Dealing with friends who make a*hold comments

[JD55]

If you've been keepin quiet then she probably thinks its ok and not a big deal. Now if you've said something politely and shes still talking thats when you tell her to shut the fuck up.

 

[watermelonsugar]

I work in a preschool. An adult working with 5 year olds we are instructed calmly respond to inappropriate statements from children, constructively! Next time she makes a rude statement, ask her nicely "why do you feel that my hair sucks? what could I change to make you happy?" and then maybe explain in a short and fixed response "It hurts my feelings when you say these things about my hair. How would you feel if I reminded you how ugly your hair is" "please, don't be rude. Thanks "

^^^
This. Force her to evaluate why she makes the statements she does.

 

[Eyes On the Roll]

That is a very constructive post carlenacel. I will definitely take that in to consideration. I would like nothing more than to make my insulter feel like a preschooler by belittling him/her by talking to them as if they didn't match up to my intelligence. That would bring me so much joy. I'll put that into action, the next time someone does such a thing to me.

 

[SM0K3Y]

Ohhhhhhh she likes you!!!!











(semi srs- very much plausible)

 

[rakeone]

I hope this girl is DOWN by now

 

[Josair]

I knew a girl like that - she was in the workgroup I was visiting and she was all to eager to embarrass me, even in front of the supervisor. I discussed this with other lab mates first and we decided that she just did not know how to behave in social situations (lol).
So the question is: is the girl actually aware of the embarrassment/discomfort that her comments create? Maybe she just completely lacks social intelligence (btw, I would still avoid her even if 'it is not her fault')