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Daddy issues....Relationship suffering

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jessea

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i have always had trust issues in my relationships with men. I have a lot of guy friends but as soon as i enter a relationship i cannot trust the guy to save my
life.

Its gotten worse as I have gotten older. I believe that my boyfriend is cheating and everything he does or says i can come up with some story in my head or
images of what he is doing or something.

for example: he tells me he is going to mow the lawn. I think its some excuse to contact another girl. now come on, can't i just think, "he is mowing the lawn"?

I got stuck in a whole of thoughts that he was up to no good the other day....i was down there for days...i ended up moving out of his house cause it wasn't
fair on anyone...I have done some research and it seems it may be because my dad left when i was 2. he is a complete ass....He cheated on my mum...

does anyone else think like this?
 
I have the same problem! The man that I am with now had just got out of a relationship with a girl and I had dated her brother in the past. . And now she seen me contacting her brother. Then threw a fit because it was unfair for me to speak to him but my boyfriend not be aloud to talk her without me being uncomfortable. Which is interesting because me and my boyfriend had discussions about having opposite sex friends in the beginning and everything was fine. But now ever since that text from her I have this sleep with one eye open feeling and it is driving me nuts. Because I never felt that way before she did that and I fear its growing a distance now.
 
I would suggest seeing a counselor or psychologist about this, as it is obviously very detrimental to your relationships to be in this frame of mind.

It could be related to your father, and it also may not be. Hash it out with a professional and see what you come up with.
 
I would be careful of what you believe when you read it on the Internet. If you think it's that bad, you should do like Mel said and speak to someone about it.

Unfortunately, the dating game is filled with cheaters and liars, but you can be smart without being paranoid. What I try to remember is that even if I just left a bad relationship, a new guy is not the same person. However, you can still listen to your gut.

We aren't doctors, so you should definitely see someone if you feel it is out of control.
 
I'm with the people who have suggested talking with a doctor. With such an unhealthy state of mind it's going to be impossible for you to keep a healthy relationship. The very foundation of a relationship is trust and you don't have that then your relationship can't withstand anything and it just crumbles. It sounds like you have some very serious insecurities to deal with and honestly, I don't think you should be in a relationship with anyone right now. It's not fair to your partner, especially if he hasn't done anything to warrant your trains of thought.

Speak to a professional asap.
 
Sometimes we deal with unpleasant feelings and realities by projecting our own thoughts and fears unto a partner or friend.

It just may be that you have some very deep set reservations about healthy and loving realtionships. I guess it may be hard to know a good honest and reciprical primary relationship without an example of one in your immediate family's past.

I am going to echo what has been said a few times up until this point: please see a caring professional.

:)
 
Definitely see a doctor. This is unhealthy and it won't get better unless you get help.

Best of luck <3
 
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