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Do You Think You Deserve Happiness?

no one deserves anything other than freedom, happiness is somethibg that you need to work for, some find that which makes them happy sooner than others, while some die sad and alone.
 
more to the point - I deserve to be happy and who am i to decide others' fates for them?

i am happy to see others happy .
 
Happiness is relative, isn't it? I just want to be content. Contentment is bliss, bliss, bliss.
 
Very important
"i am happy to see others happy "'

this is a awesome feeling --

There are neural opioid systems that make and release the brain's own opioids, active at these receptors. Mu-opioid neural systems are complexly interrelated with the mesolimbic dopamine system.



New science, using genetically altered mice, including ones deficient in dopamine or in mu-opioid receptors, is beginning to tease apart the functions of dopamine and mu-opioid systems, which some scientists
think are more directly related to happiness

????Kent C. BerridgeBerridge and colleague Dr. Terry Robinson have formulated a contemporary theory of addiction called the Incentive Sensitization Theory of Addiction.[3] According to this theory, drug addiction develops from a sensitization of the mesolimbic dopamine system. Dopamine normally functions to attribute incentive salience to stimuli associated with rewards like food and sex, and triggers reward “wanting”. Drugs hijack this “wanting” system. Following repeated use of drugs, the dopamine system becomes hyper-responsive and drug cues become hyper-salient. This means drug cues are nearly impossible for addicts to ignore, and when they are encountered they can lead to intense cravings and/or relapse. This sensitized cue-triggered drug 'wanting' can persist for years after an addict quits drugs, and long after drug withdrawal has ceased. This fact may account for the tendency of former addicts to relapse to drug use after quitting, sometimes even after many years of abstinence. jury still out on this one ??


http://www-personal.umich.edu/~berridge/





Who knows
 
Unfortunately, people tend to treat happiness like a commodity that needs to be earned or bought. When in fact I've found that happiness is really when you don't want anything. And yes, everyone deserves to be happy. But we are generally deluded about the cause of geniune happiness. Happiness, like love, is much more than a fleeting feeling. It is a natural state of being if not clouded by desire. That's my 2 cents on happiness,
 
I don't think you're happy enough. That's right! I'll teach you to be
happy! I'll teach your grandmother to suck eggs!

HAPPY HAPPY JOY JOY

I just thought of something..about the idea of "deserving" happiness...maybe depressed people feel guilty about being depressed, since everyone that's happy is always showing it off and talking about how it's a "state of mind"? Naturally then, what results is a feeling of guilt when not happy. And when people are happy they avoid the "bad viber"...like"ew, depressing, stay away"
yeh it all makes sense.
 
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no no, by no means does EVERYONE stay away. I think a lot of average people, who don't care about you, would at least look at you with concern if they saw you crying on the ground or something. But society is cold. people ignore "bad things" ; for anyone in a bit of a bad mood, it's just frustrating. But I guess if you accept that people can't possibly watch out for YOU, your emotions are entirely your responsibility - wanna cry? go ahead, I don't care - so ... I guess... those who fall will take society down with them. haha. (I change subjects every 1/10 seconds; if I even had a subject to begin with)
 
Every living thing deserves happiness, IMO. Real, lasting happiness is not possible, though, until you can learn to treat other living things as you would like to be treated. It's amazing what shedding your negativity can do. Most people who are depressed, unhappy, angry, etc wear those emotions like a cloak, because at first glance it seems easier to pass it off to others or bask in it than it is to fix it. But trust me, when you can cast it aside and spread love around to everything you encounter, it will be returned to you, and happiness can be achieved.

In other words, your happiness is not the responsiblity of, nor the result of, anyone else. It comes from you and way you interact with the rest of the world.

ControlDenied said:
Naturally then, what results is a feeling of guilt when not happy. And when people are happy they avoid the "bad viber"...like"ew, depressing, stay away"
yeh it all makes sense.
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Some people may do that, but those who are truly happy will try to help anyone who isn't or at least will do what they can in passing. I've found, like I said above, that the key to being happy is to bring happiness to others. This is why I post in TDS a lot, even though I'm a very happy person. When I was insecure about my happiness 6 months to a year ago, I avoided TDS like the plague because it would bring me down every time I read it. But now I attempt to give advice based on my experiences, and instead, it makes me feel so good and joyful to have helped someone.

