Do you ever feel 100% comfortable?

[double ewe]

very rarely.

-after a serious session of rolling/stretching/yoga on my legs.

-after a near-100% effort in a race or workout.

otherwise i feel antsy and want to be doing more.

 

[Heuristic]

Just to put a different spin on this:

It seems that activity here is assumed to be somehow contradictory to comfort. Can't one be comfortable WHILE seeking a goal, pushing oneself physically, etc?

Meditation, deep relaxation, progressive relaxation, etc., are all good techniques for relieving anxiety. But, sometimes vigorous physical activity can be helpful too.

I get the sense here that, for some, the thought of activity, of letting go and moving, is to some extent anxiety-provoking; and so there is a sharp, nearly obsessive, emphasis on meditation, on losing thought, on losing the self.

And I would suggest... that perhaps the assumption underlying that emphasis is what needs to be re-examined. Perhaps what is needed... is not simply accomplishing a means to relax in the quiet hours, which is important; but also a realization that one can be comfortable in the less quiet hours.

Sometimes what is most disturbing in our quiet hours, is precisely the thought of the less quiet hours. And so resolving issues concerned with those less quiet hours can actually make the quiet hours more comfortable.

 

[ebola?]

Can't one be comfortable WHILE seeking a goal

I would say only insofar as one pushes toward this goal without seeking it...something like moving 'in' 'The Dao'.

But, sometimes vigorous physical activity can be helpful too.

I concur (for obvious reasons)...but in these moments, such physical vigor becomes the end, not a means.

ebola

 

[Heuristic]

I would say only insofar as one pushes toward this goal without seeking it...something like moving 'in' 'The Dao'.

I have to admit that I don't know what that means. Isn't it exciting and fun to seek the achievement of a goal?

I concur (for obvious reasons)...but in these moments, such physical vigor becomes the end, not a means.
ebola

Oh, come on, the push to win the race, to beat your time, to be the best at X, in combination with the rush of physical effort?

And even if we're just talking about sex... I'd say that there's definitely a means-ends relationship in there, at the end.

 

[Jackal]

I have a lot of skeletal, muscular and nerve pain from a bike crash five years back. Sometimes I feel like an old man. Not always though

Been having back niggles lately. My mattress was at fault. A level, solid mattress with no pillow is the best way to sleep, for me anyhow.

 

[thujone]

i'm only uncomfortable when i need to take a poop. it makes me obsessive, so that i can't enjoy any other activity until i drop a log or two

 

[wibble]

I have some upper back issues that aren't really resolving so I never feel100% comfortable. Lying in bed has recently got really uncomfortable which is a real fucker.

 

[ebola?]

I have to admit that I don't know what that means. Isn't it exciting and fun to seek the achievement of a goal?

Sorry for not having been clear--to a certain extent, I was just kinda riffing...Pursuing a goal can be gratifying, but such gratification remains imperfect. Seeking, striving, whatever, toward a goal implies imperfection: the present state isn't quite right, and I should strive toward something else (said goal). This is a type of discomfort that emerges from goal seeking as such.

Perhaps the tragedy is that this is the only real route toward happiness in daily life, fraught with imperfection from the get-go...then one must truly take the journey to be the destination to find tranquility.

This last strategy is what I quipped as resembling living the 'Dao'.

Oh, come on, the push to win the race, to beat your time, to be the best at X, in combination with the rush of physical effort?

And even if we're just talking about sex... I'd say that there's definitely a means-ends relationship in there, at the end.

The first set of conditions do create a sort of pleasure coupled with ambition, but marred with an imperfection barring "100% comfort".

Re: sex: Sometimes, I find taking pleasure in the journey itself somewhat at odds with the lure of orgasm.

ebola

 

[mr. brownstone]

otherwise i feel antsy and want to be doing more.

Same here. Only time i feel 100% comfortable is when I'm hiking by myself miles away from society. I guess I'm just an introvert.

 

[Rahcookiemonster]

I grew up with a lot of anxiety. It amazes me how comfortable I feel walking around sometimes. some days I just feel like I have my life in order, I will figure everything out, and I'm making the right steps to get what I want. I exude some sort of crazy sexual attraction, and I just feel at ease with everything. Things that may have been confusing me for weeks become so clear and see through.

Other days I'm a mess. I keep going through in my mind things I need to get done, what I should have done better, where I'm lacking, and I do not want to talk with people.

Lately there have been a lot of things and frustration on my mind, I find it seeping out into my physical body. A little tenseness here or there that goes unnoticed unless I focus on keeping relaxed. Meditation helps...

Lemme know if you find the secret key to feeling like this all the time. You've described my moods to a tee. It's either great-beyond scope, or flat and dark Do you feel like your 'up' moods fit with the description of mania?

Noticed any sort of pattern to the shifts?

It's amazing how different the same scenario can look depending on your mood haha.

IMO after getting a "taste" of what jam above describes as balance, you begin to crave it and look for means to achieve it all the time.

For sure. Just make sure you don't look for it in the wrong places... 8(