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Describe your love life:)

QuasiModo

QuasiModo

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I just wanna share how awesome things are right now and I'd love to hear about yourself no matter how it's going :)

I have a very beautiful, very intelligent, very open minded girlfriend who also happens to be entirely in love with me. She and I are also very different. She smokes weed and might drink a girly wine cooler here and there but has refused narcotics otherwise her entire life. She is in love with my mind. I suppose I am insightful and I can undoubtedly keep up in conversation.. It hasn't been more than a month and she hasn't not talked to me for more than a few hours the entire time. She's also one of the horniest people I've ever met. What's strange is that I wasn't always that horny, as a guy this has consistently been a source of insecurity for me. Why was I not the horny libido monster my friends were growing up? Maybe I was just more honest about how I felt. That said; this girl has me sprung like no other female I have ever encountered. The first time we had sex last week I was on shrooms. Every time since then has gotten better and better. This is a marvelous step up from my former impotent/embarrassed self in the sack. Perhaps it just had to come to me with experience but she has told me "you know how to love" and I'm really fucking excited at that prospect. I think I'm gonna keep this one around for a while.

Also just so everyone knows I've also had gay sex. Yep. I was so shitty at having sex with women when I was younger I actually tried to see what the fuss was about being gay. I prefer the straight ;)

So spill your guts cuz I'm listening :)
 
you ever done blow for like 3 days straight? you know that feeling when you're all out of blow and you don't have a landing gear?

that's probably a decent description of my current love life.
 
like putting money on even numbers on a roulette wheel consisting of only odd numbers.
kinda know what is gonna happen but do it anyway, i never win in love, i have had 1 gf who broke my heart a year ago, i'm over that now but now in love with a girl who also likes me romanticly but doesn't want to date me....FMLL (fuck my love life)
 
Ah thats good news I'm happy for ya.
In my love life it's going great. I have a boyfriend... live with him for almost a month now^^ I am madly in Love with him and he seems to feel the same for me. We have our ups and downs but other wise at the end of each day it ends up always good.
 
my gf and i are really in love with each other. were pretty much attached at the hip. we joke about how we think were secretly the same person transplanted into a male and female body. but after a few years, something was missing. we were getting pretty stressed out. it diddnt take long for me to figure it out for myself. shortly before i met her, i had just discovered that i was into swinging and all around sexual hedonism. weve been totally monogamous, and she has never explored that sort of lifestyle or activity. it came to the point where i broke down and told her it wasnt fair for her to be with me, when i dont believe i am capable of long term monogamy. i believe my very life vitality, my body's internal energy and forces, require diversity in sexual partners to a small degree in order to stay properly balanced and fully healthy. i am not capable of long term monogamy, its like only eating one single food group, and the body begins to buckle under the stress of nutritional deficiency.

that conversation had the opposite effect of what i expected (see, thats why one should go through all things in life with no expectations!). I found out that all the urges ive kept bottled up inside me merely caused wasted energy and stress with no benefit. I should have known that if we really are "the same person inside," shed feel the same way. Sure enough I discovered she is a freak (I prefer the term, "heretic," thank you very much) just like me, and has been fantasizing about all the things I am in dire need of for a long time.

I kind of figured our relationship wasnt going to last another month, at least not exclusively. Turns out that confessing all of that strengthened us, and allowed us to get way more sexually explorative. Ive gone from fearing a future without her to feeling excitement for a new future to explore with her. She has admitted that she never mentioned some of the things she thinks about her self and her desires because she has been trained by the world at large to shun such thoughts. Its starting to seem like we couldnt be better matched for each other.

Also brings me to the conclusion that good relationships are really only compromised by failure to communicate. Cant reinforce that idea any better.
 
I'm living with the love of my life. He got me into some freaky shit. I was a virgin (technically) when we met. I'd dated a few girls, had a few so called "boyfriends" that I'd never even made out with, but he was the first guy I ever had sex with. It started out pretty simple, but he got me started with anal. For a long time, I hated it. But, eventually, I started getting used to it... Then one day, I LIKED it. Since then, he brought another girl home for us to share, and we've gotten more adventurous. He's sweet, funny, and annoying as shit at times, but I love him so much nonetheless. He puts up with my outrageous moods and always takes care of me. Life is sweet...n a little semen-salty flavored sometimes
 
my love life consists of several fuck buddies and several good friends who have potential to be a proper relationship; that is all unfortunately.
 
That sounds amazing, OP. Very very happy for you.

My love life is totally non-existent. Lately I have been getting feelings of "Man, I'd like what I see my friends having" with intimate relationships and whatnot, as i've always been a lone wolf....But I dont know. It will end some time, why put myself through that? I feel it's more important at 21 to try and figure myself out, focus on myself and what I am, who I am and where I plan on being before tring to share such a thing with somebody who will inevitably break my heart at some point thus shattering everything I thought I knew about myself (since I only learned it with this hypothetical partner).

A strong foundation first.
Then build on it with somebody.

