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Mental Health Depression MEGA Thread - DepressionTalk + Over 100 Links of Info

I've never talked to my biological father, but I look at his facebook and see how much I resemble him and see pictures of my 2 half brothers (who don't know I exist because bio father doesn't want his family knowing I exist) and it pisses me off and makes me sad at the same time.

right now I'm detoxing with suboxene and I feel really lonely and empty. I miss my boyfriend who is 1500 miles away; its so easy for me to talk to him, and so hard for me to talk to anyone else
 
Hi all,

thought I would post my 2 cents on depression considering I have been suffering from it for quite some time and feel as if I could offer some valuable advice. Hopefully I could get some advice in return as well?

Where to start I am currently 25 now and have only come to realise how bad my depression has been as of last year where I had an incident where I tried to take my life for the 10th or so time last year in September. Any how that particular incident really opened up my eyes to what was going on and I guess you could say the positives of getting old is coming to understand things better etc, this is what I have found with depression. Since this date, I trained hard, studied hard, kept fit, got counselling, left all the bad friends until 3 months ago where I relapsed and watched my depression do its magic.

I stopped training and just focussed on uni and began drinking, smoking and eating junk food again. I had it embedded in my head that the way which I scored highly in the previous semester was under the same circumstances so why not take that path again as I wanted the high marks. What a mistake that was to my health, although it is one which wasn't of regret. Having been clean prior to the relapse for a while I gained a better understanding of my depression even if it was at my own cost to my health. I learnt that a number of things affect your mental well being:

- If you don't exercise - the body is more inclined to not wanting to move etc (In a way by exercising you are fighting the depression)

- Don't eat crap (When you eat junk food etc, it brings you up only to drop you like a wrestler)

- Don't drink (I would say this is a big contributor to mood swings etc, and it has helped me understand a lot of my own actions in the past)

- Don't smoke (It makes you lose focus and thus the depression gains more control over you)

- Don't drink caffeine drinks (It's another thing that ends up making you lose focus etc)

All in all, I find that in order to beat depression, you need to be in control at all times, your depression will always change and there are ways to beat it. I know this is all easier said then done however after my millionth attempt and having lasted a long time doing well, I think it is now possible. Most of the times your depression hits you when you don't speak up and resolve something that is of concern to you. Keep in mind what you need resolved often doesn't require action, that's just an assumption you have travelling in your head.

My question for concern at the moment though is, how do I go about making new friends? I used to have a tonne of them and now find myself on weekends doing nothing? Also does anyone have advice on staying motivated?

Hope i've helped out someone in some way and apologies if the post doesn't make much sense.
 
^^ Great advice noonoo, thank you! <3

As for making new friends and staying motivated, both of those things can be made easier with practice, just like most other things in life. At first it can be really hard to shove yourself right out of your comfort zone, especially with socialising. I'm doing just that at the moment, for the last couple of months I've been forcing myself in to various social situations even though I might feel like chickening-out at the last minute. It definitely gets easier the more you do it.
 
Cheers n3ophy7e,

it's interesting how depression works, one minute you can be Mr Friendly and the next you can be Mr Loner.

Another thing which I was going to mention is depression is often led due to an inccorect perception on something, i.e. the chemicals in your brain tell you perceive it like this when in fact it is another way. Through my uni course I am now more aware of this and can see that depression is primarily perception based, with this being the case sometimes it is not best to rely on your opinion etc, i.e. it may be best to use facts etc. Something which you don't contol as a guide. I have been trialing this and it does work at times...
 
Why oh why does my depression have to trick me all the time. Last week I went into an exam already having passed the subject with 60%. This was for a post graduate subject as well for business, so it isn't exactly easy which means I should be happy. I was and now the uni holidays are on and bang my depression is hitting me left, right and centre.

I'm trying to get back out there but my heads not making it happen. I just want to be normal and quit being this depressive sob with no job and just a lot of hope. I was doing well, I lost the weight when my depression hit its low point, lost all the bad friends, quit eating bad food, quit the booze and smokes and then the fucker creapt up on me again. Now I am stuck in a loop again and I want out, i've stacked on the weight again and was back on the booze, am fed up of punishing myself like this. I keep on trying to not cave into this shit and then something overcomes me. Just FUCK OFF forever, i've lived with you enough.

