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During an excursion to Coles after work today, I was walking around and as I went through the chocolates and sweets section (dreaming of what I could have if I wasn't on a diet ), I became witness to a kid coping a good walloping.
You probably know the type of kid I'm talking about - they'll whine and whine for something, increasing in intensity as the request is denied, eventually ending in hysterics and crying. The mother, emabarassed I'm assuming, seen her only other option left to her was to give this kid a few well delivered wallops on the bum - damn even I cringed. All hell broke loose then, he might have been crying before, but not he was screaming at the top of his lungs.
This particular incident struck a nerve with me because I come from an abused childhood myself, where my father believed that words were a waste of time when disciplining a kid - without getting into too much detail, but I'm sure you know what I mean.
I'm a father myself and knock on wood have the most adorable and well behaved child - even though I'm divorced, both his mother and I have worked as a team in raising him. I have never resorted to laying a finger on him, nor even contemplated it. You say no to him and thats it, end of story - he drops it and no arguing the matter - you ask to him to do something and he does it without question. Yes I am blessed
Back to the child at Coles - it got me thinking - is this child predisposed to such behaviour, such as in his genes? Or is he the product of his upbringing? I guess the possibilities could be endless and each child would be an individual case.
I thought the tactics employed by the mother were overdone and quite cruel - but this could be my own personal bias speaking to. But I'd love to know what other people think about discipling children.
Is it acceptable to physically discipline your child? And if so, to what extent before it becomes abuse?
You probably know the type of kid I'm talking about - they'll whine and whine for something, increasing in intensity as the request is denied, eventually ending in hysterics and crying. The mother, emabarassed I'm assuming, seen her only other option left to her was to give this kid a few well delivered wallops on the bum - damn even I cringed. All hell broke loose then, he might have been crying before, but not he was screaming at the top of his lungs.
This particular incident struck a nerve with me because I come from an abused childhood myself, where my father believed that words were a waste of time when disciplining a kid - without getting into too much detail, but I'm sure you know what I mean.
I'm a father myself and knock on wood have the most adorable and well behaved child - even though I'm divorced, both his mother and I have worked as a team in raising him. I have never resorted to laying a finger on him, nor even contemplated it. You say no to him and thats it, end of story - he drops it and no arguing the matter - you ask to him to do something and he does it without question. Yes I am blessed
Back to the child at Coles - it got me thinking - is this child predisposed to such behaviour, such as in his genes? Or is he the product of his upbringing? I guess the possibilities could be endless and each child would be an individual case.
I thought the tactics employed by the mother were overdone and quite cruel - but this could be my own personal bias speaking to. But I'd love to know what other people think about discipling children.
Is it acceptable to physically discipline your child? And if so, to what extent before it becomes abuse?