My "love life" is comprised of several fuckbuddies and alot of sleeping around with no strings all up in here.

But you seem very happy and that makes me very happy :) I would definitely like that some day, and I know I could make someone very happy in that I would never ever cheat and I have alot of love to give.

I also respect bitches n ho's
 
It's amazing how much this differs from person to person. Attempt4 I think you're right on the money, not searching for a relationship and rather improving yourself and state of mind. I didn't have sex for 5 months before my most recent ex, who ended up cheating on me and then a few weeks later I met my current lover who I could not be happier with. Those 5 months were incredibly lonely, yet at the same time that kind of solitude can be invaluable to ones soul. Time spent alone should be taken advantage of, used properly loneliness can fuel ones fire rather than feel like the cold of winter.

Also being in love is fucking awesome. A lot of firsts for me lately, first time I showered with a girlfriend, first time I've told a girl I loved her and been reciprocated honestly, first time I tried doggie style, ect. I can see myself with her for a long time :)
 
I'm working on aquiring another fuck buddy or two.

I may have something serious simmering on a back burner though.

*hmmmmmmm*

:D
 
QuasiModo said:
It's amazing how much this differs from person to person. Attempt4 I think you're right on the money, not searching for a relationship and rather improving yourself and state of mind. I didn't have sex for 5 months before my most recent ex, who ended up cheating on me and then a few weeks later I met my current lover who I could not be happier with. Those 5 months were incredibly lonely, yet at the same time that kind of solitude can be invaluable to ones soul. Time spent alone should be taken advantage of, used properly loneliness can fuel ones fire rather than feel like the cold of winter.

Also being in love is fucking awesome. A lot of firsts for me lately, first time I showered with a girlfriend, first time I've told a girl I loved her and been reciprocated honestly, first time I tried doggie style, ect. I can see myself with her for a long time :)
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Absolutely, man. I wouldn't say i've been in love before. I have had strong feelings, but never true love.
I think that if you feel lonely and sad on your own, then that's all the more reason to actually remain on your own. You must be comfortable in your own skin first and foremost.

So many people I see are wholly co-dependant and as soon as the relationship breaks apart, they are completely helpless. Perhaps if they spent some time gaining a sense of confidence, self-sufficiency and identity before diving head-first into the deep abyss of love and devotion, they would be able to handle break-ups a little easier (of course by no means saying that the break up will be easy, just a tad easier to handle).

All that said however, I feel I am coming to a time where I would actually like to begin sharing my life with someone, however I have just never met a girl I would actually want to begin a relationship with. Not once....which is slightly disconcerting. I wonder whether I am being overly-picky, or if I would rather not simply settle for someone like many do. I wonder if I perhaps have undiscovered intimacy issues, though I doubt it. I just can't seem to see it....whether I can't see a girl I could be with or if it's just an inability to visualise what the scenario may be like, i'm not sure. Perhaps I struggle to think of a girl who would actually want to be with me as I definitely suffer from massive self-conscious issues.
 
A rollercoaster describes my love life for the last 10 years. lol Really great highs and really bad lows. Just when I think I meet someone who isn't a douche, RL smacks me in the face and I realize the guy is a loser.

Right now, it's good, but I'm trying not to get burned again. The guy from December was it, and I refuse to go down the road again. Probably not fair to this guy, but he's been burned too, so I hope he understands. Keeping it simple, fun and not getting my heart into it too quickly. It's been 2 months, and I'm happy now.
 
My love life sucks. I met the love of my life close to 3 years ago. He left me almost a year ago, because I have issues,,,but we were working on things and still dating..and I believed we would get back together. But he just informed me 2 weeks ago that he got some other girl pregnant...and now I guess they are going to try a relationship to see how it works, since he thinks its the right thing to do. So now, I am all alone...while my soul mate is with some other girl about to have his baby. He gets in touch with me once in a while...and we hook up.. I know he is just using me, but I just miss him so much. I hate this girl
 
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My love life sucks. I met the love of my life close to 3 years ago. He left me almost a year ago, because I have issues,,,but we were working on things and still dating..and I believed we would get back together. But he just informed me 2 weeks ago that he got some other girl pregnant...and now I guess they are going to try a relationship to see how it works, since he thinks its the right thing to do. So now, I am all alone...while my soul mate is with some other girl about to have his baby. He gets in touch with me once in a while...and we hook up.. I know he is just using me, but I just miss him so much. I hate this girl
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Don't hate the girl unless she did something bitchy to you. She probably doesn't even know about you. We girls have to stop blaming each other for the cheaters. I've even known guys talk shit about the girl he's cheating with to make it worse, and later both girls find out the guy is cheating on both of them with each other. Sometimes men use the emotions of the ex to have an easy thing on the side, but he's telling the other girl the same lovey-dovey stuff he tells his ex. He's not your soul mate if he's using you like this.
 
Also on hold....

I need to stop diving in headfirst and start using my head first. It's nice to only worry about myself for a change.
 
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