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do you know your sexual preference from you first sexual experience?

Sexuality is malleable. Shit changes, yo.
Do you think people are born with the fetishes they have?
You experience new things throughout your life. You can be exposed to things, and what you derive from them can be some nice sexual gratification up in your genitalia and brain.
You might experience the same thing much differently to previously.
I mean you can experience sexual acts that go against your sexuality, just like your sexuality can grow to sexual acts.
What if your feet just happen to be really adorable? They might be less sexual than your breasts to you, but more to the other lucky person.
Anyway, what about rape and shit?
If you got raped, would your sexual preference be geared towards being raped by whatever gender/characteristics?
If you're a curious young child, and you hug like mummy and daddy to make a baby and kiss, does this mean you're going to grow up to be a paedophile? To like that gender?
I mean I've been told that bisexual/pansexual/whateversexual go through times where they're much more attracted to one person than another, of converse gender.
I mean, shit influences your sexual preference, and I don't think your first time has any inherent significance simply from being your first.
I fucked my first bitch hard cause it wasn't stemming from love, it was from lust.
Does this mean I'd fuck you like a teenage kid now? No, it wouldn't... Unless I was in that sort of mood. You see what I mean? Not only is my 'sexuality' different/evolved, but it is also fluid. Maybe my desire is focused on your tits, or your arse, or your throat, or your mouth, or your eyes, or your feet, or whatever it may be. Maybe I wanna tie you down, or get tied down, or maybe I wanna make love. Maybe I want to fuck like an animal and demolish you, or maybe I want you to demolish me. Maybe it will be rough, or gentle.
You see what I mean?
Sexuality isn't one solid unchanging thing, man.
If you only desire the same thing every single time, I don't know..
Sexuality is the whole of all our senses, right? I mean, our senses like different things.
So what if you blindfold me and someone I'd find visually unattractive (maybe the opposite sex if you're hetero) give me a really good blowjob, or even backed onto my dick? If my hands were behind my back the sensation would be enjoyable, but if I were to know it was a man the sexual aspect of it would be annihilated.
What if I'm watching porn that turns me on that I wouldn't want to experience?
etc
You don't even have to sexually experience something to know if you have aversion to such.
I find no attraction to masculine features, and have never done so, other than the penis.
Therefore, I don't want to fuck a guy. But, if you took away my eyes, the sense on which my aversion/judgemental is rooted, I wouldn't have an aversion.

What are the grounds for an act/desire to be sexual?
Why has romantic and sensual acts become seen as sexual?
Why has the line of affection and sexual gratification been blurred?
 
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For some yes for some no. I am Bi and have been with a equal ammount of men and women. I started with the women at 13 and the dudes 19. Actually i just had a pretty awesome threesome with some guys i met last night.
 
Yes I am bisexual and I was with guys who were friends/male peers and when I was with a woman as an adult I knew about my sexuality long before that. I can fall in love with men and women but I am monogamous no matter who I am with.

Some people don't know though and for others it can take years or even decades to realize that they're not heterosexual.
 
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I am bisexual. My first sex experience was with a guy, but I haven't been with one for a few years now, also considering that I have a girlfriend. I gotta say I like both but for some reason gay sex is definitely more creative, less confusing and more fun in my opinion than straight sex. I enjoyed the mobility of being with a guy my first time and the amount of body hair, etc. Don't get me wrong, I love the skin on a girl, but for some reason I enjoy the ruggedness of men. I still have yet to have any emotional feelings for a man though. Never felt it.
 
I've been with more guys, just one girl...but I loved her, still do. Still, I have a hard time sharing myself so personally with random people. My first sexual experiences(with another male) were not really my choice though, I was too young to know better or to say stop. I kind of grew into my sexuality throughout college, seeing gay porn for the first time and shit. My attraction tends towards females though. It was difficult for me to realize that I'm bisexual because of the area I grew up in and because of the stigma towards anything but heterosexuality in Mexican culture, but I'm a lot happier now that I'm out to most of my friends and family. The stigma against bisexual men is so huge sometimes, its easier to live on the DL in public, but its harder to be happy this way.

I don't feel emotional attraction to guys as much as I do females. Girls are easier to talk to and bond with. I've felt it a little bit, but guys are not as open emotionally...regardless of sexuality.
 
Interesting topic, because I had a conversation with my friend over the weekend (MDMA experiences I found make you talk A LOT lol) who thinks his son is gay. His son is about 10. He is hard on his boys IMO, but they can be bratty. They seem to be much better since I've seen them last, so maybe his hard attitude towards them has shaped them up for the better.

I don't see his son as gay. He's a little emo and I think he is angry even for a young kid. That's what I told him. But, I thought of Bluelight and some of the comments some people have made about knowing they were gay even at 10ish. I kinda wonder if the kid knows. I think he will be very afraid to tell his dad. I said if I'm still around that he can come out to me, because I don't care. lol I think it's more scary that the kid seems angry at the world even at 10, and he has a pure mean streak in him, but we shall see what happens.
 