Sorry bout the rant but it sort of helped.
 
Having a hard time dealing with my BPD at the moment... I'm feeling very depressed and self-destructive. Meth has practically been my identity over the last several years, and now that I've quit (hopefully!), I feel completely empty. I'm also away from my girlfriend for a couple of days which isn't helping at all. Blah.
 
n3ophy7e said:
I know exactly what you mean hun. I feel like that when I'm really depressed too. But you said it, the amount of good days will being to surpass the amount of bad days. Hang in there <3
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Thanks, I have done. Dont know if its the weather, the meds working or that wonderwoman that I usually am finally coming back but I've been my old happy self since Monday. Its early days and I know my mental state is still quite fragile. It will take some time to gain my original confidence back and this may simply be artificial but I'm not going to think too much about the why's and how's. I'm just happy to feel like me for the first time in such a very long time.

Little steps and day by day. I'll be back to being me and know its not a fragile facade. No one likes feeling like a house of cards but somethings can be out of a persons control.

Here's to mental health and healing. Its not easy, but when is life ever all that easy? I'm just going to enjoy the happiness I currently have and do my best not to worry when or if it will dissappear.

<3
 
^^ So true Sadie. It's great to hear you're feeling a bit better <3

PendulumAM said:
If I want to find a doctor to talk to about social anxiety, nervousness and depression, where do I start? I have health insurance; I'm covered under my stepdads plan until I'm 26 (thank you Obama!) and the health insurance plan has a website where I can look up all kinds of doctors, but what should I look for?
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It's hard for me to say exactly because I'm not in the US so I'm not sure how the system works. But you could just start by mentioning it to your regular doctor and see what they suggest? They will then give you a referral to a psych/therapist, and you can go from there.
Best of luck hun <3
 
I really feel that pain and hard times is a more rewarding experience than bliss. You get something out of it. When things are good you are not being challenged. Art comes from pain and suffering. I would bet that people who rate their lives as carefree and blissful are more likely to do nothing with their lives and be not as creative as someone who always feels the weight of the world's sorrow.
 
PendulumAM said:
If I want to find a doctor to talk to about social anxiety, nervousness and depression, where do I start? I have health insurance; I'm covered under my stepdads plan until I'm 26 (thank you Obama!) and the health insurance plan has a website where I can look up all kinds of doctors, but what should I look for?
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i just googled PSYCHIATRISTS (not psychologists) in my area. no insurance it cost 250 bucks so you're lucky there. ask for a doctor who specializes in mental health/anxiety etc. call them and say im a new patient and would like to set up a consultation then they'll ask you why and like 10 routine questions about cutting and stuff

i went today had an hour visit got diagnosed with all sorts of things
 
Most psychiatrists deal with anxiety and depression. So you don't need one that specializes in say, eating disorders or trauma, etc. (as far as you've said). That's good because you have a lot of choices, but bad because you'll might have to search a bit for someone you really like. Make an appointment, factor in if you care if it's a male or female (or any other preference), and use the first visit to explain what you need and ask him/her questions and see if you like the approach. Then go home, don't make another appointment right away unless you are totally sure you like the person. The psychiatrist may even tell you to think about it... both my psychiatrist and therapist told me to call them if I wanted another appointment and didn't press to get a followup right away. That's how it should be in my opinion. Give it a day or two to settle... and if you don't think it'll work with the first one, make another appointment with someone else, and repeat. If it's a solo or small practice, you may be able to get a few questions done over the phone.

Personally, and this is just my preference, I like going to doctors that are in their own office or that at least have about three doctors/therapists or less. I feel like I'm just a diagnosis if it's in and out, one after the other. But that's just me. It took me a while to find a therapist I liked, I think I went to five or six people before I found the one I liked. I also had a therapist before this, and she was good for what I needed when I was really suicidal and needed to go inpatient for trauma treatment. She got me there, and through the month or so before I could go. I was self harming, but I made it. But when I learned a lot inpatient, I realized she wouldn't be any good anymore for what I was going to need to talk about. Doing something like saying "hey, it's not working out" is really hard for me to do, but it was important and she was very nice about it and I think she kind of realized I needed someone else, anyway. My therapist suggested the psychiatrist I go to, and he is perfect for what I need.

