My beautiful, intelligent, loving daughter has a dark side that I have been denying. She has been arrested for shoplifting, busted at school for smoking pot on school grounds in high school ( no charges), took our car when she did not have her license and was stopped for speeding and reckless driving with no license.
The officer let her go. She was arrested for DUI (alcohol), hit another car and is extremely lucky she didn't injure anyone except herself. She spent 3 days in jail and completed a very short probation. We recently found out through her own admission, she is addicted to opiates. She asked to go to a therapist, which I researched and found for her. She then reluctantly agreed to go. Her first meeting is tomorrow.
She is currently dating a Heroin addict who was arrested and spent a month in jail. He is now on probation. She lives with us and he was constantly here until I refused to allow him to stay at our home all the time ( recent ). He does not seem to be coming over as much. He has lots of issues with finding work, money etc.
She revealed to me a few days ago that she has been using naloxone to curb her opiate cravings. I don't know where she gets this, but my guess is through the boyfriend. I confronted her on where she gets the opiates and she said " all her friends take them". I found aluminum foil with black smudges in her room. She said she was smoking hash oil. We had a long discussion on how harmful this is.
I have purchased a urine screen (opiates) and am thinking of making her provide a sample today. She is very privileged. She has thousands of dollars from her grandparents that shows up every year in the form of a check to her to be used for school. She is using this money to fix her car
( thank God at the time of her accident, we were struggling financially and only had coverage for the other person, so her car is sitting in a lot, destroyed. We bought her the car her Senior year of high school- private school for troubled kids!) She is extremely spoiled and takes all of this for granted. She works part time at a coffee shop and is a great worker. They love her there.
She is in school, starting full time this semester as a condition of her wanting us to support her in living outside of our home. She has always struggled in school due to lack of motivation. I am wondering how to handle this. She smokes cigarettes and constantly says she's trying to stop, but can't. I told her she can not smoke on our property. No one else in our family smokes and we don't want to smell it or see the cigarette butts everywhere. She obviously has an addiction disorder ( DUI, cigarette smoking, pot ). We paid her tuition for her this semester, but I am thinking of telling her she will need to drop her classes and move out if her test comes out positive.
I cannot live with the idea that we are supporting her addiction by paying her bills. I feel like this is a pattern that will continue to spiral downward and that we are enabling her. I also feel this is good timing as she does not have a car.
The officer let her go. She was arrested for DUI (alcohol), hit another car and is extremely lucky she didn't injure anyone except herself. She spent 3 days in jail and completed a very short probation. We recently found out through her own admission, she is addicted to opiates. She asked to go to a therapist, which I researched and found for her. She then reluctantly agreed to go. Her first meeting is tomorrow.
She is currently dating a Heroin addict who was arrested and spent a month in jail. He is now on probation. She lives with us and he was constantly here until I refused to allow him to stay at our home all the time ( recent ). He does not seem to be coming over as much. He has lots of issues with finding work, money etc.
She revealed to me a few days ago that she has been using naloxone to curb her opiate cravings. I don't know where she gets this, but my guess is through the boyfriend. I confronted her on where she gets the opiates and she said " all her friends take them". I found aluminum foil with black smudges in her room. She said she was smoking hash oil. We had a long discussion on how harmful this is.
I have purchased a urine screen (opiates) and am thinking of making her provide a sample today. She is very privileged. She has thousands of dollars from her grandparents that shows up every year in the form of a check to her to be used for school. She is using this money to fix her car
( thank God at the time of her accident, we were struggling financially and only had coverage for the other person, so her car is sitting in a lot, destroyed. We bought her the car her Senior year of high school- private school for troubled kids!) She is extremely spoiled and takes all of this for granted. She works part time at a coffee shop and is a great worker. They love her there.
She is in school, starting full time this semester as a condition of her wanting us to support her in living outside of our home. She has always struggled in school due to lack of motivation. I am wondering how to handle this. She smokes cigarettes and constantly says she's trying to stop, but can't. I told her she can not smoke on our property. No one else in our family smokes and we don't want to smell it or see the cigarette butts everywhere. She obviously has an addiction disorder ( DUI, cigarette smoking, pot ). We paid her tuition for her this semester, but I am thinking of telling her she will need to drop her classes and move out if her test comes out positive.
I cannot live with the idea that we are supporting her addiction by paying her bills. I feel like this is a pattern that will continue to spiral downward and that we are enabling her. I also feel this is good timing as she does not have a car.
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I am sorry to hear that you daughter is struggling with an addiction.
But dont loose hope or heart as many people are able to recover from this, I know Im one
. Here is a Link for a great thread that I encourage you to look through. >