Mmmh. Well my first sexual experience was with a man and I know I liked it but it didn't tell me for sure that I wasn't bi for instance. But since then I've had experiences with women and I can say I do indeed prefer men :)

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Interesting topic, because I had a conversation with my friend over the weekend (MDMA experiences I found make you talk A LOT lol) who thinks his son is gay. His son is about 10.
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Huh. I wouldn't have thought you could really guess someone's sexuality at such a young age? I've got 3 gay friends and one of them told me he realized it when he was 12, the others were 15 and 18. But there's no rule I guess.
 
Huh. I wouldn't have thought you could really guess someone's sexuality at such a young age? I've got 3 gay friends and one of them told me he realized it when he was 12, the others were 15 and 18. But there's no rule I guess.
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Yeah I am not sure about what he said. He's always had a problem with his son's flamboyance. Unfortunately for the youngest (10 year old), I think it's obvious which one his dad prefers. He is not the favorite, so I think it has more to do with trying to gain favor from his dad. He also asked me if he thinks his son looks like him. It's said, really. The mom is a POS, and I really thought he was being a jealous ex-BF when he told me, but after seeing some of the stuff she's done and neglecting her kids, I think he's telling me the truth there. I am interested where his youngest will be in 5 years. I feel bad for the kid, but I'm not sure he's gay and on top of that, I think he's going to be trouble when he gets older. He has a meeeeean streak in him.
 
My brother is gay and he said that he pretty much always knew he was gay. It was more that he understood himself as different. Do you think that's what the son could be experiencing? He could also just be straight, but you know flamboyance is always a hint, even though I experienced little flamboyance with my brother.. It's such a complicated matter and it's sad this kid has to go through it with fear or letting people know. I find it sad kids even have to go through that these days.

Sorry just a rant. I hate how unfair it is.
 
Well i knew i liked chicks the first time i even got halfway to sex with one :D . I always and still do find guys well gross :p . I seriously don't know how every chick is not a lesbian so i knew i was not bi or gay pretty fast. It has fuck all to do with any concept of sexuality with me and all to do with aesthetics because i have found some very convincing trannies to be hot and would maybe shag them if that opportunity came up so yeah :\
 
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I am bisexual. My first sex experience was with a guy, but I haven't been with one for a few years now, also considering that I have a girlfriend. I gotta say I like both but for some reason gay sex is definitely more creative, less confusing and more fun in my opinion than straight sex. I enjoyed the mobility of being with a guy my first time and the amount of body hair, etc. Don't get me wrong, I love the skin on a girl, but for some reason I enjoy the ruggedness of men. I still have yet to have any emotional feelings for a man though. Never felt it.
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see i dont get your rugged comment at all,im hairy and rugged and women are soft,ie thats why i want to fuck them hard to ensure my rugged dominance,lol
but seriously i already have a dick,i dont need another one stuck up my arse,haha
 
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Yeah I am not sure about what he said. He's always had a problem with his son's flamboyance. Unfortunately for the youngest (10 year old), I think it's obvious which one his dad prefers. He is not the favorite, so I think it has more to do with trying to gain favor from his dad. He also asked me if he thinks his son looks like him. It's said, really. The mom is a POS, and I really thought he was being a jealous ex-BF when he told me, but after seeing some of the stuff she's done and neglecting her kids, I think he's telling me the truth there. I am interested where his youngest will be in 5 years. I feel bad for the kid, but I'm not sure he's gay and on top of that, I think he's going to be trouble when he gets older. He has a meeeeean streak in him.
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wow, that is all kinds of fucked up. i know a few gay guys who have mean streaks, and are probably self loathing but i don't know if it stems from their sexuality. it actually seems to be kind of an old fashioned idea of gay. you're all just kind of having mean senses of humor. i have noticed that in older films and in the drag community but not so much these days with non trannies. ANYWAY i didn't mean any of that to sound offense in any way, i wasn't trying to generalize.

i'm straight in activity and fantasy apart from sometimes fantasizing about girls while alone and joan jett when she was younger was ravishing. so just because i haven't done any girls, i'll go with straight. i don't think it would be gross if i did, i am just really into men and sometimes fantasies of gay sex (of both genders). i also have a real thing for films about gay hookers (male) but that may be another issue entirely..
 
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see i dont get your rugged comment at all,im hairy and rugged and women are soft,ie thats why i want to fuck them hard to ensure my rugged dominance,lol
but seriously i already have a dick,i dont need another one stuck up my arse,haha
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Its the best of both worlds :D I can get the feeling of being with a big strong guy or I can be all domimant with girls.

@ alexvolume: thats how it was for me too.
 
You can have a pretty good idea. I mean, after your first sexual experience, you probably know whether you like a female or male anatomy better. Of course, it's not the be all and end all. Maybe the guy was really ugly? Maybe the sex was terrible so you thought you were gay? It isn't foulproof but it should give you a pretty good idea of your orientation.
Like others have said though, your sexual orientation can change (slightly). You might think you're straight if you have sex with a guy and love it. But then realize later you're actually bisexual.
But I think your first sexual experience gives you a pretty good idea of your sexual orientation, yes!
 
No you don't.
Some people seem to know their sexual orientation before they have sex, others need to experiment.
You should try a few times with both sexes and see which you prefer.
Some people find that both have their charms.
 
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