Dating an injection drug user.

[jlengland]

im an ex IVDU . i hope that i will someday find someone who understands and accepts me for who i am and the things i have done in the past. i got tested 6 months ago and plan on getting tested sometime this week to be 100 percent sure i am not positive for anything. its been a year on dec 18th since ive IVed and the worry is still there.

 

[tackyspiral]

ok i am a female and am an on again off again iv drug user
first off let me say i do not use dirty points it isnt that difficult to be safe with it as far as thats concerned
next every time i have gotten together with a man who also does that it has turned into a trainwreck and fast very fast
last when i am not doing that stuff i think i am a great girl but when i am i just dont see a man who doesnt do that stuff truly attracted to me because in my opinion i become rather unattractive in multiple ways

 

[Noodle]

/bump

live, learn....

 

[tackyspiral]

ok i am a female and am an on again off again iv drug user
first off let me say i do not use dirty points it isnt that difficult to be safe with it as far as thats concerned
next every time i have gotten together with a man who also does that it has turned into a trainwreck and fast very fast
last when i am not doing that stuff i think i am a great girl but when i am i just dont see a man who doesnt do that stuff truly attracted to me because in my opinion i become rather unattractive in multiple ways

now i feel like an idiot i thought i was being safe and it turns out i have hep c yah don't date a current iv drug user ever

 

[1lost]

As a addict I avoid all personal relationships as they wouldn't be seeing the real me, it's the saddest part, I'm afraid they would be seeing/loving a "high" side of me.I was a pretty good person before I got into all this, still am underneath but the thought of putting anyone thru my problems is to selfish, I wonder if all addicts think about that.
So no wouldn't do it. Love the The topic.

 

[Coolio]

The risk of disease is very real. Now, many IV users are incredibly hygienic and practice safe injecting technique. I would not be able to determine this has been the case when I first meet a user. They may use safe methods now, but what about a month ago? Did they share a prick out of a moment of desperation and contract something nasty? Will it be passed onto me? Sure they could get a test, but it may not show everything.

Uh, what's it not going to show? That's nonsense. It doesn't matter what someone's behavior in the past was like, there's no disease risk if you see test results before initiating sex. That's the same standard you should have for anyone, whether they are or were an IV drug user or not.

 

[helium-4]

I don't think I'd allow myself to be in a relationship while still injecting drugs.

 

[Pagey]

I wouldn't date one because of all the complications but I have to say I have a weird thing where I find it hot if a guy IV's (if I'm into him, that is). But that's only if the marks are relatively discreet and don't become all infected or all that stuff...that I'd have a problem with.

 

[Coolio]

I wouldn't date one because of all the complications but I have to say I have a weird thing where I find it hot if a guy IV's (if I'm into him, that is). But that's only if the marks are relatively discreet and don't become all infected or all that stuff...that I'd have a problem with.

Yeah I have a needle fetish too, and I like to date girls who also do. They're not that hard to find, either. It's pretty sexy watching me filter 16mg of Dilaudid, 150mg 4-MMC, 40mg ketamine through a micron filter and big syringe, then use a second syringe with virgin needle to suck the filtered solution up; then wash my arm with alcohol and hydrogen peroxide, hit one of the ropey protruding veins on my elbow crease or bicep, bang it all as fast as possible for the maximal rush, and then make orgasm noises after I pull out without leaving a track mark.

 

[InDireNeedofU]

I was in a 5 year relationship with an IV user who also had HIV and HepC. He exposed me to a whole world i never knew existed of hard drugs and the wonderful feelings that accompany them. We moved in together and had a wonderful relationship. He was upfront about his condition right from the start, and I loved him enough to look past it. We were safe in every aspect of our sexual relationship. We never injected in the same room, I even had my "safe room" where only my paranoid self could use. We eventually both got on methadone, and throughout our relationship I did not contract his diseases.
Now, the only downside to this is that 2 years after we mutually ended our relationship, he passed away from pneumonia (the HIV lowered his immune system so badly it killed him), and now I have to live with this. It is hard not to think of the "what ifs". What if he stopped taking his meds after we broke up? What could I of done to help if we were still together? Did he start using again? The guilt I feel is unreal. I know he was an adult and made his own choices, but it still hurts knowing what he went through by himself.
So in short, yes I have dated an IV user and he was a wonderful man, but make sure they are upfront about their condition if they have one, and if they do, how far along they are in their illness. Iif you aren't an IV user already, the temptation is overwhelming and can defeat you rather quickly when you constantly see someone else injecting.

 

[Swimmingdancer]

I think a lot of people forget that all IV drug users are different! Just like any other human beings! The other thing is that you can't ever know everything about someone or know that they are drug and disease free and trustworthy, or how a relationship with them will go, even if they are not an IV drug user. Do not judge someone solely based on whether or not they are an IV drug user. Get to know them and make them feel comfortable being honest with you. I used to use IV heroin for around 10 years and NEVER shared needles. Not everyone with an IV drug addiction is totally reckless, has a disease, is using huge amounts and likely to OD, or is going to rob you. Yet I have dated people who were not IV drug users (or weren't even drug users at all) who abused me, stole from me, lied to me all the time, had STDs, did dangerous things that made me worry about them, etc. Every person is different and you can't make assumptions about them solely based on whether or not they inject drugs to your knowledge.

Having said that, there are some challenges with being in a relationship with a person who has a drug or alcohol problem or any other addiction. But that can be anyone, not just someone who uses needles.