Spread the love, spread the love. It's true that all you need is love.

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Very important
"i am happy to see others happy "'

Yes I agree that's important, if you like to see others happy you recognise the happiness within yourself.
 
The OP said: "i guess throughout wider society, people often think we are all 'entitled' to happiness."

Yeah, and I am one of those people.

A person is "allowed" to feel Happy as often as he wants to.
No matter what occurs, I can be Happy.
If a close Relative dies, I can Smile (if I wish).
No event MUST make me un-Happy.

The problem is when a person believes that she MUST be Happy (and all of the time).
At this point, ANY second she's not Happy, she can feel bad about it.
Then, being "guilty" of un-Happiness, she must pay the price.
Unfortunately, the "price" is pain.

I strive to look at the average way I am feeling (the Long View).
I attempt to live a Happy-enough Life.
I believe that if I am Happy for several minutes a day, then I have WON!
The rest of the day, I can remember feeling Happy (and be proud of myself for feeling it).
When I am NOT Happy, I forgive myself.
Then, I am not creating a Trap-door into a Black Hole.

It's OK to expect some Happy times.
It's also OK to remember Happy times (and feel Happy, because of them).
And, it's even OK to look forward to future Happy times.

For, no matter how bad things may look, that feeling does not last forever.
When I'm feeling down, it is REAL easy to forget this fact.

One thing I did, years ago now, was start an "Attitude of Gratitude" journal.
If anything good happens (and it does sometimes), I write it down.
Some days(at teh beginning), the ONLY good thing was OK weather.
Other days, a few good things occurred.

Then, as I sit in darkness, I open-up my journal and read about some good days.
This helps me remember that Life is good also.
Often-times this wil make me feel Happy.

Happiness, a little bit can go a long way.
 
when people are miserable, they try to bring others down if they think they'll always be like or that people "should" be like...when people are happy if they they've always been like that they rub it in the miserable people's faces, GODA MIT WHY
 
^^ That's not always true, not at all. People who try to rub their own happiness in the faces of unhappy people must not really be happy. They are probably deluding themselves into thinking they're happy and in reality their only defense mechanism to deal with their lives is to try to feel superior over others. It's the same idea as kids making fun of and hurting other kids who are different.

There's a difference between feeling happy momentarily and actually being a happy person. A person who uses others to feel better about themselves at the other person's expense may gain momentary satisfaction and a feeling of pleasure from doing so, but it will fade and they'll feel insecure and unhappy again, at which point they'll prey on yet another person's emotions. I've not ever met anyone who is truly a happy person who tried to lord that happiness over others. Being happy (content, whatever you want to call it) has to do with being secure in yourself and wishing for the lives of those you meet to be better. In my opinion anyway.
 
Xorkoth said:
Every living thing deserves happiness, IMO. Real, lasting happiness is not possible, though, until you can learn to treat other living things as you would like to be treated. It's amazing what shedding your negativity can do. Most people who are depressed, unhappy, angry, etc wear those emotions like a cloak, because at first glance it seems easier to pass it off to others or bask in it than it is to fix it. But trust me, when you can cast it aside and spread love around to everything you encounter, it will be returned to you, and happiness can be achieved.

In other words, your happiness is not the responsiblity of, nor the result of, anyone else. It comes from you and way you interact with the rest of the world.



Some people may do that, but those who are truly happy will try to help anyone who isn't or at least will do what they can in passing. I've found, like I said above, that the key to being happy is to bring happiness to others. This is why I post in TDS a lot, even though I'm a very happy person. When I was insecure about my happiness 6 months to a year ago, I avoided TDS like the plague because it would bring me down every time I read it. But now I attempt to give advice based on my experiences, and instead, it makes me feel so good and joyful to have helped someone.

Spread the love, spread the love. It's true that all you need is love.

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greatly unbelieveable post !

keep passing it on

it's very true that the TDS = Happiness

=D
 
oh...I kinda thought everyone was talking about "momentary" happiness, not some metaphysical, divine, love-happiness. in that case...yes, i try to spray that shit everywhere when I can. like a skunk whose odour is good, rather than bad.
 
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