Sorry for the long post. Good luck with finding a doc.
 
Starting Prozac today, it has been years (close to 10) since I have taken any. Also, I do not know how legitimately I took them back then. I was more interested in being able to roll rather then take the pills :/

Anyways hopefully it works, I exercise and eat very healthy. I'm hoping this can help me cut back on the drinking and smoking as well.

Really need to get my shit together. I need to leave the city I am in, get a job and live on my own. I am hoping the Prozac is a temporary thing until I get my shit straightened out and setup.
 
So far, so good. I did feel a bit different today, and have dry mouth other then that its fine.

Its gotta be placebo, but I am feeling less of a craving for Alcohol. Sadly, I will have to have one or two so I can sleep tonight as I have to work tomorrow. I know about the SSRI and Alcohol combination and know that I have to keep it low.
 
Okay, so my doctor and my counselor tell me to keep a diary and write my thoughts in there. Yeah, that helped a lot. Now I actually feel worse. WTF? It just made me realise how alone I am. No support or compassion. I'm starting to perk up a bit but that writing was simply bleak.
 
Just found out I'm bipolar II which I kinda expected. Sometimes I get all this crazy energy, and I don't know where to put it.
 
Hope everyone is doing okay today and is able to push through for at least another 24 hours.

I'm having an insanely hard time with my depression at the current moment. I'm irritable, stressed, even crying all the time. I have the tendency to allow things to build up and build up inside me before I explode. I try to make sure everyone else is okay and will act happy as long as it protects someone else.

I need to start living for myself and I can't. I'm so out of energy, I feel emotionally and physically drained. I just wish I could sleep eternally sometimes.

I'm here for anyone who needs someone to talk to, ask questions to, or anything. I know how it is and believe me; I need someone too.
 
Does anyone here ever not know when they do or don't have depression? I have some days where I feel as if I don't have it and then other days are the dump days. I guess as you live with this peice of shit for 20 years it sort of becomes your identity or am I missing something here?
 
Hi all,

I have thought of a good idea which may be able to assist us fellow depressed people in terms of resolving issues. Am thinking we could create a list of the things we have identified that can help us to beat it or make it easier.

My List
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1. Eating healthy is key

2. Drinking and drugs should be a no no

3. Sometimes we get upset over the things some people have said however have you stopped to ask yourself that maybe that person is as depressed as you or just plain insecure

4. Exercising can do wonders

5. Sometimes we have to accept that this is it rather than seeking more of something we think should be there

6. Accept the situation for what it is to create a plan to get out of it

7. Don't be afraid to call and tell someone

8. Don't bottle it in, I never told people I was depressed until recently and it feels like as if I have something off my shoulders or can finally deal with the problem now

9. Surround yourself with positive things (Environment and Literature), it doesn't take long for the depression to build up from this.

10. Be kind to yourself, accept it's not your fault and look for a solution

11. Treat everything as a task rather than as a problem, your headspace will be a lot more clearer and you won't be as stressed.

12. Acknowledge that things can be viewed through different perspectives. When in doubt invision what someone else would think about the situation.

13. Apply some Socratic Dialogue and ask yourself, what do you think - not what anyone else thinks. Sometimes this voice gets forgotten about in the midst of all the filthy depression.

Hope this helps and would be interested to see what other peoples lists are. Maybe when we get enough entries we can submit it to one of the psychology journals and have it published as a short article?
 
^^ This is an excellent list noonoo, thanks so much for sharing. Now that I think about it, whenever I'm subconciously adhering to rules such as this, everything seems to be going really well for me and I'm happy and I feel good about myself. So it's true.
The main one that seems to be most important for me is exercise. Whenever I'm regularly exercising, I'm drinking less alcohol, I look more fit and toned so I feel better about myself, and the endorphins released during the exercise act as natural anti-depressants so I hardly ever feel depressed. There's a lot to be said for it <3
 
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