessness of existence. Strongly triggers that reflex in the back of my mind that tells me to just run away from everything as fast as I can. Which of course is the same mentality that caused this problem in the first place.

I feel like my head's gonna both explode and implode at the same time.
 
My thirties have been a lot better for me so far and I do know that a lot of people feel the same way. Take comfort in knowing that less confusing times aren't too far off.
 
spork said:
My thirties have been a lot better for me so far and I do know that a lot of people feel the same way. Take comfort in knowing that less confusing times aren't too far off.
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My old neighbors in there mid 30's also said the same to me; so I take comfort in hearing this.
 
im 26 ^^ starting to feel the "better times" coming.... when I was 23-25 - I was getting clean(ish) and it was a confusing and still is a soul searching time period if you're single and from a nice childhood especially
 
J.Wallace said:
Life definitely slows down a little once people go off to College and their separate ways, whether it be work or school. I'm only 21, so I still got a few years left before I hit my mid's but even now I can see it slowing down. We still know how to have fun though :)
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Enjoy it well it last thats what happened to me and my friends (minus college). Were all 24-27 now and all got jobs, some got wives and kids. Some are successful and some not but one thing is true for all of us. We just seem to have no time and see each other as permits. kinda a bummer and makes me do more drugs. i have only been doing benzos/pot/booze for the last 5 years (before i was into much "hard" drugs) and im getting thoughts about getting a nice bag of coke to rail or some E to drop.
 
I'm 27 and can attest to life slowing down a lot. But for me it's welcomed. I was just walking on the razors edge with addiction for so many years and am lucky to be alive and not in jail. So for me, I'm really enjoying the peaceful slower 25+ onwards. And I'm still single, but it's just how I role now. Asleep by 9pm up by 7am. Took a while to adjust but now I'm starting to kind of like it.
 
Get2Think said:
I'm 27 and can attest to life slowing down a lot. But for me it's welcomed. I was just walking on the razors edge with addiction for so many years and am lucky to be alive and not in jail. So for me, I'm really enjoying the peaceful slower 25+ onwards. And I'm still single, but it's just how I role now. Asleep by 9pm up by 7am. Took a while to adjust but now I'm starting to kind of like it.
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Thats good you fined it a good thing. I on the other hand am so bored and see so little point to any of my day to day tideous responsibilities that im starting to do crazy shit again.
 
^You have to find a different way to get your adrenaline going. You are probably one of those people that needs adrenaline surges to feel alive. There are lots of ways to get that that are healthy and fun.
 
Chrisalt do you have goals and important life decisions you are making to better your future? I found life to be pretty miserable until I started taking responsibility for my life and my time. And now I'm going back to college to finish my degree and am pursuing a career as well. Because of that I wake up in the morning with a vengence. And I go running, take vitamins, and work hard even on meaningless work because I'm going somewhere in life. The worst is when your just treading water working some minimum wage job part-time and living at home with mommy. I've been there, it's enough to make a young man in his 20's want to jump off a cliff. Thats when the drugs and partying stops being such a big priority, when you realize your broke all the time and are too embarassed to date because you dropped out of college and are living at home with mommy. If that doesn't light a fire under your ass I don't know what will. It sure did to me.
 
I'm in my early thirties. My life slowed way down in my late 20s- was living with my then gf, stuck in an opiate addiction, just worked all day, watched tv at night, slept, repeat. Now that I've quit doing drugs, no longer with that girl, my life has improved ten fold. Dating a new girl in grad school, going out with her friends, doing a lot of fun stuff (without drugs), watch battlestar with my group of friends, go to brunch with friends every sunday, just living life. I suddenly enjoy socializing and just getting out there, down for whatever.
 
I'm 26 and the last 6 years have gone by with the quickness
So no it hasn't slowed down for me, total opposite

When I was younger time seemed to go by slow but since around the time I turned 18 it's gone by way too fast
 
Bill said:
I'm 26 and the last 6 years have gone by with the quickness
So no it hasn't slowed down for me, total opposite

When I was younger time seemed to go by slow but since around the time I turned 18 it's gone by way too fast
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From the lofty (?) heights of 59, I can say that this perception of time speeding up gets intensified with every decade to the point where it feels surreal. Decade now = one year when I was younger in terms of the perception of time.
 
Yeah am 25 and all partying stopped a few years ago, if I try to reignite that with old friends who used to be animals when 21 they look at me as if I'm insane. I mean you meet up with them and they all have long-term girlfriends (a few of them engaged) and are all obsessed with work. AT BEST you can book them for a quick cup of coffee. Sort of feel extremely guilty as am still at university + directionless and you can tell they sort of look down on that. I'll show the cunts.... They weren't impressed when I said they all look like they're off that show "Neighbours".
 
I think being 26 has been good to me so far.... I know a lot of 18-22 year olds who are in worse shape, and more haggard looking than me. Experience has taught me to not "push" myself so hard. . Not SEEK drugs as much , and generally just be happier with less. I ran a half-marathon this year, and I skateboard intensely for about an hour a day.

I got in a fight with a 21 year old athelete (and mean alcoholic) - and knocked him out, but he also chipped my tooth which cost me about 70 bucks to fix at the dentists office. I think the fight occured mostly out of "defense of my honor" but also because I wanted to prove to myself that I am not loosing my edge.
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I have been thinking about having kids/marriage lately... and I have never really planned on either. The opposite really. life is awesome. even as you age.
 
Fuck I hope it isn't that way. I'm 25 now and rebuilding my social life, and it seems that every age-appropriate friend I make is busy with school, work, and a serious girlfriend/wife (sometimes kids, too). The biggest problem, for me, is that I lost ages 21-24 to a sleeping disorder, I simply wasn't going out and was disassociating myself from old friends at that time, so those years are just... gone. And I still want to go out and get fucked up, and do things that I couldn't do when I was younger, but not single.

The only new person I hung out with who was fun ended up in rehab about a week after we hung out for the first time. I lost contact. The others, I'm lucky if I can convince these dudes to have a beer with me when we hang out, dudes just want to sit around and talk or catch a movie or something. It's depressing to me, because I feel like the best years of my life passed me by due to my neurological/circadian problems during my early 20's.
 
herbavore said:
From the lofty (?) heights of 59, I can say that this perception of time speeding up gets intensified with every decade to the point where it feels surreal. Decade now = one year when I was younger in terms of the perception of time.
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Hi herbavore =] Just want to say I read your story, and found it inspirational and stunning in many ways..to read your words was to read a mother's heart, and damn me if it didn't bring a tear to my grumpy-ass eye...

Anyway, I think what you're on about is quite interesting! I'll never forget my pops telling me "Son, you'll be 40 with kids before you know it" - at 17 it was hahaha ... but it's 27 now pop and more like ha.. ha....

That's more of my aside though as this 'speeding up' effect you're describing is a real and documented one! Remember reading that by older age it is something like a 1.4:1 ratio experienced than a teenager... I found it fascinating.. consciousness as the Creator... projecting & perceiving time differently; a moment so long, now seems to linger..cool stuff.
 
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